The transformational power of crying

In our society today there tends to be an underlying assumption that emotions are negative, and more specifically that crying is weakness, being ‘childish’ or giving into negativity. Some folks believe it’s something that is meant to be hidden, controlled or suppressed. But in reality, tears hold a special kind of power to cleanse your mind, reconnect the head and heart and realign you with the power of your soul.

Even the very popular and widely accepted “scientific studies” have validated this and shown that people do feel better after a good cry. Crying is a powerful way to let go of sadness and anger, past hurts, grief and wounds.

When you cry, it’s your body’s natural response to whatever challenging emotion has appeared in your inner space.

Crying is an act of physical, and emotional detoxification. Think of each tear as a physical representation of sadness and stress that you’re now letting go of.

If you stop yourself from crying, and don’t use some other technique to release the sadness or ‘clogged stress’ within it can and will build up to a point of depression, or overwhelm.

So if you feel like crying… Let the tears flow. Have a good cry, experience this powerful form of release, detox, unclogging and let it go.

Crying is an essential part of the healing process. 

Sometimes, due to the idea of always being strong, we forget that our bodies contain 70% percent of water which needs to move. Water is not in a solid state. It requires motion. So if you do not allow it, it will create another way to flow. Remember this, if you go through life withholding your deepest worries and sadness. These build up and affects the other major areas of our life subconsciously. It might even manifest as crying in the dream state or waking up feeling very emotional.

Have you ever woken up from a dream crying?

Perhaps you are grieving a loss and are uncomfortable crying publicly. Sometimes we believe being strong means having a stiff upper lip and holding our emotions inside. Our bodies know when we need to release the pain, waking up crying let’s the emotions escape through our tears. This happened to me when I was grieving the loss of a loved one. I didn’t realize how badly I needed to grieve and let go until I became conscious of the necessity to grieve, accept and let go.

Crying is your body’s release valve for stress, sadness, grief, anxiety and frustration. We can have tears of joy, say when a child is born or tears of relief when a difficulty has passed. Personally, I use crying as a healing tool and I am indeed very grateful when I cry because I know its power regardless of the reason. It’s a cleansing way to purge stuck emotions often held in my body. To stay healthy and release stress, I encourage my clients to cry. I use this during psychotherapy and aura cleansing as well. Tears can help people heal from hurtful psychological experiences in life, just as there are natural body processes that promote physical healing.

You may have released all the grief, or there may be more to come. Either way, when you wake up crying, it is good and healing. (Don’t you always feel much better after a cry?) Even if you don’t remember the dream, rest assured that tears are better out than in, and although you may become more aware, in the next few days, of a past event that caused you grief, you are well on the way to finally letting it go and moving on.

Crying has a purpose. 

Sometimes when we stay strong for a very long time and just suppress all our pain and emotions our body sends us a signal. Your tears is the way your body talks to you. It happens during emotional meltdown, high anxiety or depression. It is OK to cry and to be sad. We are not robots and embracing our sadness is the most empathetic act of love we could take towards ourselves.

“There is a sacredness in tears. They are not a mark of weakness, but of power. They speak more eloquently than ten thousand tongues. They are the messengers of overwhelming grief, of deep contrition and of unspeakable love.”

~ Washington Irving

Scan back over all your experiences of crying, and you’ll notice that they’re quite varied, not just in your reasons for crying, but in the quality of the cry itself, and in the effect that crying had on you. Was it one of those cries that left you feeling much better afterwards: relieved, lighter, less sad, more free? Or did it make you feel even worse, like you wish you had just managed to keep it contained and not cry at all?

High-quality crying is crying that maximizes crying’s healing effects. 

Society has totally brainwashed our men into perceiving tears as a sign of weakness and its only meant for women. Perhaps ‘boys don’t cry’, or you were advised to ‘keep a stiff upper lip’, or you accepted a hurtful situation as normal or something to be endured, so you packed grief away, out of sight. Or perhaps the only way to get through a situation was to pretend to yourself that it wasn’t happening, or wasn’t important, or that you were coping wonderfully, or needed to smile for others, or that you had already healed.

These, and other forms of denial, are like Band-Aids. They work on the surface, but the deeper wound still hurts, affecting how you live your life.

One day the grief finally breaks through – perhaps accompanied by a dream of a dam bursting, or a tsunami breaking – and you wake up crying.

If you can remember your dream, look for clues about your grief, as understanding the past will help you to accelerate your healing.

Crying is liberating. Sometimes, when we watch a sad movie, it’s inevitable not to cry. This is because, without realizing it, we release all the tensions and frustrations of everyday life during crying. After a shower of tears we feel tired, but also pretty much lighter and calmer, isn’t it? But what does it mean waking up crying and dreaming about tears? Are we suffering from something? Could it be a bad omen? That’s what we’re going to talk about now.

