Let’s Talk Therapy


Talk therapy or psychotherapy as it is widely known is a process where emotional and psychological issues are worked on via communication between a client and a therapist to aid effective healing and change of behavior and overcome problems in a desired way.

Are you feeling overwhelmed with your tasks, your responsibilities, your feelings or your life in general? You tried to stay positive, but your mind goes around in negative thoughts? Psychotherapy could be the best answer for you!

In the modern world, millions of people die every year due to depression, fear, suicide, and many more common emotional and mental health issues. In many countries, there is a huge stigma about mental diseases and people end up not looking for help.

Either you are looking for help for yourself or someone else, or you just want to learn more about it, this is a serious matter and having information about the possible treatments is essential. Therefore, let’s keep reading and find out more about psychotherapy.

The process and benefits of Talk Therapy


Psychotherapy is one of the treatments used to deal with a variety of mental diseases and emotional challenges. It can be used by itself, in combination with medication or in combination with other therapies and alternative medicines. 

Through this process, the professional will help you first identify your problems and in many cases recognize them. Then by means of several different approaches, the psychologist will help the patient face their issues and work through them, in order to control and treat them. This way, the patient will be able to live a happier, lighter and healthier life.

Psychotherapy is about opening up to a therapist about your struggles, in a way that allows your therapist to hear and empathize with what you are going through. Therapists often practice active listening, taking an objective stance and giving their clients useful tools and information to try to make real and meaningful changes in their lives.

By the time you finish the treatment with your therapist, you will find out that not only you were able to face your problems and solve them, but also that you were given the tools to face future issues in your life. You will feel stronger and more capable.

It is also a very practical way of solving many issues and it is nothing to be ashamed of. Most people tend to perceive therapy as a weak medium of healing because, their belief system perceives talking to a professional as a waste of time. But really, there are many underlying issues that stems from deeper psychological wounds that a ‘regular’ person might not be able to see. It is advisable to solve a problem from the root cause other than the surface solution which will not last very long.

Psychotherapy enables you heal mental and emotional issues in a way that is very unique because it challenges your perception and heals you instantly in most cases. Some take a couple of sessions and others like any other medicine goes through a process, a series of medications ( in this case with your therapist).

By talking to a mental health professional, those with anxiety, suffering from grief, and any other emotional struggles have found that their quality of life has improved. Change can happen anywhere from a small increase to feeling completely cured – the spectrum of help provided through psychotherapy is vast and can be long-term.

Those with mental and emotional health problems often feel like there is no way out of their problems. If they cannot be helped by a mental health professional, their first resource outside of medicine is usually self-medicating through drugs or alcohol. Others simply spiral out of control, which can lead to even worse mental disorders down the road or even suicide. By seeking the help of a psychotherapist, your problems and struggles can be minimized by receiving support and the tools you need to better respond to life’s difficulties.

Psychotherapy is advised for cases of:

  • Challenges coping with daily life
  • Physical Illness
  • Treat the impact of trauma
  • Medical illness
  • Overthinking
  • Mental health issues
  • Deal with loss
  • Specific mental disorders like anxiety and depression
  • Spiritual worries
  • Eating disorders
  • Substance abuse

How do you get the most out of psychotherapy?

First, be willing and open to therapy. Many suffering from mental health issues, life’s many obstacles or addictions have a crippling fear of failure or aren’t fully committed to the recovery and healing process. It’s imperative that you cooperate with your psychotherapist and follow any at-home instructions they offer you.

Remember that therapy is a two-way street. Your therapist has responsibilities to treat you competently with approved therapy methods and understanding. You also have a responsibility to be open to what your therapist has to say.

How do I know the therapy is working?

First and foremost, your therapist will establish goals of therapy with you in regards to your current problem. These goals can be both long and short-term, but they should be set out within a few sessions. Short-term goals can be easily tracked, but your long-term goals may be more important to keep in mind. By focusing on the progress you’ve made towards your goals, should be a great way to track your success.

Also, remember to take baby steps, no one wants to be uncomfortable or have to go through a long process to recover, however, that might be what it takes. You probably won’t see instant results, so don’t be discouraged if change doesn’t happen right away. Any type of progress is a process.

The results of psychotherapy?

In order for it to work, the patient must be available, to be honest, and open, and also needs to trust the therapist. The therapist must be respectful and follow the ethical rules of the profession.

The treatment can be held only for a few sessions, or by months or even years. It depends especially on the problem that is being treated, and on the patient.

