How to heal from depression through psychotherapy

Depression brutally assaults us and promotes hopelessness. This is because depression is not a pure feeling but an effort to ward off a complex mix of unwanted ones. Anger, frustration, irritation, and grief are feelings we tend to find intolerable, we don’t want to feel them, we avoid them. When we’re depressed, we’re engaging in a psychic battle to blot out these unwanted feelings. It’s a battle with your self. Usually, the part of yourself you’re scared to face or the part you’re traumatized by. Common psychic defenses against painful feelings include ignoring feelings, projection.

We got to do better at becoming our best selves everyday. In today’s world, depression carries with it a very high cost in terms of relationship problems, family suffering and lost work productivity and mental illnesses. Yet, depression is highly treatable.

Every feeling is a state of mind . Hence, depression is a state of mind of being deeply pressed over a situation.

States are locations, a state of mind– is a location in your mind and we can change locations cant we? The intention of this post is to remind you that every kind of sickness is a mental state of being as it is physical. Therefore, if we can heal the mind we can heal the body and vice versa. All you need do is change your state (location) of well-being and you can heal the illness. In my last post, Let’s Talk Therapy, i wrote about what psychotherapy is and how it plays a major role in helping to alleviate the most common types of disorders or illnesses.

When depression appears in your life, think of it as a cry for help from your subconscious. Listen to it, find out what it’s trying to tell you. Only when you confront and understand the true cause of your depression, then take action to address it, will you finally be liberated from it no matter what the temperature outside.

What Causes Depression?

Depression does not have one single cause. It can be developed for a number of different reasons, some include:

Stressful life events. An upsetting incident such as a death in the family or the breakdown of a romantic relationship can lead people to depression. Job stress or financial woes are also common causes. Early life experiences can also play a role. People who try to deal with these issues on their own and shut themselves off from family and friends are especially vulnerable to developing depression.

Personality and heredity. People who have certain personality traits are also susceptible to depression. Those who are excessively self-critical or have very low self-esteem are at particular risk. Moreover, if you have a family history of depression – such as a depressed parent or sibling – it is possible you could become depressed yourself. However, this is not a given, many people with such histories do not become depressed.

Illness and aging. Any illness can trigger depression in certain individuals, especially if it has repercussions on your activity level or sex life. In particular, people with life-threatening or recurrent illnesses are prone to depression. Thyroid problems and head injuries can also lead to mood swings. In addition, aging can make some people feel depressed.

Drug and Alcohol Use. People who turn to drugs or alcohol to deal with problems are more likely to end up even more depressed because these substances can bring on or worsen depression. Moreover, those who become addicted often experience family or work problems, which can also contribute to depression.

Giving birth. Postnatal depression can be triggered by the emotional, physical and hormonal changes that accompany giving birth as well as the responsibility and challenges of caring for a baby and changes in the family structure.

Core Symptoms of Depression

  1. A persistent low mood and/or feelings of sadness, with or without weepiness.
  2. Lack of energy and motivation: this is marked by lack of interest or pleasure in activities you may have previously enjoyed.
  3. Sleep problems
  4. Appetite changes
  5. Tiredness
  6. Sluggish movements or agitation
  7. Difficulty in concentrating and day to day problem solving
  8. Feelings of guilt and/or worthless
  9. Suicidal thoughts

How to hunt down your own depression

Rather than viewing depression as a monster to flee from, look it in the eye, investigate the feelings that you are “depressing” and avoiding. For example, you may say, “I feel depressed today.” The questions that follow should be: Why today? What am I ignoring? What issue am I not addressing?

When does depression need treatment or psychotherapy?

Any bout of depression that lasts more than two weeks can benefit from treatment, and the earlier it is begun, the better. Early treatment has the highest likelihood of bringing about full remission of symptoms and preventing relapse or recurrence. The so-called burden of depression is great, as the disorder is a major cause of missed work and poor productivity, and it has a devastating effect on relationships, family life, physical health, and general quality of life.

How Does Psychotherapy Help Depression?

Psychotherapy helps people with depression:

  • Understand the behaviors, emotions, and ideas that contribute to his or her depression.
  • Understand and identify the life problems or events — like a major illness, a death in the family, a loss of a job or a divorce — that contribute to their depression and help them understand, which aspects of those problems they may be able to solve or improve.
  • Help to restructure ways of thinking, negative attributes and attitudes someone has about himself, and ways in which faulty thinking may perpetuate depression.
  • Regain a sense of control and pleasure in life.
  • Learn coping techniques and problem-solving skills.

