GIVE IT YOUR ALL OR NOTHING

I’ve discovered that the difference between success and failure is giving and receiving. Everything is transactional. Just like the stock market, forex exchange etc. You decide how much you want to invest and know exactly how much you’re receiving. If you want to achieve anything, you have to be specific of how much you’re willing to sacrifice and there are two things involved here :

1. Acceptance- What ever it takes requires accepting the facts, the possibility. You have to be willing to let go of control and accept what is on the table. Accepting is a two way street. It is letting go and also being in control at the same time.

2. Believe — As the word says “be- live. What does it mean to be-lieve? Believing simply means knowing and accepting. It is unwise to do something you know nothing of isn’t it ? You have to first believe it is possible! This requires GUTS. You have to be courageous and as you know it is a risk. You cannot achieve something you don’t believe is possible. It’s common sense.

When you get to realize that success is a trade and you have to give to get. Then the next question is how bad do you want it ?

Are you willing to go all the way ? To give your all or nothing ? Or do you have fears and doubts that it might not work due to previous experiences, self sabotage, or even fear of actually accomplishing it? These are all forms of control and success doesn’t like control. It likes flow.. surrender.

Take a look at the most successful people you know, or observe, they usually are people that just do whatever they want, dress however they choose, wear whatever they want, and everyone adores their principles. They are mostly school dropouts ( remember you can only drop out of school if you are courageous ). Fearful people will be scared to even dare to miss tests and exams because they are followers not leaders who can do whatever they want. But guess what? Society teaches the opposite. You have to follow the rules to be successful. Whose rules by the way ? “The successful people’s rules”. Isn’t that ridiculous?

You are all that there is. There are billions of cells everyday in your body that are working non stop to keep your digestive, respiratory, reproductive, nervous and all other systems in you alive and healthy. What does that make you ? A boss ! You are the boss of your life. Choose yourself ! Give your all or nothing so that the cells working tirelessly without pay inside you will be more than excited to work even better because you will be making them happy.

Time waits for no one. We don’t have much time left so don’t waste it.Be picky how you spend your time. Be mindful who you invest your time in. Remember, wasted time is worse than wasted money. You can recover money, but once time is wasted. It’s gone ! That time becomes lost forever.

Give it all that you’ve got. Place a bet on yourself. Go all or nothing. Because it’s either you’re alive or dead. There is no in between. Invest your all into your happiness. It’s the best decision you will ever make in this lifetime.

Imagine a life where all the decisions are intentionally made by you. So you’re fully aware of the consequences of your actions and not because it’s a rule made by your fellow human being of equal organs in their body just as you. That is the life you deserve. Think deeply about all the times you could have done something different but didn’t because of rules”, laws etc. Not encouraging you to go breaking laws. But inviting you to begin making decisions that are self thought, self conscious, self dependent and transform your entire existence.

Wake up from the spell you’ve been under and claim your power back. It’s time to grow some balls! Give it your all or if you rather, give it your nothing. The choice is yours.

Surrender

All man’s troubles come from not knowing how to sit still in one room.

It took for me to loose my past identity and everything i thought i had wanted, to awaken to the FACT that what will be, will be. The most recurring commentary i kept thinking was some version of “this isn’t how it was supposed to happen.” I had achieved so much so early in life, lost too much and worked so hard. I should have been wealthy, successful, happy. Instead, I was a mess.

When I stopped fighting with my situation, my scope and options for positive action became crystal clear, and at that point I had a revelation and this was, there is only one thing I’m in full control of – The little space in life that I actually could control—me. I realized i am all i ‘CAN‘ control.

Letting go is a practice, requiring discipline, focus, and embracing open vulnerability as a path to strength rather than shame. It takes time to get good at it, and there is no room for perfectionism.

A key element of letting go is recognizing the presence of what might be called a pathological need. Many times pathological needs stem from traumatic experiences, efforts to negate or undo childhood maltreatment or deprivation.

In many cases, pathological needs stem from unhealthy narcissistic adaptations to unresolved developmental experiences with caregivers who did not meet basic needs required to develop a secure sense of self.

Sometimes it takes real effort to do nothing and simply be in the experience. Especially because most of us want control, and we feel the need to be in charge of every aspect of our lives, especially at junctures when we perceive that our present circumstances are under the threat of change.

When there is nothing to do, do nothing.

The Daoists have a name for this: wu-wei. Wu-wei is non-doing. Action through inaction. The Dao De Ching suggests, “Through nonaction nothing is left undone.”

When we do this, we’re truly living in the present. And we open up the scope for lasting and transformational change, secure in the knowledge that our journey is as individual as we are and that whatever comes next is meant to be.

