Surrender

All man’s troubles come from not knowing how to sit still in one room.

It took for me to loose my past identity and everything i thought i had wanted, to awaken to the FACT that what will be, will be. The most recurring commentary i kept thinking was some version of “this isn’t how it was supposed to happen.” I had achieved so much so early in life, lost too much and worked so hard. I should have been wealthy, successful, happy. Instead, I was a mess.

When I stopped fighting with my situation, my scope and options for positive action became crystal clear, and at that point I had a revelation and this was, there is only one thing I’m in full control of – The little space in life that I actually could control—me. I realized i am all i ‘CAN‘ control.

Letting go is a practice, requiring discipline, focus, and embracing open vulnerability as a path to strength rather than shame. It takes time to get good at it, and there is no room for perfectionism.

A key element of letting go is recognizing the presence of what might be called a pathological need. Many times pathological needs stem from traumatic experiences, efforts to negate or undo childhood maltreatment or deprivation.

In many cases, pathological needs stem from unhealthy narcissistic adaptations to unresolved developmental experiences with caregivers who did not meet basic needs required to develop a secure sense of self.

Sometimes it takes real effort to do nothing and simply be in the experience. Especially because most of us want control, and we feel the need to be in charge of every aspect of our lives, especially at junctures when we perceive that our present circumstances are under the threat of change.

When there is nothing to do, do nothing.

The Daoists have a name for this: wu-wei. Wu-wei is non-doing. Action through inaction. The Dao De Ching suggests, “Through nonaction nothing is left undone.”

When we do this, we’re truly living in the present. And we open up the scope for lasting and transformational change, secure in the knowledge that our journey is as individual as we are and that whatever comes next is meant to be.

We start to appreciate the moment in front of us, fully. There is something immensely awesome about the moment in front of us, if we stop trying to change it, trying to control it, trying to have it conform to our idea of how things should be. Just as it is, it’s worthy of our appreciation, gratitude, love.

There is power in letting go. It’s a form of release and self trust. It creates a bond that’s basically unexplainable.

Surrendering is giving up control and this is something I am now becoming good at doing. Have you ever had to try so hard to make something work and it just wouldn’t ? It feels like something is tying up your mind and you can’t break loose. It is absolutely devastating. It’s a control problem.

When you surrender and let things be, you feel more relaxed and you become the observer. You are only able to do this when you realize you are not always in control and this is a form of enlightenment itself.

“Surrender to what is. Say ‘yes’ to life and see how life suddenly starts working for you rather than against you.” ~Eckhart Tolle

The ability to surrender is a gift not everyone has access to, especially Narcissists. For instance, a Narcissist wouldn’t be able to not be in power, they become sick and irritating. It becomes hell for them. Their power is in the ability to be obsessed and possessive over their preys which most of the time are empaths. This is a dynamic that exists not only individually, but societally, in relationships, religion itself is narcissistic not to talk of globally.

That aura of negativity or hopelessness that comes with a failure to surrender is, to be blunt, a real turn off for most people. If you want to be the change you want to see in this world and inspire others to a cause, the angry warrior type is probably not going to work.

Maya Angelou once said, “What you’re supposed to do when you don’t like a thing is change it. If you can’t change it, change the way you think about it. Don’t complain.” If you’re still complaining or not accepting the reality, how can you change that reality? You’re probably still stuck in the complaining phase.

We are now in the season of Aquarius ♒️ which is all about freedom. It is a season of surrendering. Power has exchanged hands, there is change in the air. Esoterically, the rivers are beginning to unclog and flow. Everything and everyone will begin seeing things for what they are. This will be a period of huge revelations when things become revealed, the shadow disappears and everything comes to light. It’s best to Surrender and let go. What is meant to be, will. You have no control over it.