A healthy life is a wealthy life

There are so many things required to live a standard, enjoyable and fulfilled life. Things like good nutrition, physical exercise, and healthy sleep are extremely important. Therefore, your lifestyle plays a very major role in determining the wholeness of your health. Practices like meditation, yoga and breathwork are very vital to maximize your potential. See yoga and its health benefits.

Despite that it’s also important to ask for advice if you if you are out of balance. No man is an island they say.

If you feel you need some help, to overcome any kind of pressure, be it social, emotional, mental or relationship pressure, It is ok to seek professional or spiritual guidance. It can give you back the joy of life!

Energy cords and how to cut them off

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Sometimes we don’t know why it’s taking so long to achieve something or why we are always making the same mistake in our lives, or why is taking so long to overcome a situation or the reason why we have a disease that has no specific origin or why we feel bad when we are with someone, or even when we try to finish a relationship but we never succeed. That’s because the energy cords need to be cut. Humans are electromagnetic beings, we are vibrational which means we attract and repel energies like electricity.  In other words, we are composed of oscillating magnetic and electric fields just like this:

The human electromagnetic field

What Are Energy Cords?

We are all spiritual beings. Every minute of every day (including when we sleep), we are sharing energy with fellow humans, animals, and nature. Sometimes we can pick up attachments to others that do not serve ours or their highest good. Energetic bonds can happen with any chakra, or multiple chakras, within your energy body. Most of these bonds happen naturally—they are with our friends, family, children, co-workers, and neighbors. They are welcome bonds. Helpful energy bonds consist of mutual sharing, respect, trust, and love. But because we are always in a state of growth, sometimes bonds can outlive their purpose. When this happens, cord-cutting can be beneficial to both parties involved.

Cords and attachments can become very problematic for anyone doing energy or psychic work, highly sensitive people, and empaths.

A cord is created by thought and emotion; whether that progresses to a physical relationship has no bearing on the cord existing. Energy is not restricted by time or space. Often, if a relationship also becomes physical, the cord only strengthens. A good example of this is sharing your body in an intimate relationship. How much energy invested in the relationship will also affect how easy it is to remove or sever an unwanted or outgrown bond.

The reason why people cut cords with others is to generally move on from a person and let them go energetically – this means on an energy level. People who we are close to form energetic bonds with us that resemble cords of energy that link one person to the other. These are etheric cords, so think of ether as a kind of energy. Those who have seen the cords (and often we can see them in meditation for example) describe them as dark in color. The bonding itself can be light with just a slim cord, or you can be corded heavily with another through your chakras and can have multiple thick cording that literally shows your attachment, either mentally, emotionally, sexually, or all of the above.

Have you ever heard of the need to cut energy cords? Everything in the universe is energy. We can approach it by using quantic physics research – that shows us that our body has energy centers of information that are continuously sending and receiving information (or energy), creating transformation and affecting matter – or by simply noticing our body energy patterns.

We have a large magnetic field that protects us from the energies in our environment, but most of the times we don’t know how to protect ourselves from that energies that are not healthy for us and cords or attachments are created especially because most people are not conscious of this.

Cords can come from childhood or adulthood relations or even from past lives. It may be that you never felt loved by your father as a child and you are running the pattern of needing love and attention that makes you create dependency relationships with other men.

It may be that you never felt loved by your mother and you activate the pattern of needing others to fill the hole inside you, creating relationships commanded by high expectations that, obviously, never succeed. Most of these cords are running our lives subconsciously and need to be cut so we can stop feeling stuck and create space for the new in our life.



Symptoms of heavy cording include:

  • Unable to move on
  • Unable to stop thinking or obsessing about a person
  • Frequent conversations in your mind with a person
  • Frequently remembering what they said in the past, feeling their ongoing judgment or criticism
  • Arguments, sometimes daily in your mind with someone (these can be actual psychic arguments)
  • Constant memories or emotions that arise – i.e. we used to watch that show together
  • Temptation to go back to a relationship that does not serve you
  • Stalking another online through social networking, watching them compulsively
  • Unable to sleep, experiencing amnesia
  • You seem to endless process the past and what happened there
  • Deep feelings of sadness, anger, and depression around the past
  • Feelings of wanting to get revenge, or constantly aware of unfair treatment
  • Crying a whole lot, an emotional wreck
  • Turning down other offers and invitations, feeling uninterested
  • Becoming stuck in the past, not looking for new opportunities

With Whom Should We Cut Cords?

