How to heal the wounded inner child

Children are born without any means to defend themselves or face the world. Children are totally dependent upon their parents for love, acceptance, and shelter. Sometimes parents fail to provide the emotional, psychological, and physical shelter required for healthy children. This results in adults who are stuck in trauma-time who remain forever ruled by an inside force, the wounded inner child. In Africa where I come from, most parents beat, punish and maltreat their children in order to discipline them. Even worse they barely listen to them which traumatizes them from an early age and they grow up with a different mentality of what love and acceptance truly is.

The inner child is the part in your psyche that still retains its innocence, creativity, awe, and wonder toward life. Quite literally, your inner child is the child that lives within you – within your psyche that is. It is important that we stay connected with this sensitive part of ourselves. When we are connected to our inner child, we feel excited, invigorated, and inspired by life. When we are disconnected, we feel lethargic, bored, empty and unhappy.

Growing up, it is the emotional and biological responsibility of our parents and family members to create a safe environment for us. But not all parents accept that responsibility, are aware of that responsibility, or have the capacity to fulfill that responsibility.

Safety doesn’t just mean physically protecting us from harm, feeding us, or the other essentials. Safety also means supporting us on the emotional, psychological, and spiritual levels inherent to us as human beings.

The process of healing your wounded inner child is one of grief, of pain. Do you have a wounded inner child inside yourself? Every child faces emotional challenges that are key-points for their personality. Parents and family are fundamental to give emotional support to overcome those challenges and create an environment of safety and protection. Although each of us has some issues that come from unprocessed emotions as a child, and for that, we all have wounds, some of us need to pay close attention to this wounded inner child.

The traumas that come from childhood have a substantial impact on your daily life and future decisions, and most of the times, we have trouble recognizing them, making them even more critical. For example, someone can avoid meaningful relationships if the environment at home was of fight and incomprehension. In extreme situations, these wounds can compromise someone’s life.

Let’s find out more about the wounded inner child and how to heal your relationship with it! Find out how to get into a reflective space.

Connect with your inner child


Start by thinking about your childhood, reflect about it. How was the environment at home? Did you feel safe? Did you feel a sense of belonging with your parents? Were you allowed to be your true self? How do you feel when you remember yourself as a child? Asked this to yourself and write down the answers and reflect about it.

Remember to take care of you, to be there for you, to take time for yourself.

Signs that you have a wounded inner child

There are some signs you need to pay close attention. If you identify many of these in your current life, remember that you need to do an effective work-related to your wounded inner child. These inside parts of ourselves have a significant impact on how we see ourselves and how we behave as adults. Some signs you have a wounded child might include that :

  • You feel there’s something wrong with you
  • You experience anxiety when you face something new
  • You want to please everyone around you
  • You experience the need to be in conflict
  • You feel inadequate
  • No achievement feels enough for you
  • You always criticize yourself
  • You are rigid and perfectionist
  • You struggle to say “no” and stand up for yourself
  • You have trusting issues
  • You never feel close to others.
  • Have a deep feeling that there is something wrong with you
  • Are a people-pleaser
  • Are a rebel and feel alive when in conflict with someone else
  • You are a hoarder
  • Are not able to let go of possessions and people
  • Experience anxiety with something new
  • Feel guilty for setting boundaries
  • Are driven to be a super-achiever
  • Are ridged and a perfectionist
  • Have problems starting and finishing tasks
  • Exhibit constant self-criticism
  • Feel ashamed at expressing emotions
  • Feel ashamed of your body
  • Have a deep distrust of anyone else
  • Avoid conflict, no matter what the cost
  • Have a deep-seated fear of abandonment.

If you feel you connect to many of these issues, let’s find out more about how you can heal your inner child.

Repeat supporting affirmations

  1. I love you: some of us used to think we needed to achieve more to be enjoyed. Tell your inner child it’s loved no matter what.
  2. I hear you: some adults don’t pay attention to what children say, what can deeply hurt someone’s feelings and never really feel they have something meaningful to share with the others. Don’t suppress your inner voice!
  3. You didn’t deserve this: it’s easy to convince ourselves we needed to suffer, or we did something wrong, and that’s why bad things are happening. Change your mindset with these simple words.
  4. I’m sorry: allow yourself to feel ok with the things you did and didn’t do, say sorry to yourself for all the times you pushed too much.
  5. I forgive you: let go of the same and regrets.
  6. Thank you: be thankful to your inner child for all the things you did, show gratitude.
  7. You did your best: accept your failures and acknowledge you’ve always done the best of you.

You can create other affirmations or mantras that are important to you, more specific to the feelings you have to heal with your inner child. Be creative, be free and always positive!

Write a letter to your inner child

Writing a letter to your inner child will help you to organize your thoughts, but it will also strengthen all the things you have left to say. There is no formula; you can write whatever you feel you haven’t yet said and that will help with this relationship.