What does it mean to wake up crying?


It depends on a lot of factors when we wake up crying, not remembering what happened in the dream, means that we have repressed hurts or some trauma that we urgently need to deal with. It’s time to take stock of your life and see what ails you so much, put an end to what is bad. Living with grief only brings more suffering and still delays our achievements and goals.

Dreaming of crying with happiness

Crying with happiness indicates that you need to let your intuition speak louder. Especially if you need to make an important decision, close your eyes and silence your reason for a while. Listen to your heart and the answer will come.

Dreaming that someone else is crying

This dream can mean a partnership with an innovative person, who will add a lot to your life. It can be a new love, a partner at work or a new friendship. The important thing is to take advantage of everything that this new relation can bring and let that grow together.

Dreaming of a crying child

If you dream that a child is crying, don’t worry. It’s not a bad sign. Quite the opposite. This indicates surprises on the way, both in love and family life. Who knows, maybe a baby will come to cheer the house.

Benefits of crying include:

Pain & Stress Relief 

Mood Enhancing 

Grief Buster 

Emotional Stability 


You may need to learn to cry again

For many of us, gaining access to tears at all is a challenge. 

If, as a man, you want to reclaim crying, or if you want to help a man reclaim his ability to cry, it helps to start slow. Learning to get back in touch with sad feelings requires that we slowly start to sense the sadness, and other feelings, as sensations in our bodies, and then to follow the impulses that those sensations produce.

Men feel just as much as women, though we often need to get back in touch with the feelings we’ve lost contact with — literally get back in touch with them. Making crying sounds and motions without tears can help you retrain your body to allow crying to take place.

There’s no rush, however. Taking the time to notice sadness without tears, and to give yourself room to feel it, can be just as important as crying.

So, let’s sum it up: what does crying do? It’s a self-cleansing mechanism that helps us recover from any kind of psychological distress. Why do we cry when we’re sad? To release ourselves from stress and toxins, and ultimately bring us back to tranquility. And why does crying make you feel better? Because crying releases endorphins, which are the ultimate healing power of tears. So remember: although you have to be strong in times of adversity, sometimes you just need a good cry in order to keep going. So whenever you feel like it, cry and release yourself!

If you feel like crying, don’t suppress it… Let your tears flow so you can purify your mind, body, and emotions of stress and negativity… On the other side is a new level of peace, love, and light.

Intention and Attention

You have the power to create a reality that excites you on every level. Through your intentions you can land your dream relationship, travel to places you thought you’d never go, and live a life that at one point may have felt out of reach. The possibilities are endless. But it’s not the intention alone that brews this seemingly magical power.

Intention is internal ( yin ) while attention is external (yang). Just another choice of words for Yin and yang. Intentions and goals are different. Intention is like a theme and goals are the ways to achieve that intention. For example, the intention can be to stay fit and healthy, the goal can be to run a 5 kilometre distance within half an hour daily.

An intention is the budding flower given life by all of the underlying thoughts, words, and actions in the rich soil below the surface. The attention is the energy and focus extended externally.

So, how do you start your regular day? Do you wake up with or without a goal or set specific intentions? For me, everyday is a new page, a new script. I set new intentions every single day. Sometimes the same intention for some days and I “pay attention” to the same thing by taking action.

If you have not been successful in manifesting what you want, then try and re-examine your intention. Sometimes double checking to ensure your intentions are correctly created can bring the results you desire.

Everything that happens in the universe begins with intention. When I decide to buy a birthday present, shake my legs , or call a friend, it all starts with intention.

WHAT IS INTENTION?


Intention is probably one of the most essential parts of healing, abundance, manifestation, personal and spiritual development. Your intention is a large determinator of any success or failure you experience. Intention is the blueprint of your experiences and the reality you create. The right intention and, more importantly, being aware of the intentions you are setting, is very essential.

WHAT IS ATTENTION?

Attention is defined as the act of concentrating and keeping one’s mind focused on something. However, alertness is the initial step in the attention process. If we are going to do something, or listen to someone, the first thing that we need is to feel alert. In other words, we need to feel like our battery is charged, like our brains have energy. Just the way our bodies need physical energy if we are going to run, our brains need mental energy if we are going to think.

Your intention and attention is the yin and yang. The internal and external. The very essence of life. While, Attention is awareness of the here and now in a focal and perceptive way. Paying attention is the first step in the learning and growth process.

In order to manifest anything at all,you must set an intention and focus your energy (pay attention) to that in order to bring it to life.

On the video below, I dived a bit deep into what intention and attention is and how we use it to manifest.

Please watch, learn and share to as many people as you would love to.

