Self Judgment

We live in a world of control. A world that requires push and pull, as in, it requires gravity to exist. It’s no wonder why we are always at war with ourselves. However, we must learn to be in control of ourselves, what concerns us, what matters to us in our everyday lifestyle, not just personally, but environmentally, universally.

We must learn to find balance in the chaos, no matter how overwhelmed you might be. The fact is, you have every reason to be here right now and if you are reading this right now , and it happens to be that you find yourself confused, doubting, or listening to that criticizing voice in your head, critiquing your life, telling you what you can and cannot say or do, you have the power to transform the energy to love. No matter what you may be experiencing, do not judge yourself. It’s happening for a reason plus that is not your duty, it’s not your responsibility. Your responsibility is, to “Do as you may in alignment with your conscience” and let the rest play out.

Stop criticizing yourself. Choose self love. If you love yourself, others will love you, if you judge and criticize yourself, others will judge and criticize you. It is what it is. You should know that whenever you judge yourself, you insert fear into your aura and that lowers your vibration, your battery life, your electro magnetic voltage. Look at it like a phone fully charged, and the more you interact with the phone the battery life reduces, for instance, fear would be like an app, Instagram or maybe a game you’re used to playing on the phone, your battery weakens way faster because of the amount of energy the app has and the time you spend on it. Your daily energy and lifespan increases or reduces based on what you do every day. So, be nice to yourself, be kind, practice self love instead of self judgement.

As it turns out, there are so many different things happening in our society today, distracting, upsetting and emotionally controlling people. As a result, anxiety, depression, fear, self doubt, criticism, self judgment and different types mental issues gradually begin to flood in.. It is your duty to be responsible for what you think, eat and do because you are a part of the universe, a part of the whole and if you do your duty, others will do theirs and on and on.. Then, in little or no time the world will become light again, even better than we have imagined. It will be the change we’ve been collectively working on.

The gift of the present moment

Are you present with yourself ?

Are you here right now? Is it possible you’re still having other thoughts cross your mind even as you’re reading this ?

Well, just checking in..

Most of us experience continuous chatter in our minds. We have so many countless thoughts about the future, the past, or judgments about what is, which just seems to flow through our minds as if in a neverending stream.

Remember, time is now and your mind is a very powerful machine that can be used to build and also to destroy. Your mind works both clockwise and anticlockwise. You’re able to dwell in the past just the same way you fantasize about the future and this creates continuous chatter in your mind.

This chatter, has it’s consequences and disadvantages. The main one is that we are continuously distracted from what’s actually going on in the present moment. In other words, we tend to experience life through our thoughts rather than through direct experience.

When you are present with yourself, you begin a new story. You create a new reality. You are creating in the now. The highest reality is THE GIFT OF THE PRESENT MOMENT.

Everyday is a gift, a present. Open it up and live it.

When you refuse to open up yourself and live in the now, overthinking, worry, anxiety, depression and many other low vibrations find a new home through a hole in your aura to gladly enter.

We live in a mental world. So it requires a bit of discipline to live in the now and a lot of love and gratitude. If I were you, I’ld choose right now because it is all you are certain of.

Every thing you might have or had or want is either in the past or in the future. They are imaginary (the mentality ie, it’s all in the head). It is not present, not now. The now is the present moment. The present reality.

Where are you mentally now?

Do you know where you are emotionally now?

What about as an evolving being right now?

These are the questions you should ask yourself as you evolve on this endless journey. Below is a video talking about the advantages and benefits of living in the present moment.



If you want to experience the benefits of living in the present, you want to start using ways that allow you to focus on the present moment little by little. 

It’s a matter of moving your attention away from your thoughts and towards what’s actually happening here now.

The present is a gift, open it up.

The time is now!

Whether you’re aware or asleep, the time is now. Our planet has been split. A reset has occurred in the sky. Do you remember “As above so below”, well, it’s time to get ready for the “below” aka the reset, changes that will begin to happen on earth from all around the world.

A reset, is simply a do- over, more so start afresh. It is a Death and a rebirth at the same time. Think about it like rebooting your computer after a virus.