Types of Therapy for Depression

Therapy can be given in a variety of formats, including:

  • Individual: This therapy involves only the patient and the therapist.
  • Group: 2 or more patients may participate in therapy at the same time. Patients are able to share experiences and learn that others feel the same way, and have had the same experiences.
  • Marital/couples: This type of therapy helps spouses and partners understand why their loved one has depression, what changes in communication and behaviors can help, and what they can do to cope.
  • Family: Because family is a key part of the team that helps people with depression get better, it is sometimes helpful for family members to understand what their loved one is going through, how they themselves can cope, and what they can do to help.

Approaches to Therapy

While therapy can be done in different formats — like family, group, and individual — there are also several different approaches that mental health professionals can take to provide therapy. After talking with the patient about their depression, the therapist will decide which approach to use based on the suspected underlying factors contributing to the depression.

Therapy Tips

Therapy works best when you attend all of your scheduled appointments and participate actively in the work of treatment. The effectiveness of therapy is not a passive process depends on your active participation. It requires time, effort, and consistency. As you begin therapy, establish some goals with your therapist. Then spend time periodically reviewing your progress with your therapist.

Psychotherapy vs Counseling

Psychotherapy and counseling both use psychological methods to help patients with a mental or emotional problem or disorder.

Some people make a small distinction between the two terms: “Counseling” is a brief treatment that targets a specific symptom or situation, while “psychotherapy” is a longer-term treatment that attempts to gain more insight into someone’s problems. However, many people use the terms interchangeably and over here at Barisity we offer both services.

Let’s Talk Therapy


Talk therapy or psychotherapy as it is widely known is a process where emotional and psychological issues are worked on via communication between a client and a therapist to aid effective healing and change of behavior and overcome problems in a desired way.

Are you feeling overwhelmed with your tasks, your responsibilities, your feelings or your life in general? You tried to stay positive, but your mind goes around in negative thoughts? Psychotherapy could be the best answer for you!

In the modern world, millions of people die every year due to depression, fear, suicide, and many more common emotional and mental health issues. In many countries, there is a huge stigma about mental diseases and people end up not looking for help.

Either you are looking for help for yourself or someone else, or you just want to learn more about it, this is a serious matter and having information about the possible treatments is essential. Therefore, let’s keep reading and find out more about psychotherapy.

The process and benefits of Talk Therapy


Psychotherapy is one of the treatments used to deal with a variety of mental diseases and emotional challenges. It can be used by itself, in combination with medication or in combination with other therapies and alternative medicines. 

Through this process, the professional will help you first identify your problems and in many cases recognize them. Then by means of several different approaches, the psychologist will help the patient face their issues and work through them, in order to control and treat them. This way, the patient will be able to live a happier, lighter and healthier life.

Psychotherapy is about opening up to a therapist about your struggles, in a way that allows your therapist to hear and empathize with what you are going through. Therapists often practice active listening, taking an objective stance and giving their clients useful tools and information to try to make real and meaningful changes in their lives.

By the time you finish the treatment with your therapist, you will find out that not only you were able to face your problems and solve them, but also that you were given the tools to face future issues in your life. You will feel stronger and more capable.

It is also a very practical way of solving many issues and it is nothing to be ashamed of. Most people tend to perceive therapy as a weak medium of healing because, their belief system perceives talking to a professional as a waste of time. But really, there are many underlying issues that stems from deeper psychological wounds that a ‘regular’ person might not be able to see. It is advisable to solve a problem from the root cause other than the surface solution which will not last very long.

Psychotherapy enables you heal mental and emotional issues in a way that is very unique because it challenges your perception and heals you instantly in most cases. Some take a couple of sessions and others like any other medicine goes through a process, a series of medications ( in this case with your therapist).

By talking to a mental health professional, those with anxiety, suffering from grief, and any other emotional struggles have found that their quality of life has improved. Change can happen anywhere from a small increase to feeling completely cured – the spectrum of help provided through psychotherapy is vast and can be long-term.

Those with mental and emotional health problems often feel like there is no way out of their problems. If they cannot be helped by a mental health professional, their first resource outside of medicine is usually self-medicating through drugs or alcohol. Others simply spiral out of control, which can lead to even worse mental disorders down the road or even suicide. By seeking the help of a psychotherapist, your problems and struggles can be minimized by receiving support and the tools you need to better respond to life’s difficulties.