Till the next read.


The time is now!

Whether you’re aware or asleep, the time is now. Our planet has been split. A reset has occurred in the sky. Do you remember “As above so below”, well, it’s time to get ready for the “below” aka the reset, changes that will begin to happen on earth from all around the world.

A reset, is simply a do- over, more so start afresh. It is a Death and a rebirth at the same time. Think about it like rebooting your computer after a virus.

Everything that happens energetically/spiritually must happen physically as they are one and the same. The great reset, the rebirth, the beginning of a new dawn is here. Can you feel it in the air ? Jupiter and Saturn conjuncting at 0 degrees signifies a major restart button has been hit. People will begin to wake up, feeling different, stronger, fearless, joyful, carefree, collaborative,creative ,imaginative etc . On the dark side, a lot of people will be entering a new phase of a very long shadow work, self development and healing journey, government would do the extreme to hold their ground ( aka the old world ) which could lead to extremities, companies and industries coming together or crashing out of the blue, vaccines being made mandatory etc due to the vastness of the reset.

Everything is filtered through multi-layers. Like levels of coding for a game , the layers go deep. As you begin to become aware, you might get either really pissed or very very sad depending on your empathic battery life. No matter what level you are on spiritually, there are times where you feel like you’re the only one experiencing all that wisdom and downloads and knowledge, I assure you, you’re not the only one. There are many others out there who do not feel comfortable enough to share their truth, one way or the other we all go phases of awakening during our journey in this passage called life.

Would you rather wait till the next great conjunction or your next life to align with the truth of who and what you are ?

The world has begun its new regime. New air, new species, renewed vibration which I’m feeling to be distinctly different from what we’ve experienced the last decade. A woman is only pregnant for a period of time, eventually she delivers herself an offspring. Likewise, Mother Earth has been pregnant for quite some time now, going through hard labor, pains, and even malnutrition just as women have been ridiculed, Stepped on, trashed, maltreated and so on. They’ve been non- existent for a very long time in our 3D reality. Forgetting they are the reason we all exist. They are one in the same . Harmony is the answer.

We tend to forget the space we are currently holding is a feminine space. We are in the womb, the belly of the beast and the beast is ready to be out of the womb. As a divine feminine, I can feel it in the air already. The smell, the energy, the moods, the vibe..This is a very beautiful being we’re all consciously co-creating right now on the planet. It might take a minute to be very clear to the masses , however, the land must be cleansed for the baby to pop out. I.e We might be seeing many deaths, experiencing the extreme lows, maybe natural disasters, National drama and collective disagreements but that’s only to usher in the fruit of the womb, the new world, new type of leaders, creative and very innovative people teaming up,etc .. (Think of it as in “No pain no gain”.)

As I had written on my last post, The sky is falling, there are very serious wars going on in the sky, ships are clashing, fighting, collapsing, all on your behalf, the ancestors are doing what they do best, just as down below, authorities are being exposed, revealing the truths, on the bright side, this is enlightening the people, You are beginning to pay attention to your surroundings, your upbringings and your mindsets. Thing is, You have to decide where you belong. There or here ?, Nothing is predestined.Everything changes. This is the time to prepare and trust in nothing but yourself. The illusion is becoming very clear and the spell magicians are being exposed. When else will there be a better time for you to be your own magic?

The time is now. Embrace your demons as you embrace your angels. You’ll be needing them as one. Align with yourself as the stars and planets align for the greatest conjunction we’ve had in a very very longtime. Ignorance is the most expensive gift of mankind.

WAKE UP. THE TIME IS NOW

Self Expression

Are you free? Are you truly free to live or say whatever you want, whenever you want, however you decide? Can you express yourself without fear in totality? Are you REAL? Are you living according to your creators wish?

Most people are out here agreeing and accepting every thing that’s thrown at their faces like they don’t have a choice. This has got to stop. We need to express ourselves exactly how we want to. I hear, there is freedom of speech ( but I don’t hear about the consequences of speaking up). People fear to express themselves exactly how they should or exactly how they want to. Why, you may ask ? Well, BECAUSE THEY HAVE BEEN PSYCHOLOGICALLY BRAINWASHED into accepting that someone else should think for them plus there is the “hush hush” part about the consequences of self expression.

You know there’s more to life. You know you’re being called to do something greater.We’re a community of like-minded and evolved beings just like you on a mission to help you realize your maximum potential and free people from physical,mental and spiritual prisons. This is why Barisity.com is called a Sity of Royalties for true FREEDOM.

In recent times, people are waking up from this deep slumber and spells that’s being constantly cast on individuals right in front of their faces, through music, media, twisted history, traditions and cultures. Most of these things are being tweaked and passed along generations over and over again. Why do we accept this, some smart ones may be thinking ? Well, my brother and sister, THE POWER OF SELF EXPRESSION COMES WITH A PRICE!!