You can also write a letter from your inner child. Get in deep connection with it and let go and write down all the things that once you wanted to say, but you were not able to. It can be one of the most potent and releasing experiences of your life.

If needed, you can repeat both practices as many times as necessary until you feel your voice was finally heard, the one from now and the one from the child in you.

Do an inner child visualization or meditation

Search for mantras, meditation or visualization that can lead you towards meeting your inner child. You can do it with the help of a coach or therapist. Another option is that you record the steps with your voice and then listen.

  1. Close your eyes
  2. Imagine yourself walking to a place where you feel safe and enter that place
  3. Give yourself some time to feel relaxed, safe and connected to this place
  4. Walk around and let your inner child appear to you
  5. Come close: What is your inner child’s face like? What are the emotions it expresses? What are the words said? – Give yourself time to communicate with it, make a question or listen to what is there to be said.
  6. Give a hug to your inner child and be thankful for it to show to you and be able to reconnect.
  7. Come back to where you were.
  8. Talk to your adult self to ask for aid in grown-up decisions
  9. Give rewards to yourself every day
  10. Get plenty of sleep
  11. Practice mindfulness to remain present
  12. Tell yourself that you love you even if it feels awkward
  13. Think about the good memories you had in childhood
  14. Make new “good” memories and traditions

After finishing, try journaling your experience. Repeat it as many times as you like, allowing different aspects of this wounded inner child and your relation to come to light. This is a very powerful tool that helped me personally on my healing journey anc could be the turning point you need.

Remember to take care of you, to be there for you, to take time for yourself. Being your protector every day is a vital part if this process, and will allow your wounded inner child to feel safe as never before, because it will be no longer dependent on the others, but it knows it can truly rely on yourself.

Practice mindfulness to remain present Tell yourself that you love you even if it feels awkward Think about the good memories you had in childhood Make new “good” memories and traditions

If you are interested in working with your inner child, I want you to reflect on your own childhood, the timeline of your early years, and how you felt as a child. Did you feel safe? Did you feel a sense of belonging in your family? Were you permitted to be you? What is your current relationship with your inner child like? All of these questions are extremely important to ask, and if you haven’t asked them yet, I hope you do. If you would also like a deep healing approach or if you prefer one on one help, feel free to drop a comment down below or send me an email. Would be glad to be of assistance.

Get your Butt out of the way

Ever wondered why they say the “Truth is bitter”? Well, it is bitter because it is straightforward, direct, and doesn’t always feel or taste good. Just as certain kinds of food or drinks, maybe teas taste quite awful but are very good for your health. In fact, most medicines are usually bitter. See where I’m going with this ?

We have grown and outgrown so many things internally and externally as we evolve on this planet as a specie over the centuries but one thing that has been the same since the beginning of time is the bitter taste of the truth and why people dislike or find it difficult to identify it.

Tell yourself the truth. If you need to yell at yourself to get the message do it, if you need to scream or shout or cry. Do it. Just freaking do it. Get your butt( your buts) out of the way. Stop making excuses. Sitting on your butt, feeling sorry for yourself will not save or change your life and situation. You have to get up, face your shit and get out of your own way with your words and daily attitude.

You know why it’s important to get out of your way?

No one will save you. Unfortunately. It’s not anyone’s duty but yours, you have to master yourself and learn to not look outside of yourself otherwise you’ll keep being disappointed or worse distracted. Remember, tomorrow never comes plus everyone and everything is a distraction. You come first. Your priority is YOU. Yes YOU!. Your physical, mental and emotional health comes first. So in order to be a better person, irregardless of what you might have going on for you, You have to separate the beans from the shaft. Although, it may seem shaky at first, you have to keep moving. You are never alone. Keep trying. Your story may be the motivation someone out there needs. Don’t stop. You are more than capable and this is what you signed up for.

You must get out of your head and get your butt out of the way. This is how you become the highest and best version you can be.

Let’s get it fam!

The sky is falling

When was the last time you got yourself very well relaxed and just stared up at the sky. Ever heard the saying the sky is the limit ? Well, I choose to say the sky is the starting point. When you look up during the day what do you see ? The sun, maybe the moon sometimes ( early in the day ), clouds, planes etc. At night, you could see stars, planets, constellations, the moon etc.

In our 3D reality( the matrix), the sky is full of Stars ie, the celebrities, politicians, billionaires, industry rulers, government, pastors, prophets, etc. You look up to these people, as your role models, your, idols, Gods and goddesses. You listen to their directions, wish to be like them, hopelessly copy their style or swag, their words, their lifestyles, traditions, their attitudes, their teachings, their mindsets etc.

