Self Judgment

We live in a world of control. A world that requires push and pull, as in, it requires gravity to exist. It’s no wonder why we are always at war with ourselves. However, we must learn to be in control of ourselves, what concerns us, what matters to us in our everyday lifestyle, not just personally, but environmentally, universally.

We must learn to find balance in the chaos, no matter how overwhelmed you might be. The fact is, you have every reason to be here right now and if you are reading this right now , and it happens to be that you find yourself confused, doubting, or listening to that criticizing voice in your head, critiquing your life, telling you what you can and cannot say or do, you have the power to transform the energy to love. No matter what you may be experiencing, do not judge yourself. It’s happening for a reason plus that is not your duty, it’s not your responsibility. Your responsibility is, to “Do as you may in alignment with your conscience” and let the rest play out.

Stop criticizing yourself. Choose self love. If you love yourself, others will love you, if you judge and criticize yourself, others will judge and criticize you. It is what it is. You should know that whenever you judge yourself, you insert fear into your aura and that lowers your vibration, your battery life, your electro magnetic voltage. Look at it like a phone fully charged, and the more you interact with the phone the battery life reduces, for instance, fear would be like an app, Instagram or maybe a game you’re used to playing on the phone, your battery weakens way faster because of the amount of energy the app has and the time you spend on it. Your daily energy and lifespan increases or reduces based on what you do every day. So, be nice to yourself, be kind, practice self love instead of self judgement.

As it turns out, there are so many different things happening in our society today, distracting, upsetting and emotionally controlling people. As a result, anxiety, depression, fear, self doubt, criticism, self judgment and different types mental issues gradually begin to flood in.. It is your duty to be responsible for what you think, eat and do because you are a part of the universe, a part of the whole and if you do your duty, others will do theirs and on and on.. Then, in little or no time the world will become light again, even better than we have imagined. It will be the change we’ve been collectively working on.

The dark night of the soul

Have you ever felt alone and lonely in your universe ? Felt like everything was totally meaningless?, like you had no sense of direction, unable to bear going through the motions and feelings you’re experiencing like you have lost all hope? Like your alive but barely. You could be going through a ‘Dark Night of the Soul’

This is a deeply miserable and hurtful process of growth that a lot people go through unaware and come out the other side a more conscious and ripe individual. It is more like shedding your skin but on the inside of your mind. It is the war within yourself and that’s scary but it really is your ego dissolving itself.

The dark night of the soul goes really deep and it is a also a major turning event in the person’s life. This is a stage in personal and spiritual development when a person undergoes a difficult but very significant transition (more like a spiritual surgery) to a deeper perception of life and their role in it. (You know that moment when you start asking why certain things happen to you? Who are you ? Why you’re here?, Well this is when you get the answers.) This enhanced awareness is accompanied by a painful shedding of previous conceptual frameworks such as identity, relationship, career, sometimes weight, habit or belief system that previously allowed them to construct meaning in their life.

The Dark Night of the Soul might sound unfamiliar but it certainly has various relative conceptions in religion, psychology and mythology. Sometimes, it could be associated with conditions like ‘existential crisis’ and forms of depression. It literally is a form of spiritual depression.

Within the dark night of the soul, you’re facing your flaws. You’re facing everything that you view as being unhealthy about yourself, all your negative self talk, selfishness, your greed, contempt, pride, hate, jealousy. You’re tackling all of these issues and it’s hard to face that we have them. Yet, by accepting that we have this part of ourselves (and we all do) you’re acknowledging areas of your own being that require work. This is you at your darkest so if you can face these problems, identify them and come out to the Light on the other side, then you already know exactly what areas need to be worked on.

What’s happening during this period is, the old meaning and identity that your ego gave your life and it’s structure is melting away and when something melts/dissolves the temperature changes. So it hurts you, but in reality your soul is releasing itself and expanding to it’s truest nature.

Facing the dark night of the soul symptoms isn’t an experience that will do you any physical harm. It happens for you and of you. It is something that’s happening go-creatively with the universe. It’s entirely a spiritual battle…and it’s a battle with yourself. The only person you are facing is you but it’s not the cheery, open, happy version of you. It’s the opposite, the dark version. The version of you that lives in the shadows and is kept at bay by energy from the Light. .This is where you’re facing your subconscious. I know it might all sound a bit intense but this is where the therapeutic aspect of this very painful transformative experience becomes clear.The famous saying: “what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger” comes to mind in this situation.

Are you currently experiencing it? Do you feel empty like you’re having an ego death and life’s pleasure doesn’t do it for you any longer? You might feel like you’re on the wrong path and you may have to start all over and that makes you feel completely different and confused. You’re not alone. There are millions of people who feel the same or have in the past. Remember it’s happening to you, by you for you. Let it unfold don’t try to control it. It’s simply your soul setting itself free. Feel free to share your experience in the comments below. So we could help you with tips on how to navigate onward.

How to overcome anxiety

Hi Royalties, I send love and warmth your way especially during this weird times. I know a lot of people are feeling the heat right now including myself but I also know that everything that has a beginning has an end. These times have called for taking a step back and re -evaluating but most importantly I believe we are being called to deeply relax and allow nature take its refreshing course irregardless of what’s going on.

There is so much tension in the air .. but on earth there is so much transformation going on. Anxiety and depression usually comes with times like this. Fear comes in different forms and anxiety is one of them.However, to overcome anxiety is to first be aware of the root cause and then take adequate measures to get out of that energy.

Anxiety is simply putting in so much percentage level-on what you should do or shouldn’t do. One of the main reasons one might be experiencing anxiety is observing and caring too much about the reactions of others,loss of reputation, being restricted in any way shape or form etc”. Anxiety usually stems from being in a “box” for too long . That energy could be sticky which makes you unable to move freely. Then panic, doubt, fear, anxiety sets … and of course,makes you very nervous. For instance,you’re locked up with in a boundary/ restriction/limit. (This could be just about your location or people you’re around). Here’s the thing anxiety comes from you not thinking you’re doing the right thing within that environment or thinking too much about not being right because of the people around and vice versa.

Understand that there is no right or wrong! It is only your perspective! So if you think you’re doing something not right, it’s obviously because you think someone else feels it isn’t or something around you is making you feel that way … this could be on a micro or macro scale.

Basically, anxiety is you thinking too much about what you’re observing and thinking what you’re doing is not right” ( remember there is no right or wrong ).. so this could be about the way people act compared to how you act. The first mistake here is that what’s wrong for you maybe right for someone else ..and what’s right for someone could be wrong for you— “Perspective”. So stop comparing!

To overcome anxiety, you have to understand your perspective, which usually is the root cause and then express why you feel that way. When one becomes anxious, it means you’re not being (living) in the present moment. You are worrying about the future” what hasn’t happened. While depression is simply being “deeply pressed over a situation”- which is related to living in the past.

Below are my few steps to help you overcome anxiety.

1-Practice breathing exercises using a countdown to keep you stable.

2-Take a cold shower.

3-Re-direct your energy and do something totally unusual to you as this helps you break free from that mental prison.

4- Stop censoring what you say or do ( do not put restrictions on your self ).

5- Practice spending time with people who treat you well.

6- Treat yourself like like someone you’re in love with.

7- Believe you can heal.

Stay calm, breathe and stay optimistic. Everything changes. You can get through it. Yes you can!

Till the next read..