How to heal from depression through psychotherapy

Depression brutally assaults us and promotes hopelessness. This is because depression is not a pure feeling but an effort to ward off a complex mix of unwanted ones. Anger, frustration, irritation, and grief are feelings we tend to find intolerable, we don’t want to feel them, we avoid them. When we’re depressed, we’re engaging in a psychic battle to blot out these unwanted feelings. It’s a battle with your self. Usually, the part of yourself you’re scared to face or the part you’re traumatized by. Common psychic defenses against painful feelings include ignoring feelings, projection.

We got to do better at becoming our best selves everyday. In today’s world, depression carries with it a very high cost in terms of relationship problems, family suffering and lost work productivity and mental illnesses. Yet, depression is highly treatable.

Every feeling is a state of mind . Hence, depression is a state of mind of being deeply pressed over a situation.

States are locations, a state of mind– is a location in your mind and we can change locations cant we? The intention of this post is to remind you that every kind of sickness is a mental state of being as it is physical. Therefore, if we can heal the mind we can heal the body and vice versa. All you need do is change your state (location) of well-being and you can heal the illness. In my last post, Let’s Talk Therapy, i wrote about what psychotherapy is and how it plays a major role in helping to alleviate the most common types of disorders or illnesses.

When depression appears in your life, think of it as a cry for help from your subconscious. Listen to it, find out what it’s trying to tell you. Only when you confront and understand the true cause of your depression, then take action to address it, will you finally be liberated from it no matter what the temperature outside.

What Causes Depression?

Depression does not have one single cause. It can be developed for a number of different reasons, some include:

Stressful life events. An upsetting incident such as a death in the family or the breakdown of a romantic relationship can lead people to depression. Job stress or financial woes are also common causes. Early life experiences can also play a role. People who try to deal with these issues on their own and shut themselves off from family and friends are especially vulnerable to developing depression.

Personality and heredity. People who have certain personality traits are also susceptible to depression. Those who are excessively self-critical or have very low self-esteem are at particular risk. Moreover, if you have a family history of depression – such as a depressed parent or sibling – it is possible you could become depressed yourself. However, this is not a given, many people with such histories do not become depressed.

Illness and aging. Any illness can trigger depression in certain individuals, especially if it has repercussions on your activity level or sex life. In particular, people with life-threatening or recurrent illnesses are prone to depression. Thyroid problems and head injuries can also lead to mood swings. In addition, aging can make some people feel depressed.

Drug and Alcohol Use. People who turn to drugs or alcohol to deal with problems are more likely to end up even more depressed because these substances can bring on or worsen depression. Moreover, those who become addicted often experience family or work problems, which can also contribute to depression.

Giving birth. Postnatal depression can be triggered by the emotional, physical and hormonal changes that accompany giving birth as well as the responsibility and challenges of caring for a baby and changes in the family structure.

Core Symptoms of Depression

  1. A persistent low mood and/or feelings of sadness, with or without weepiness.
  2. Lack of energy and motivation: this is marked by lack of interest or pleasure in activities you may have previously enjoyed.
  3. Sleep problems
  4. Appetite changes
  5. Tiredness
  6. Sluggish movements or agitation
  7. Difficulty in concentrating and day to day problem solving
  8. Feelings of guilt and/or worthless
  9. Suicidal thoughts

How to hunt down your own depression

Rather than viewing depression as a monster to flee from, look it in the eye, investigate the feelings that you are “depressing” and avoiding. For example, you may say, “I feel depressed today.” The questions that follow should be: Why today? What am I ignoring? What issue am I not addressing?

When does depression need treatment or psychotherapy?

Any bout of depression that lasts more than two weeks can benefit from treatment, and the earlier it is begun, the better. Early treatment has the highest likelihood of bringing about full remission of symptoms and preventing relapse or recurrence. The so-called burden of depression is great, as the disorder is a major cause of missed work and poor productivity, and it has a devastating effect on relationships, family life, physical health, and general quality of life.

How Does Psychotherapy Help Depression?

Psychotherapy helps people with depression:

  • Understand the behaviors, emotions, and ideas that contribute to his or her depression.
  • Understand and identify the life problems or events — like a major illness, a death in the family, a loss of a job or a divorce — that contribute to their depression and help them understand, which aspects of those problems they may be able to solve or improve.
  • Help to restructure ways of thinking, negative attributes and attitudes someone has about himself, and ways in which faulty thinking may perpetuate depression.
  • Regain a sense of control and pleasure in life.
  • Learn coping techniques and problem-solving skills.