Consider that with every action and every choice you make, you are expressing some part of yourself. When you donate to a beggar, you’re expressing kindness. When you raise your voice at another, you’re expressing anger. It’s always about the intention behind the action, the energy behind the deed. Those who cook may have realized this. When we cook with love and care, our dish has a special feel to it. When we do not put effort into our cooking, the dish turns out mediocre and bland. Self-expression is the act of bringing something deep within us into observable form – the art of creation. The question is not whether we express ourselves, but what are we expressing? The more connected we are to ourselves, the more authentic our expression. The more authentic our expression, the more confident and attractive we become. Who are you, and what is your message to the world? As you uncover more and more of yourself, the core of who you are comes to the fore. Who you are begins to shine through in what you do.

So what exactly is self expression?

Let me start by telling you a dream of mine, about a decade ago, I had this recurring dream of someone holding my throat but an invisible someone, I open my mouth to scream with all the energy charged up in me yet not a single sound comes out when I think I’m making a very loud noise, then I get madder and try harder,same thing. It was very annoying at first because as a hueman being we all have “vocal cords” which are in charge of our sounds. So when I speak you should hear me because I’m communicating with you through a chord you and I both have. This dream kept going on and on for weeks until one day I got so pissed and I was just like you know what “IM DONE WITH THIS SHIT”!! Then I decided that when the time came I won’t scream with my outer voice but my inner voice. So I had the dream again, it was on a Saturday morning, I remember vividly how I tried using my right hand to find what’s holding back my voice and I made the loudest sound ever without using my voice. It was my inner voice. I screamed so loud inside my heart that not only did the feeling of my throat being held disappear but the feeling of fear, fear of trying something new completely vanished! All it did was make me uncomfortable for a sec. ( THE PRICE OF SELF EXPRESSION ).

Now, the moral of that story is this —— I had a voice I couldn’t use, out of fear of the unknown, I felt hooked, choked and scared to do what I ought to do but until I DECIDED NOTHING COULD STOP ME, I was helpless. I decided ! Then, I found another way and I didn’t care what happened, I just did it. (Let me tell you a secret, I had not the slightest clue what was going to happen, whether it was going to make an external sound or not). I just “KNEW” I had to do something instantly. The moral of this ??—— FOLLOW YOUR INSTINCTS. You might be wrong or right it doesn’t matter. Just do it!!

This dream made me a stronger and fearless leader because I realized so many things 10 years after. If you don’t use what the creator has given to you , it will be taken away from you. If you choose to be scared, it will be taken away from you, If you allow yourself to be bullied, it will be taken away from you . IF YOU HAVE SKILLS, TALENTS AND PASSIONS YOU DO NOT PURSUE, guess what ? It will be taken away from you. And it goes on and on ….. We all have the ability and the power to express ourselves exactly how we want to. Don’t allow the program that has been installed in your life continue being the driver of your decisions. TAKE CHARGE or be preyed upon. Your choice.

Self expression by definition is the Expression of one’s own personality, feelings, or ideas, as through speech or art. It is a vital piece of the puzzle that is fulfillment in life; Self expression allows us to be our best selves, reach our full potential, and make valuable contributions to the world we live in. It simply is when people show that they are different from everyone else. They may choose to express themselves by how they look, what they say, or by using different types of artistic ways to show you who they are.

This place is a community of people just like you, all seeking to achieve their dreams and support one another in that mission.

Here are some ways you can start expressing yourself. Courage is key! Dare to put yourself into what you do. You can choose one or do them all.

  1. Say what you really want to say
  2. Take a risk and do something you’ve been fantasizing about
  3. Take a picture
  4. Doodle something
  5. Freestyle journal
  6. Sing, rap, write, dance.

Allow yourself to suck at first. Give yourself permission to learn and grow. Take the pressure off and let yourself stretch your wings along the runway to mastery. Once you begin, you never know where your expressions will take you. I’ve always enjoyed mentoring, teaching, making music and writing, but never took my love for writing seriously until last year. Since then, the universe has been urging me to continue. Each time I think of giving up my writing, I would get a message from a reader telling me how my writing impacted them and how much they appreciated my writing. That’s the magic of self-expression: just by being who you are, you can inspire and heal others.

You owe it to yourself to achieve your dreams. Express yourself. NO ONE CAN DO IT EXACTLY HOW YOU CAN DO IT! Don’t let it get taken away from you. You have only one life to live.

You can choose to hire me to coach you on your own journey as well or help you HEAL YOURSELF from your traumas. I’m always available. Feel free to comment down below or send me an email. I’ve got you.