Everything that happens energetically/spiritually must happen physically as they are one and the same. The great reset, the rebirth, the beginning of a new dawn is here. Can you feel it in the air ? Jupiter and Saturn conjuncting at 0 degrees signifies a major restart button has been hit. People will begin to wake up, feeling different, stronger, fearless, joyful, carefree, collaborative,creative ,imaginative etc . On the dark side, a lot of people will be entering a new phase of a very long shadow work, self development and healing journey, government would do the extreme to hold their ground ( aka the old world ) which could lead to extremities, companies and industries coming together or crashing out of the blue, vaccines being made mandatory etc due to the vastness of the reset.

Everything is filtered through multi-layers. Like levels of coding for a game , the layers go deep. As you begin to become aware, you might get either really pissed or very very sad depending on your empathic battery life. No matter what level you are on spiritually, there are times where you feel like you’re the only one experiencing all that wisdom and downloads and knowledge, I assure you, you’re not the only one. There are many others out there who do not feel comfortable enough to share their truth, one way or the other we all go phases of awakening during our journey in this passage called life.

Would you rather wait till the next great conjunction or your next life to align with the truth of who and what you are ?

The world has begun its new regime. New air, new species, renewed vibration which I’m feeling to be distinctly different from what we’ve experienced the last decade. A woman is only pregnant for a period of time, eventually she delivers herself an offspring. Likewise, Mother Earth has been pregnant for quite some time now, going through hard labor, pains, and even malnutrition just as women have been ridiculed, Stepped on, trashed, maltreated and so on. They’ve been non- existent for a very long time in our 3D reality. Forgetting they are the reason we all exist. They are one in the same . Harmony is the answer.

We tend to forget the space we are currently holding is a feminine space. We are in the womb, the belly of the beast and the beast is ready to be out of the womb. As a divine feminine, I can feel it in the air already. The smell, the energy, the moods, the vibe..This is a very beautiful being we’re all consciously co-creating right now on the planet. It might take a minute to be very clear to the masses , however, the land must be cleansed for the baby to pop out. I.e We might be seeing many deaths, experiencing the extreme lows, maybe natural disasters, National drama and collective disagreements but that’s only to usher in the fruit of the womb, the new world, new type of leaders, creative and very innovative people teaming up,etc .. (Think of it as in “No pain no gain”.)

As I had written on my last post, The sky is falling, there are very serious wars going on in the sky, ships are clashing, fighting, collapsing, all on your behalf, the ancestors are doing what they do best, just as down below, authorities are being exposed, revealing the truths, on the bright side, this is enlightening the people, You are beginning to pay attention to your surroundings, your upbringings and your mindsets. Thing is, You have to decide where you belong. There or here ?, Nothing is predestined.Everything changes. This is the time to prepare and trust in nothing but yourself. The illusion is becoming very clear and the spell magicians are being exposed. When else will there be a better time for you to be your own magic?

The time is now. Embrace your demons as you embrace your angels. You’ll be needing them as one. Align with yourself as the stars and planets align for the greatest conjunction we’ve had in a very very longtime. Ignorance is the most expensive gift of mankind.

WAKE UP. THE TIME IS NOW

Self Expression

Are you free? Are you truly free to live or say whatever you want, whenever you want, however you decide? Can you express yourself without fear in totality? Are you REAL? Are you living according to your creators wish?

Most people are out here agreeing and accepting every thing that’s thrown at their faces like they don’t have a choice. This has got to stop. We need to express ourselves exactly how we want to. I hear, there is freedom of speech ( but I don’t hear about the consequences of speaking up). People fear to express themselves exactly how they should or exactly how they want to. Why, you may ask ? Well, BECAUSE THEY HAVE BEEN PSYCHOLOGICALLY BRAINWASHED into accepting that someone else should think for them plus there is the “hush hush” part about the consequences of self expression.

You know there’s more to life. You know you’re being called to do something greater.We’re a community of like-minded and evolved beings just like you on a mission to help you realize your maximum potential and free people from physical,mental and spiritual prisons. This is why Barisity.com is called a Sity of Royalties for true FREEDOM.