You can cut the cords with any person who is bothersome to you psychically, mentally and emotionally. This is to say anyone who sends you strong energy and who intrudes on your thoughts and emotions even when you are alone. If you are done with a person but find they always intrude on your thoughts and you can feel them around you or in your mind, you can cut the connection by cutting the etheric cords that attach the both of you.

Some people with strong sexual bonds can find relief here as well by disconnection your sexual chakra to theirs, if such a bond was once formed. If an old flame was harmful or hurtful to you in some way, being free on all levels is incomparable. You literally move on and a new space is formed around you. You can then proceed to fill that space with more amiable and pleasant thoughts and feelings.


You can also cut the cords with any person who has abused you, either physically or emotionally. Victims of any crime (rape, beating, even bullying) can form bonds with the perpetrators that continue on energetically, even long after the crime. Cutting these bonds will help healing that much faster. This will help you to release the pain and clear out your energy field or aura of that trauma.

You can certainly continue to cut the cords until they no longer recur and you have completely moved on. If a cord cutting fails, this indicates you are not willing to really let someone go yet. This is okay, it just means you aren’t truly ready to move on. There may be a lesson in this relationship you have yet to master and your current attachment is giving you the opportunity to learn the lesson for good.

There are some techniques to cut energy cords. We can use chakras cleansing, specific visualizations and meditation on cutting cords as well as aura cleansing.


It’s not an easy process, especially if you belong to the multiverse of empaths like me. Although, as good healers can facilitate our ability to heal, almost all the techniques can be applied by ourselves individually. An example would be:


  1. Find a quiet place where you can meditate. At this moment, you can light incense or do some smudging.
  2. Close your eyes and begin focusing on your breathing.
  3. Once you feel relaxed, envision a thick red cord coming from your tailbone, going deep into the earth, and tying you safely to the core. This is to ground and also to protect you.
  4. Think on the person, place, or thing that you wish to cut energy cords with.
  5. Visualize the cords and then imagine cutting them, with a scissor, a sword, burning them off or just removing them by hand.
  6. Tell this person place or thing that you love them, you wish them well, but no longer will be tied to them. Then remove the cords.
  7. After this, visualize the cord you attached to the core of the earth being untied and coming back up into your tailbone.
  8. Bring your awareness back to conscious reality, and have a good stretch.
  9. Thank your spiritual guides and leave the place.
  10. Repeat this exercise as often as you need.

What might happen after cord cutting?


Despite what you feel in the moment, cutting cords free you and allow you to quickly and painlessly move forward. Like suddenly everything starts working in your life and pushing you to another level of evolution in different areas.

You can also cut and prevent cords by forgiving, avoiding an internal (and external) speech of drama and negativity. You can also do it by avoiding people and environments that drain your energy. Overthinking about non healthy attachments to people or situations and, generally, by raising our vibration and try to be connected with nature and with the present moment.


In simple terms, you can expect to find your mind no longer dwells upon the person as the psychic attachment has been dissolved. Your mind is quieter, calmer and it is like cleaning out a closet – all those old emotions associated with that person dissolve as the communication between you ends. You now have extra space in your mind to fill with something better, and you will certainly be clearer in intent.


Imagine the freedom you can feel having that extra peace of mind, letting go of unwanted baggage, not to mention being free emotionally as well. If this sounds too good, you may be wondering why don’t we all do this on a regular basis, why don’t people know about this? The reason is simply we are never taught. In a world where we tend to believe in only what we see, such psychic cords of attachment go unnoticed and so we tend to carry unwanted energy and connections around with us many more years than we need to.

If you happen to have personal questions and need guidance on exactly how to do this. Feel free to write me. Sending everyone of you peace, freedom and love.


Intention and Attention

You have the power to create a reality that excites you on every level. Through your intentions you can land your dream relationship, travel to places you thought you’d never go, and live a life that at one point may have felt out of reach. The possibilities are endless. But it’s not the intention alone that brews this seemingly magical power.

Intention is internal ( yin ) while attention is external (yang). Just another choice of words for Yin and yang. Intentions and goals are different. Intention is like a theme and goals are the ways to achieve that intention. For example, the intention can be to stay fit and healthy, the goal can be to run a 5 kilometre distance within half an hour daily.

An intention is the budding flower given life by all of the underlying thoughts, words, and actions in the rich soil below the surface. The attention is the energy and focus extended externally.

So, how do you start your regular day? Do you wake up with or without a goal or set specific intentions? For me, everyday is a new page, a new script. I set new intentions every single day. Sometimes the same intention for some days and I “pay attention” to the same thing by taking action.