The real secret key to surrendering or letting go is an art of allowing. A non-attached relationship is healthy, strong and filled with effortless love, compassion and kindness. Once we let go and enter a compassionate personal space, everything else is re-contextualized. When you surrender, you interrupt the emotional feedback loop, it’s just like turning down the volume or clicking mute stops feedback on a video call. This changes everything!

Surrender sounds lame to many people, or perhaps scary. It’s the opposite of what we are constantly trying to do — we are always seeking control, because we don’t like uncertainty.

Personally, nowadays, I can’t say that I immediately accept all that comes my way, but my willingness to surrender to life is a priority, it certainly makes the journey more joyful. And, when you have joy, you are more likely to achieve the end you seek, or better yet, find peace in the journey regardless of the destination.

True inner peace and power actually starts when you let go and surrender. Remember, tomorrow never comes. the time is now .


Everyday is a test

If you thought that life’s tests were over when you finished school, guess again. There are so many tests in life, and they can be much more difficult than biology or physics. And there isn’t that much homework we can do to prepare for these kinds of tests, either. When we pass life’s tests, we discover that we do have that inner strength after all.


In school you are taught a lesson and given a test, in life you are given a test and taught a lesson.

Have you ever wondered what the purpose of your life is? Common answers are “happiness,” financial success”, true ❤ or “satisfaction.” While these are all worthwhile goals, I say the purpose of your life is to face head on, every challenge, every test, as a chance for you to become the person you are meant to be. Life is a test for you to be and become your best and highest self.

When you face the tests of life, learn from them and grow with them, you become that person. The tests of life require you to call on the inner resources residing deep inside you.

In life you are given a test that teaches you a lesson and it turns out to be that everyday is a TEST. Every moment there is a new challenge, ( which is always an opportunity).

In my local language we say “ problem no dey finish”, which means there is always something else after this. We have to find our way in the world, and all along we face tests of physical illness, mental troubles, financial reversals, unfulfilled expectations, and loss.

Life is indeed a test of many things, our faith & faithlessness, our convictions & priorities, our endurance & patience, and in the very end, our ultimate desires.

The way of a true spiritual life actually begins where we are now in the mess of our lives.

We’ve lost touch with our souls. We’ve been nourishing our minds, our relational skills, our theological knowledge, our psychological well-being, our physiological health… but we’ve abandoned our souls. ‘Mike Yaconelli.’

The most powerful weapon on earth is a human soul that’s on fire! Ignite that spark by recognizing the lessons of all you had to go through to be where you are right now.

On the video below, i talked about how to recognize the tests so you don’t have to repeat the lessons in order to graduate to the best and highest version of YOU!


Get your Butt out of the way

Ever wondered why they say the “Truth is bitter”? Well, it is bitter because it is straightforward, direct, and doesn’t always feel or taste good. Just as certain kinds of food or drinks, maybe teas taste quite awful but are very good for your health. In fact, most medicines are usually bitter. See where I’m going with this ?

We have grown and outgrown so many things internally and externally as we evolve on this planet as a specie over the centuries but one thing that has been the same since the beginning of time is the bitter taste of the truth and why people dislike or find it difficult to identify it.

Tell yourself the truth. If you need to yell at yourself to get the message do it, if you need to scream or shout or cry. Do it. Just freaking do it. Get your butt( your buts) out of the way. Stop making excuses. Sitting on your butt, feeling sorry for yourself will not save or change your life and situation. You have to get up, face your shit and get out of your own way with your words and daily attitude.

You know why it’s important to get out of your way?

No one will save you. Unfortunately. It’s not anyone’s duty but yours, you have to master yourself and learn to not look outside of yourself otherwise you’ll keep being disappointed or worse distracted. Remember, tomorrow never comes plus everyone and everything is a distraction. You come first. Your priority is YOU. Yes YOU!. Your physical, mental and emotional health comes first. So in order to be a better person, irregardless of what you might have going on for you, You have to separate the beans from the shaft. Although, it may seem shaky at first, you have to keep moving. You are never alone. Keep trying. Your story may be the motivation someone out there needs. Don’t stop. You are more than capable and this is what you signed up for.