Types of Therapy for Depression

Therapy can be given in a variety of formats, including:

  • Individual: This therapy involves only the patient and the therapist.
  • Group: 2 or more patients may participate in therapy at the same time. Patients are able to share experiences and learn that others feel the same way, and have had the same experiences.
  • Marital/couples: This type of therapy helps spouses and partners understand why their loved one has depression, what changes in communication and behaviors can help, and what they can do to cope.
  • Family: Because family is a key part of the team that helps people with depression get better, it is sometimes helpful for family members to understand what their loved one is going through, how they themselves can cope, and what they can do to help.

Approaches to Therapy

While therapy can be done in different formats — like family, group, and individual — there are also several different approaches that mental health professionals can take to provide therapy. After talking with the patient about their depression, the therapist will decide which approach to use based on the suspected underlying factors contributing to the depression.

Therapy Tips

Therapy works best when you attend all of your scheduled appointments and participate actively in the work of treatment. The effectiveness of therapy is not a passive process depends on your active participation. It requires time, effort, and consistency. As you begin therapy, establish some goals with your therapist. Then spend time periodically reviewing your progress with your therapist.

Psychotherapy vs Counseling

Psychotherapy and counseling both use psychological methods to help patients with a mental or emotional problem or disorder.

Some people make a small distinction between the two terms: “Counseling” is a brief treatment that targets a specific symptom or situation, while “psychotherapy” is a longer-term treatment that attempts to gain more insight into someone’s problems. However, many people use the terms interchangeably and over here at Barisity we offer both services.

The dark night of the soul

Have you ever felt alone and lonely in your universe ? Felt like everything was totally meaningless?, like you had no sense of direction, unable to bear going through the motions and feelings you’re experiencing like you have lost all hope? Like your alive but barely. You could be going through a ‘Dark Night of the Soul’

This is a deeply miserable and hurtful process of growth that a lot people go through unaware and come out the other side a more conscious and ripe individual. It is more like shedding your skin but on the inside of your mind. It is the war within yourself and that’s scary but it really is your ego dissolving itself.

The dark night of the soul goes really deep and it is a also a major turning event in the person’s life. This is a stage in personal and spiritual development when a person undergoes a difficult but very significant transition (more like a spiritual surgery) to a deeper perception of life and their role in it. (You know that moment when you start asking why certain things happen to you? Who are you ? Why you’re here?, Well this is when you get the answers.) This enhanced awareness is accompanied by a painful shedding of previous conceptual frameworks such as identity, relationship, career, sometimes weight, habit or belief system that previously allowed them to construct meaning in their life.

The Dark Night of the Soul might sound unfamiliar but it certainly has various relative conceptions in religion, psychology and mythology. Sometimes, it could be associated with conditions like ‘existential crisis’ and forms of depression. It literally is a form of spiritual depression.

Within the dark night of the soul, you’re facing your flaws. You’re facing everything that you view as being unhealthy about yourself, all your negative self talk, selfishness, your greed, contempt, pride, hate, jealousy. You’re tackling all of these issues and it’s hard to face that we have them. Yet, by accepting that we have this part of ourselves (and we all do) you’re acknowledging areas of your own being that require work. This is you at your darkest so if you can face these problems, identify them and come out to the Light on the other side, then you already know exactly what areas need to be worked on.

What’s happening during this period is, the old meaning and identity that your ego gave your life and it’s structure is melting away and when something melts/dissolves the temperature changes. So it hurts you, but in reality your soul is releasing itself and expanding to it’s truest nature.

Facing the dark night of the soul symptoms isn’t an experience that will do you any physical harm. It happens for you and of you. It is something that’s happening go-creatively with the universe. It’s entirely a spiritual battle…and it’s a battle with yourself. The only person you are facing is you but it’s not the cheery, open, happy version of you. It’s the opposite, the dark version. The version of you that lives in the shadows and is kept at bay by energy from the Light. .This is where you’re facing your subconscious. I know it might all sound a bit intense but this is where the therapeutic aspect of this very painful transformative experience becomes clear.The famous saying: “what doesn’t kill you makes you stronger” comes to mind in this situation.