If you have not been successful in manifesting what you want, then try and re-examine your intention. Sometimes double checking to ensure your intentions are correctly created can bring the results you desire.

Everything that happens in the universe begins with intention. When I decide to buy a birthday present, shake my legs , or call a friend, it all starts with intention.

WHAT IS INTENTION?


Intention is probably one of the most essential parts of healing, abundance, manifestation, personal and spiritual development. Your intention is a large determinator of any success or failure you experience. Intention is the blueprint of your experiences and the reality you create. The right intention and, more importantly, being aware of the intentions you are setting, is very essential.

WHAT IS ATTENTION?

Attention is defined as the act of concentrating and keeping one’s mind focused on something. However, alertness is the initial step in the attention process. If we are going to do something, or listen to someone, the first thing that we need is to feel alert. In other words, we need to feel like our battery is charged, like our brains have energy. Just the way our bodies need physical energy if we are going to run, our brains need mental energy if we are going to think.

Your intention and attention is the yin and yang. The internal and external. The very essence of life. While, Attention is awareness of the here and now in a focal and perceptive way. Paying attention is the first step in the learning and growth process.

In order to manifest anything at all,you must set an intention and focus your energy (pay attention) to that in order to bring it to life.

On the video below, I dived a bit deep into what intention and attention is and how we use it to manifest.

Please watch, learn and share to as many people as you would love to.

Till the next read.


Get your Butt out of the way

Ever wondered why they say the “Truth is bitter”? Well, it is bitter because it is straightforward, direct, and doesn’t always feel or taste good. Just as certain kinds of food or drinks, maybe teas taste quite awful but are very good for your health. In fact, most medicines are usually bitter. See where I’m going with this ?

We have grown and outgrown so many things internally and externally as we evolve on this planet as a specie over the centuries but one thing that has been the same since the beginning of time is the bitter taste of the truth and why people dislike or find it difficult to identify it.

Tell yourself the truth. If you need to yell at yourself to get the message do it, if you need to scream or shout or cry. Do it. Just freaking do it. Get your butt( your buts) out of the way. Stop making excuses. Sitting on your butt, feeling sorry for yourself will not save or change your life and situation. You have to get up, face your shit and get out of your own way with your words and daily attitude.

You know why it’s important to get out of your way?

No one will save you. Unfortunately. It’s not anyone’s duty but yours, you have to master yourself and learn to not look outside of yourself otherwise you’ll keep being disappointed or worse distracted. Remember, tomorrow never comes plus everyone and everything is a distraction. You come first. Your priority is YOU. Yes YOU!. Your physical, mental and emotional health comes first. So in order to be a better person, irregardless of what you might have going on for you, You have to separate the beans from the shaft. Although, it may seem shaky at first, you have to keep moving. You are never alone. Keep trying. Your story may be the motivation someone out there needs. Don’t stop. You are more than capable and this is what you signed up for.

You must get out of your head and get your butt out of the way. This is how you become the highest and best version you can be.

Let’s get it fam!

Self Expression

Are you free? Are you truly free to live or say whatever you want, whenever you want, however you decide? Can you express yourself without fear in totality? Are you REAL? Are you living according to your creators wish?

Most people are out here agreeing and accepting every thing that’s thrown at their faces like they don’t have a choice. This has got to stop. We need to express ourselves exactly how we want to. I hear, there is freedom of speech ( but I don’t hear about the consequences of speaking up). People fear to express themselves exactly how they should or exactly how they want to. Why, you may ask ? Well, BECAUSE THEY HAVE BEEN PSYCHOLOGICALLY BRAINWASHED into accepting that someone else should think for them plus there is the “hush hush” part about the consequences of self expression.

You know there’s more to life. You know you’re being called to do something greater.We’re a community of like-minded and evolved beings just like you on a mission to help you realize your maximum potential and free people from physical,mental and spiritual prisons. This is why Barisity.com is called a Sity of Royalties for true FREEDOM.

In recent times, people are waking up from this deep slumber and spells that’s being constantly cast on individuals right in front of their faces, through music, media, twisted history, traditions and cultures. Most of these things are being tweaked and passed along generations over and over again. Why do we accept this, some smart ones may be thinking ? Well, my brother and sister, THE POWER OF SELF EXPRESSION COMES WITH A PRICE!!