You must get out of your head and get your butt out of the way. This is how you become the highest and best version you can be.

Let’s get it fam!

Self Judgment

We live in a world of control. A world that requires push and pull, as in, it requires gravity to exist. It’s no wonder why we are always at war with ourselves. However, we must learn to be in control of ourselves, what concerns us, what matters to us in our everyday lifestyle, not just personally, but environmentally, universally.

We must learn to find balance in the chaos, no matter how overwhelmed you might be. The fact is, you have every reason to be here right now and if you are reading this right now , and it happens to be that you find yourself confused, doubting, or listening to that criticizing voice in your head, critiquing your life, telling you what you can and cannot say or do, you have the power to transform the energy to love. No matter what you may be experiencing, do not judge yourself. It’s happening for a reason plus that is not your duty, it’s not your responsibility. Your responsibility is, to “Do as you may in alignment with your conscience” and let the rest play out.

Stop criticizing yourself. Choose self love. If you love yourself, others will love you, if you judge and criticize yourself, others will judge and criticize you. It is what it is. You should know that whenever you judge yourself, you insert fear into your aura and that lowers your vibration, your battery life, your electro magnetic voltage. Look at it like a phone fully charged, and the more you interact with the phone the battery life reduces, for instance, fear would be like an app, Instagram or maybe a game you’re used to playing on the phone, your battery weakens way faster because of the amount of energy the app has and the time you spend on it. Your daily energy and lifespan increases or reduces based on what you do every day. So, be nice to yourself, be kind, practice self love instead of self judgement.

As it turns out, there are so many different things happening in our society today, distracting, upsetting and emotionally controlling people. As a result, anxiety, depression, fear, self doubt, criticism, self judgment and different types mental issues gradually begin to flood in.. It is your duty to be responsible for what you think, eat and do because you are a part of the universe, a part of the whole and if you do your duty, others will do theirs and on and on.. Then, in little or no time the world will become light again, even better than we have imagined. It will be the change we’ve been collectively working on.

The gift of the present moment

Are you present with yourself ?

Are you here right now? Is it possible you’re still having other thoughts cross your mind even as you’re reading this ?

Well, just checking in..

Most of us experience continuous chatter in our minds. We have so many countless thoughts about the future, the past, or judgments about what is, which just seems to flow through our minds as if in a neverending stream.

Remember, time is now and your mind is a very powerful machine that can be used to build and also to destroy. Your mind works both clockwise and anticlockwise. You’re able to dwell in the past just the same way you fantasize about the future and this creates continuous chatter in your mind.

This chatter, has it’s consequences and disadvantages. The main one is that we are continuously distracted from what’s actually going on in the present moment. In other words, we tend to experience life through our thoughts rather than through direct experience.

When you are present with yourself, you begin a new story. You create a new reality. You are creating in the now. The highest reality is THE GIFT OF THE PRESENT MOMENT.

Everyday is a gift, a present. Open it up and live it.

When you refuse to open up yourself and live in the now, overthinking, worry, anxiety, depression and many other low vibrations find a new home through a hole in your aura to gladly enter.

We live in a mental world. So it requires a bit of discipline to live in the now and a lot of love and gratitude. If I were you, I’ld choose right now because it is all you are certain of.

Every thing you might have or had or want is either in the past or in the future. They are imaginary (the mentality ie, it’s all in the head). It is not present, not now. The now is the present moment. The present reality.

Where are you mentally now?

Do you know where you are emotionally now?

What about as an evolving being right now?

These are the questions you should ask yourself as you evolve on this endless journey. Below is a video talking about the advantages and benefits of living in the present moment.



If you want to experience the benefits of living in the present, you want to start using ways that allow you to focus on the present moment little by little. 

It’s a matter of moving your attention away from your thoughts and towards what’s actually happening here now.

The present is a gift, open it up.