Are you currently experiencing it? Do you feel empty like you’re having an ego death and life’s pleasure doesn’t do it for you any longer? You might feel like you’re on the wrong path and you may have to start all over and that makes you feel completely different and confused. You’re not alone. There are millions of people who feel the same or have in the past. Remember it’s happening to you, by you for you. Let it unfold don’t try to control it. It’s simply your soul setting itself free. Feel free to share your experience in the comments below. So we could help you with tips on how to navigate onward.

SEX CONSCIOUSNESS

I believe it’s only right we talk about sex since I wrote about relationships in my last post.

Sex sex sex !!!

So what is sex consciousness?

Sex is an exchange of energy . To have sex is to exchange energies.

Consciousness is “AWARE-NESS”

There are few questions you ought to know the answers to, before reading this for crystal clear assimilation. Like, what exactly is an exchange? What is energy ?

An exchange is simply a trade — give and receive

Energy is matter – “anything” that has weight and occupies space.

Therefore, sex is basically trading energy. Simply put, what are you giving vs what are you receiving ? Pay close attention to your self right now. Are you aware of what you’re sexually trading?

Spirituality is the path of discovering who we really are. Our true, pure or higher version of ourselves as against our self-centered, everyday egotistical self. Sexuality is obviously a very important part of that because you know who you are by your energy, negative or positive.

The link between sex and spirituality is pure and very strong. Think of sex as in nature — procreation, the diversity of plant and animal life. Here is a clue that the great life force, the relentless drive to creation, has a universal, spiritual quality. The sexual drive to reproduction in humans is called “libido,” a word which also translates as “life force.” Therefore we exchange our life force when having sex ..hmmm

It’s important to remember that every interaction between people involves an exchange of energy and sex of course involves the fullest exchange possible. In fact, its safe to consider S.E.X. an acronym for “soul energy x-change.”

We are always having sex. Yes!..Everything we do involves energy exchange. For example,when we interview for a job, go to the mall to buy anything or even meet someone new in a social setting, we will tend to be somewhat guarded. In our various social interactions, we only let so much of our true selves “out,” and we only let so much of that other person’s energy in but when we have sex with someone, however, we “open our energy portals up” to them. You might say we get naked with them on every level. This means that the auric walls that normally help us maintain our separate sense of self comes down, which definitely leads to an exchange of energies and because of this, the people we have sex with can have a much greater impact on us than other people.

All sorts of things could happen when we invite anyone to mingle his or her energy with ours. However, at the positive end of the spectrum, we can actually heal others (or be healed by them) via sexual interaction/intercourse. In your case, if you had sex with someone who had a lower vibration than yours, with the right approach you may raise that person to YOUR vibrational level.

Sex can be a very spiritual endeavor. It can stretch our capacity to be giving, compassionate and sensitive with our partner; It can challenge us to rise above ego and self-consciousness and to be fully present in the moment. Sex can take us to the edge of our boundaries, trust issues and hang-ups, where we become nothing more than who we were when we came into this world – one being reaching for bliss with another.

For many people, the ecstasy of orgasm is the closest they get to divine bliss, and as such, it can open them up to a whole new dimension of experience. I believe orgasm is the clearest experience we have of the ultimately energetic nature of life. Sex can initiate the release of “Kundalini” and encourage spiritual development. Sexual energy is one of the most potent and powerful manifestation energy and our deep desire for love leads us to many of our most important life lessons.

With the high level of connection that can be felt in the body based on how much it changes and releases, it is obvious that each person is ‘depositing’ their energies into the other through the connection of the genitals. This is where ‘the two really become one…” Sickness and diseases are just the visible transfers that everyone accepts. However, attitudes (spirits; emotions…) as mentioned in previous posts, are all vibrational energies that are being transferred into the other person.

These negative transfers will then show up in the form of pains and mental conditions, especially because they are foreign to the receiver. There really is such a thing as ‘sexual ties’, soul contracts, Karmic ties etc..and as much as we want to believe it, after sexual intercourse, you are not completely free of that person.

They have indeed left a mark on you through the act that can impact you in a very negative manner. So the next time you decide to “do a quick release…” as much as your body may ‘drug’ you to the point where you are so ‘dope’ (horny) and you can’t think straight, take a minute to rethink that act.

Is the person you are about to ‘connect and become ONE with’ worth it? Will you be okay when their spirits transfer to you?

I hope this helps you activate your sex consciousness physically, mentally and emotionally!

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