Everybody wants to be happy. It’s the most common goal hue man beings have and it’s simply because we live in a society where happiness comes last. People have been psychologically brainwashed into thinking that you have to work hard to be happy, be married or have a lot of money etc.
The journey to happiness is simply the journey to self, which is simply a self conscious lifestyle. Happiness is a lifestyle. You have to decide it and choose it over anything every single day. That’s where discipline comes in. Self discipline is self mastery.
How do you know if you’re mastering yourself? You know by the things you spend most of the time doing daily. By being accountable, observing your habits, thought processes and being in tune with your true nature. It’s as delicate as taking care of a baby’s very unstable needs. It requires vulnerability and childlike imagination.
An author once said, “Happiness is like a butterfly: the more you chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder”.
If you’ve been looking for happiness, the good news is that your choices, thoughts and actions can influence your level of happiness. It’s not as easy as flipping a switch, but you can turn up your happiness level.
Below are a few steps to follow on the journey to happiness.
The first step is to make a conscious choice to boost your happiness. Then, cultivate the habit of gratitude.Make a commitment to practice gratitude. Each day identify at least one thing that enriches your life. When you find yourself thinking an ungrateful thought, try substituting a grateful one. For example, replace “My wife forgot my birthday” with “My wife has always been there for me during tough times.”
Practice exercise or yoga ——Try to include it in your daily routine . Practice yoga or exercise daily for 30 minutes at least in the morning . It will make you healthy and increase the oxygen level in the body. Health is wealth as they always say. The healthier you are the happier you become. You will feel more in tune with your body and more confident if you practice yoga or exercise daily. It helps to keep your mental and physical health up to the mark.
Meditate——— This is a very qualified way of keeping yourself happy and energetically high always. Once you know the proper technique and start doing it daily for 10-15 minutes, you will be at a different level than you are right now.
Cultivate the habit of forgiveness—— Holding a grudge and nursing grievances can affect physical as well as mental health. Learn to forgive, (practice makes better). Learn the art of letting go.
Practice unconditional love ——- Pretend you have an emotional bank account. Fill it with kind words and actions. Be careful and gracious with critique. Also, let people know that you appreciate what they do for you or even just that you’re glad they’re part of your life.
Practice being optimistic—- If you’re not an optimistic person by nature, it may take time for you to change your pessimistic thinking. Start by recognizing negative thoughts as you have them. Take note of them, then ask your self why you you feel or think that way ? Ask yourself does that serve your highest good.? Ask yourself if that makes you happy right now, does it benefit your creator ? . Then proceed to the opposite of those thoughts and repeat every time you catch yourself being negative.
Live in the present moment —- Don’t postpone joy waiting for a day when your life is less busy or less stressful. That day may never come. Instead, look for opportunities to savor the small pleasures of everyday life. Focus on the positives in the present moment, instead of dwelling on the past or worrying about the future.
Also, spending time with supportive friends, associates or family, cultivating a grateful attitude and an optimistic outlook, focusing on your purpose, and living in the present can help you take steps toward being happier.
The journey to happiness is the journey to your most authentic self. Rule no 1. Fuck what they think. Live your life and be happy. You absolutely deserve it!