In recent times, people are waking up from this deep slumber and spells that’s being constantly cast on individuals right in front of their faces, through music, media, twisted history, traditions and cultures. Most of these things are being tweaked and passed along generations over and over again. Why do we accept this, some smart ones may be thinking ? Well, my brother and sister, THE POWER OF SELF EXPRESSION COMES WITH A PRICE!!

Consider that with every action and every choice you make, you are expressing some part of yourself. When you donate to a beggar, you’re expressing kindness. When you raise your voice at another, you’re expressing anger. It’s always about the intention behind the action, the energy behind the deed. Those who cook may have realized this. When we cook with love and care, our dish has a special feel to it. When we do not put effort into our cooking, the dish turns out mediocre and bland. Self-expression is the act of bringing something deep within us into observable form – the art of creation. The question is not whether we express ourselves, but what are we expressing? The more connected we are to ourselves, the more authentic our expression. The more authentic our expression, the more confident and attractive we become. Who are you, and what is your message to the world? As you uncover more and more of yourself, the core of who you are comes to the fore. Who you are begins to shine through in what you do.

So what exactly is self expression?

Let me start by telling you a dream of mine, about a decade ago, I had this recurring dream of someone holding my throat but an invisible someone, I open my mouth to scream with all the energy charged up in me yet not a single sound comes out when I think I’m making a very loud noise, then I get madder and try harder,same thing. It was very annoying at first because as a hueman being we all have “vocal cords” which are in charge of our sounds. So when I speak you should hear me because I’m communicating with you through a chord you and I both have. This dream kept going on and on for weeks until one day I got so pissed and I was just like you know what “IM DONE WITH THIS SHIT”!! Then I decided that when the time came I won’t scream with my outer voice but my inner voice. So I had the dream again, it was on a Saturday morning, I remember vividly how I tried using my right hand to find what’s holding back my voice and I made the loudest sound ever without using my voice. It was my inner voice. I screamed so loud inside my heart that not only did the feeling of my throat being held disappear but the feeling of fear, fear of trying something new completely vanished! All it did was make me uncomfortable for a sec. ( THE PRICE OF SELF EXPRESSION ).

Now, the moral of that story is this —— I had a voice I couldn’t use, out of fear of the unknown, I felt hooked, choked and scared to do what I ought to do but until I DECIDED NOTHING COULD STOP ME, I was helpless. I decided ! Then, I found another way and I didn’t care what happened, I just did it. (Let me tell you a secret, I had not the slightest clue what was going to happen, whether it was going to make an external sound or not). I just “KNEW” I had to do something instantly. The moral of this ??—— FOLLOW YOUR INSTINCTS. You might be wrong or right it doesn’t matter. Just do it!!

This dream made me a stronger and fearless leader because I realized so many things 10 years after. If you don’t use what the creator has given to you , it will be taken away from you. If you choose to be scared, it will be taken away from you, If you allow yourself to be bullied, it will be taken away from you . IF YOU HAVE SKILLS, TALENTS AND PASSIONS YOU DO NOT PURSUE, guess what ? It will be taken away from you. And it goes on and on ….. We all have the ability and the power to express ourselves exactly how we want to. Don’t allow the program that has been installed in your life continue being the driver of your decisions. TAKE CHARGE or be preyed upon. Your choice.

Self expression by definition is the Expression of one’s own personality, feelings, or ideas, as through speech or art. It is a vital piece of the puzzle that is fulfillment in life; Self expression allows us to be our best selves, reach our full potential, and make valuable contributions to the world we live in. It simply is when people show that they are different from everyone else. They may choose to express themselves by how they look, what they say, or by using different types of artistic ways to show you who they are.

This place is a community of people just like you, all seeking to achieve their dreams and support one another in that mission.

Here are some ways you can start expressing yourself. Courage is key! Dare to put yourself into what you do. You can choose one or do them all.

  1. Say what you really want to say
  2. Take a risk and do something you’ve been fantasizing about
  3. Take a picture
  4. Doodle something
  5. Freestyle journal
  6. Sing, rap, write, dance.