Consider that with every action and every choice you make, you are expressing some part of yourself. When you donate to a beggar, you’re expressing kindness. When you raise your voice at another, you’re expressing anger. It’s always about the intention behind the action, the energy behind the deed. Those who cook may have realized this. When we cook with love and care, our dish has a special feel to it. When we do not put effort into our cooking, the dish turns out mediocre and bland. Self-expression is the act of bringing something deep within us into observable form – the art of creation. The question is not whether we express ourselves, but what are we expressing? The more connected we are to ourselves, the more authentic our expression. The more authentic our expression, the more confident and attractive we become. Who are you, and what is your message to the world? As you uncover more and more of yourself, the core of who you are comes to the fore. Who you are begins to shine through in what you do.

So what exactly is self expression?

Let me start by telling you a dream of mine, about a decade ago, I had this recurring dream of someone holding my throat but an invisible someone, I open my mouth to scream with all the energy charged up in me yet not a single sound comes out when I think I’m making a very loud noise, then I get madder and try harder,same thing. It was very annoying at first because as a hueman being we all have “vocal cords” which are in charge of our sounds. So when I speak you should hear me because I’m communicating with you through a chord you and I both have. This dream kept going on and on for weeks until one day I got so pissed and I was just like you know what “IM DONE WITH THIS SHIT”!! Then I decided that when the time came I won’t scream with my outer voice but my inner voice. So I had the dream again, it was on a Saturday morning, I remember vividly how I tried using my right hand to find what’s holding back my voice and I made the loudest sound ever without using my voice. It was my inner voice. I screamed so loud inside my heart that not only did the feeling of my throat being held disappear but the feeling of fear, fear of trying something new completely vanished! All it did was make me uncomfortable for a sec. ( THE PRICE OF SELF EXPRESSION ).

Now, the moral of that story is this —— I had a voice I couldn’t use, out of fear of the unknown, I felt hooked, choked and scared to do what I ought to do but until I DECIDED NOTHING COULD STOP ME, I was helpless. I decided ! Then, I found another way and I didn’t care what happened, I just did it. (Let me tell you a secret, I had not the slightest clue what was going to happen, whether it was going to make an external sound or not). I just “KNEW” I had to do something instantly. The moral of this ??—— FOLLOW YOUR INSTINCTS. You might be wrong or right it doesn’t matter. Just do it!!

This dream made me a stronger and fearless leader because I realized so many things 10 years after. If you don’t use what the creator has given to you , it will be taken away from you. If you choose to be scared, it will be taken away from you, If you allow yourself to be bullied, it will be taken away from you . IF YOU HAVE SKILLS, TALENTS AND PASSIONS YOU DO NOT PURSUE, guess what ? It will be taken away from you. And it goes on and on ….. We all have the ability and the power to express ourselves exactly how we want to. Don’t allow the program that has been installed in your life continue being the driver of your decisions. TAKE CHARGE or be preyed upon. Your choice.

Self expression by definition is the Expression of one’s own personality, feelings, or ideas, as through speech or art. It is a vital piece of the puzzle that is fulfillment in life; Self expression allows us to be our best selves, reach our full potential, and make valuable contributions to the world we live in. It simply is when people show that they are different from everyone else. They may choose to express themselves by how they look, what they say, or by using different types of artistic ways to show you who they are.

This place is a community of people just like you, all seeking to achieve their dreams and support one another in that mission.

Here are some ways you can start expressing yourself. Courage is key! Dare to put yourself into what you do. You can choose one or do them all.

  1. Say what you really want to say
  2. Take a risk and do something you’ve been fantasizing about
  3. Take a picture
  4. Doodle something
  5. Freestyle journal
  6. Sing, rap, write, dance.

Allow yourself to suck at first. Give yourself permission to learn and grow. Take the pressure off and let yourself stretch your wings along the runway to mastery. Once you begin, you never know where your expressions will take you. I’ve always enjoyed mentoring, teaching, making music and writing, but never took my love for writing seriously until last year. Since then, the universe has been urging me to continue. Each time I think of giving up my writing, I would get a message from a reader telling me how my writing impacted them and how much they appreciated my writing. That’s the magic of self-expression: just by being who you are, you can inspire and heal others.

You owe it to yourself to achieve your dreams. Express yourself. NO ONE CAN DO IT EXACTLY HOW YOU CAN DO IT! Don’t let it get taken away from you. You have only one life to live.

You can choose to hire me to coach you on your own journey as well or help you HEAL YOURSELF from your traumas. I’m always available. Feel free to comment down below or send me an email. I’ve got you.