In actual reality, all of these people are falling, in terms of their careers, style of leadership, contracts with labels, secrets coming out about evil deeds, etc. This could be called Karma” but it’s actually the literal sky that embodies the stars, planets asteroids etc falling. Literally. So it reacts down in the matrix as actual people. As above so below. Remember ?

The laws of nature is not a hoax. It is simply the law that guides the web that we all are dwelling in. The minds of people are evolving really fast . Why do you see so many changes all happening at once?, good or bad are perceived by you depending on the state of mind which you’re living on. The plane of existence we live is on Earth. Yes it’s A PLANE. We are on a very gigantic plane.

Recently, I was having a conversation with an associate as to why we all want to travel the world, see places, meet new people but ever thought about the fact that we are all seeing the same sun stars and moons everywhere in the world?. Literally the same roof, no matter how long the flight or ship you traveled by.

There are so many visions that I see happening in a couple of months which are definitely mind blowing. The sky is literally falling down to earth which means earth will be the new sky and for that to be the new world, you have to be worthy to live in this new world, the world where you must be down to earth, kind, compassionate, giving , loving and fearless. These are traits that most of the stars and high ranking personals that the general population look up to rarely have. So what’s expected to happen? Well the individuals who have those characteristics will be the leaders of the new world. It is going to be a totally different world than we are used to right now. The vibration, the energy, the frequency, this is why it is called the new age. Hence the global reset, that the government is implementing to avert this from happening.

Question is, are you ready? Is this what you would like to be a part of, do you see yourself in this new world or would you rather be in the old world? Because the sky is falling with everything in it. Imagine if the rooftop of your house suddenly falls down. Every of your neighbors will see everything in the building isn’t it? Wake up and get your shit together. We are in a new age, with a totally new species ready to love and live unconditionally.

In coming months, so many “stars” will be falling, both literally and In the simulation. There are individuals scattered all over the world that are well aware of this and are preparing helplessly to stop this from happening because they would rather keep up the facade of this fake reality we are all dwelling in. The time has come for you to ascend spiritually, mentally and physically. Because 2020 was just the tip of the iceberg. We are moving into the tunnel and some people came with torch lights others came to torch the light bearers.

The purpose of the whole 2020 Age of Aquarius timeline stargate is to stabilize the Age of Aquarius positive timeline for the planet. During 2020, the dark forces have tried their hardest to prevent the positive Ascension timeline from manifesting. Now it is our collective chance for the positive Ascension timeline to be anchored, secured and stabilized forever, and to ensure that the rest of the planetary liberation process occurs smoothly and rapidly.

There will be many powerful astrological configurations in this month of December, leading to our main activation on December 21st. Each of those configurations will be a stepping stone to our main activation. First, there will be Pluto Eris square on December 10th, (today ). Pluto Eris square is the energy of the warrior goddess fighting against establishment. Then, there will be a total Solar eclipse on December 14th which will bring rapid disillusionment in many areas for the surface population.After that, Saturn will enter Aquarius on December 17th and Jupiter will enter Aquarius a few days later on December 19th.

What’s your position in the sky? Or on earth? Are you in the position to help people with your light? Or you would rather torch the universe with yours?, Whats your role? The torchbearer or the light-bearer. Join us as we elevate the consciousness of the people. Be your brothers keeper.

Mindset 2 ( Get the trash out)

Talk about a sequel right?

I have a lot to share as regards to this so I might add a couple more episodes to this topic just as I would on my YouTube channel.

There are two words here – mind and set”. Your mindset comprises of you and a decision. ( because everything is a choice).

Let me put it this way, take a look at your phone for instance, it is a machine just like your mind. You have so many apps on it that you don’t even use ( just like the areas of your mind you haven’t even tapped into). Please Get the trash out !! Create space and empty the unwanted thoughts and/or information clogging your phone or mind space in this instance.

If your mind is clogged, then your life is clogged!

Read that again.

You see, your mind is unlimited but what you do with it depends on how you perceive your experiences. Can you even begin to imagine how vast your mind is ?

The mind of a man built planes, ships, gadgets, bridges, robots, now they are making clones , Ai, etc.

So what would be the importance of understanding your mindset as an individual? That would be life changing wouldn’t it ?

Your mindset is your life’s foundation. It is the beginning of every action you take. You know how they say “you reap what you sow”?thats because the foundation on which you plant determines how the fruits would turn out.

You can watch more about it on my YouTube channel below

Any reason behind your action or reaction to something or someone is based on your perception ( how YOU see it) . Notice the keyword “you”.

I believe that means YOU ARE IN CHARGE OF YOUR MINDSET ( Your point of view )..

Do you know why they say “food for thought” ? It’s because the mind feeds via information. That’s right ! So feed it right . Set your mind right! Your mindset is a goldmine and you best believe that..Your mind is feeding off of millions of information every moment and it’s your duty to feed your mind right and get the trash out.

Till the next read.