Allow yourself to suck at first. Give yourself permission to learn and grow. Take the pressure off and let yourself stretch your wings along the runway to mastery. Once you begin, you never know where your expressions will take you. I’ve always enjoyed mentoring, teaching, making music and writing, but never took my love for writing seriously until last year. Since then, the universe has been urging me to continue. Each time I think of giving up my writing, I would get a message from a reader telling me how my writing impacted them and how much they appreciated my writing. That’s the magic of self-expression: just by being who you are, you can inspire and heal others.

You owe it to yourself to achieve your dreams. Express yourself. NO ONE CAN DO IT EXACTLY HOW YOU CAN DO IT! Don’t let it get taken away from you. You have only one life to live.

You can choose to hire me to coach you on your own journey as well or help you HEAL YOURSELF from your traumas. I’m always available. Feel free to comment down below or send me an email. I’ve got you.

The journey to happiness

Everybody wants to be happy. It’s the most common goal hue man beings have and it’s simply because we live in a society where happiness comes last. People have been psychologically brainwashed into thinking that you have to work hard to be happy, be married or have a lot of money etc.

The journey to happiness is simply the journey to self, which is simply a self conscious lifestyle. Happiness is a lifestyle. You have to decide it and choose it over anything every single day. That’s where discipline comes in. Self discipline is self mastery.

How do you know if you’re mastering yourself? You know by the things you spend most of the time doing daily. By being accountable, observing your habits, thought processes and being in tune with your true nature. It’s as delicate as taking care of a baby’s very unstable needs. It requires vulnerability and childlike imagination.

An author once said, “Happiness is like a butterfly: the more you chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder”.

If you’ve been looking for happiness, the good news is that your choices, thoughts and actions can influence your level of happiness. It’s not as easy as flipping a switch, but you can turn up your happiness level.

Below are a few steps to follow on the journey to happiness.

The first step is to make a conscious choice to boost your happiness. Then, cultivate the habit of gratitude.Make a commitment to practice gratitude. Each day identify at least one thing that enriches your life. When you find yourself thinking an ungrateful thought, try substituting a grateful one. For example, replace “My wife forgot my birthday” with “My wife has always been there for me during tough times.”

Practice exercise or yoga ——Try to include it in your daily routine . Practice yoga or exercise daily for 30 minutes at least in the morning . It will make you healthy and increase the oxygen level in the body. Health is wealth as they always say. The healthier you are the happier you become. You will feel more in tune with your body and more confident if you practice yoga or exercise daily. It helps to keep your mental and physical health up to the mark.

Meditate——— This is a very qualified way of keeping yourself happy and energetically high always. Once you know the proper technique and start doing it daily for 10-15 minutes, you will be at a different level than you are right now.

Cultivate the habit of forgiveness—— Holding a grudge and nursing grievances can affect physical as well as mental health. Learn to forgive, (practice makes better). Learn the art of letting go.

Practice unconditional love ——- Pretend you have an emotional bank account. Fill it with kind words and actions. Be careful and gracious with critique. Also, let people know that you appreciate what they do for you or even just that you’re glad they’re part of your life.

Practice being optimistic—- If you’re not an optimistic person by nature, it may take time for you to change your pessimistic thinking. Start by recognizing negative thoughts as you have them. Take note of them, then ask your self why you you feel or think that way ? Ask yourself does that serve your highest good.? Ask yourself if that makes you happy right now, does it benefit your creator ? . Then proceed to the opposite of those thoughts and repeat every time you catch yourself being negative.

Live in the present moment —- Don’t postpone joy waiting for a day when your life is less busy or less stressful. That day may never come. Instead, look for opportunities to savor the small pleasures of everyday life. Focus on the positives in the present moment, instead of dwelling on the past or worrying about the future.

Also, spending time with supportive friends, associates or family, cultivating a grateful attitude and an optimistic outlook, focusing on your purpose, and living in the present can help you take steps toward being happier.

The journey to happiness is the journey to your most authentic self. Rule no 1. Fuck what they think. Live your life and be happy. You absolutely deserve it!