We start to appreciate the moment in front of us, fully. There is something immensely awesome about the moment in front of us, if we stop trying to change it, trying to control it, trying to have it conform to our idea of how things should be. Just as it is, it’s worthy of our appreciation, gratitude, love.

There is power in letting go. It’s a form of release and self trust. It creates a bond that’s basically unexplainable.

Surrendering is giving up control and this is something I am now becoming good at doing. Have you ever had to try so hard to make something work and it just wouldn’t ? It feels like something is tying up your mind and you can’t break loose. It is absolutely devastating. It’s a control problem.

When you surrender and let things be, you feel more relaxed and you become the observer. You are only able to do this when you realize you are not always in control and this is a form of enlightenment itself.

“Surrender to what is. Say ‘yes’ to life and see how life suddenly starts working for you rather than against you.” ~Eckhart Tolle

The ability to surrender is a gift not everyone has access to, especially Narcissists. For instance, a Narcissist wouldn’t be able to not be in power, they become sick and irritating. It becomes hell for them. Their power is in the ability to be obsessed and possessive over their preys which most of the time are empaths. This is a dynamic that exists not only individually, but societally, in relationships, religion itself is narcissistic not to talk of globally.

That aura of negativity or hopelessness that comes with a failure to surrender is, to be blunt, a real turn off for most people. If you want to be the change you want to see in this world and inspire others to a cause, the angry warrior type is probably not going to work.

Maya Angelou once said, “What you’re supposed to do when you don’t like a thing is change it. If you can’t change it, change the way you think about it. Don’t complain.” If you’re still complaining or not accepting the reality, how can you change that reality? You’re probably still stuck in the complaining phase.

We are now in the season of Aquarius ♒️ which is all about freedom. It is a season of surrendering. Power has exchanged hands, there is change in the air. Esoterically, the rivers are beginning to unclog and flow. Everything and everyone will begin seeing things for what they are. This will be a period of huge revelations when things become revealed, the shadow disappears and everything comes to light. It’s best to Surrender and let go. What is meant to be, will. You have no control over it.

The real secret key to surrendering or letting go is an art of allowing. A non-attached relationship is healthy, strong and filled with effortless love, compassion and kindness. Once we let go and enter a compassionate personal space, everything else is re-contextualized. When you surrender, you interrupt the emotional feedback loop, it’s just like turning down the volume or clicking mute stops feedback on a video call. This changes everything!

Surrender sounds lame to many people, or perhaps scary. It’s the opposite of what we are constantly trying to do — we are always seeking control, because we don’t like uncertainty.

Personally, nowadays, I can’t say that I immediately accept all that comes my way, but my willingness to surrender to life is a priority, it certainly makes the journey more joyful. And, when you have joy, you are more likely to achieve the end you seek, or better yet, find peace in the journey regardless of the destination.

True inner peace and power actually starts when you let go and surrender. Remember, tomorrow never comes. the time is now .


Everyday is a test

If you thought that life’s tests were over when you finished school, guess again. There are so many tests in life, and they can be much more difficult than biology or physics. And there isn’t that much homework we can do to prepare for these kinds of tests, either. When we pass life’s tests, we discover that we do have that inner strength after all.


In school you are taught a lesson and given a test, in life you are given a test and taught a lesson.

Have you ever wondered what the purpose of your life is? Common answers are “happiness,” financial success”, true ❤ or “satisfaction.” While these are all worthwhile goals, I say the purpose of your life is to face head on, every challenge, every test, as a chance for you to become the person you are meant to be. Life is a test for you to be and become your best and highest self.

When you face the tests of life, learn from them and grow with them, you become that person. The tests of life require you to call on the inner resources residing deep inside you.

In life you are given a test that teaches you a lesson and it turns out to be that everyday is a TEST. Every moment there is a new challenge, ( which is always an opportunity).

In my local language we say “ problem no dey finish”, which means there is always something else after this. We have to find our way in the world, and all along we face tests of physical illness, mental troubles, financial reversals, unfulfilled expectations, and loss.

Life is indeed a test of many things, our faith & faithlessness, our convictions & priorities, our endurance & patience, and in the very end, our ultimate desires.

The way of a true spiritual life actually begins where we are now in the mess of our lives.

We’ve lost touch with our souls. We’ve been nourishing our minds, our relational skills, our theological knowledge, our psychological well-being, our physiological health… but we’ve abandoned our souls. ‘Mike Yaconelli.’

The most powerful weapon on earth is a human soul that’s on fire! Ignite that spark by recognizing the lessons of all you had to go through to be where you are right now.

On the video below, i talked about how to recognize the tests so you don’t have to repeat the lessons in order to graduate to the best and highest version of YOU!