Psychotherapy is advised for cases of:

  • Challenges coping with daily life
  • Physical Illness
  • Treat the impact of trauma
  • Medical illness
  • Overthinking
  • Mental health issues
  • Deal with loss
  • Specific mental disorders like anxiety and depression
  • Spiritual worries
  • Eating disorders
  • Substance abuse

How do you get the most out of psychotherapy?

First, be willing and open to therapy. Many suffering from mental health issues, life’s many obstacles or addictions have a crippling fear of failure or aren’t fully committed to the recovery and healing process. It’s imperative that you cooperate with your psychotherapist and follow any at-home instructions they offer you.

Remember that therapy is a two-way street. Your therapist has responsibilities to treat you competently with approved therapy methods and understanding. You also have a responsibility to be open to what your therapist has to say.

How do I know the therapy is working?

First and foremost, your therapist will establish goals of therapy with you in regards to your current problem. These goals can be both long and short-term, but they should be set out within a few sessions. Short-term goals can be easily tracked, but your long-term goals may be more important to keep in mind. By focusing on the progress you’ve made towards your goals, should be a great way to track your success.

Also, remember to take baby steps, no one wants to be uncomfortable or have to go through a long process to recover, however, that might be what it takes. You probably won’t see instant results, so don’t be discouraged if change doesn’t happen right away. Any type of progress is a process.

The results of psychotherapy?

In order for it to work, the patient must be available, to be honest, and open, and also needs to trust the therapist. The therapist must be respectful and follow the ethical rules of the profession.

The treatment can be held only for a few sessions, or by months or even years. It depends especially on the problem that is being treated, and on the patient.

A healthy life is a wealthy life

There are so many things required to live a standard, enjoyable and fulfilled life. Things like good nutrition, physical exercise, and healthy sleep are extremely important. Therefore, your lifestyle plays a very major role in determining the wholeness of your health. Practices like meditation, yoga and breathwork are very vital to maximize your potential. See yoga and its health benefits.

Despite that it’s also important to ask for advice if you if you are out of balance. No man is an island they say.

If you feel you need some help, to overcome any kind of pressure, be it social, emotional, mental or relationship pressure, It is ok to seek professional or spiritual guidance. It can give you back the joy of life!

Chromotherapy: How to balance physical, mental and emotional health with colors

Life on our planet, as we know it, depends on light. Light creates life and if it were not for the sun’s energy, life on our planet would cease to be. It makes sense then, as instruments are developed to harness the color light spectrum, that our body would respond in healing ways to this exposure(such as infrared, light therapy sauna treatments etc.)

When colors enter the body as light, they have an effect on the health of our brain, organs and body systems. Different colors are powerful and able to not only stimulate different parts of the body and the mind but heal them completely. These practices have existed since the ancient times in Egypt and Asia.

The rainbow has long since been a promise of hope and love for inhabitants of planet earth. These auspicious moments afford us the unique opportunity to observe the color spectrum of light that encircles us at all times. While the rainbow of color can only be observed with our eyes under particular conditions of moisture occurring simultaneously with the sun’s luminosity, in reality, this spectrum of color bathes and serenades us in its beauty at all times.

Chromotherapy or Color Therapy Healing is the practice that uses the 7 colors of the spectrum to improve our mental well-being and the health of our bodies. The 7 colors (of the rainbow as discussed in COLORS AND SPIRITUALITY) have the ability to affect the vibrations of the body in the frequencies that affect health, welfare and harmony.

So how does color therapy work?

Well, in exactly the same way that different frequencies of sound energy are musical pitches, so are colors different frequencies of visible light energy.

As you already know, each cell, organ, and body system has its own distinct frequency. When disease strikes, that frequency is altered. But it can be easily corrected by applying the original healthy frequency in the form of colored light.

Chromotherapy, or color light therapy, is a holistic and non-invasive treatment that can bring health and balance to your body and mind. Specialists and healers know that the vibrations of colors in these therapy sessions improve the overall health, since colors adjust body vibrations to frequencies that result in balance and harmony.

Each color possesses frequencies of a specific vibration, and each vibration is related to different physical symptoms. So, how does it work and which are the colors of the color spectrum that treat specific body areas?

How Chromotherapy can heal your body and mind

With the physical and mental body, it happens the same way. Chromotherapy can help harness the energy of the sunlight to boost natural healing ability of the body, not only to cure diseases but also to prevent them. Within the mental plane, they stimulate emotions and feelings such as:

  • Vitality and passion (Red);
  • Optimism and expansion (Orange);
  • Healing and growth (Green);
  • Joy and Creativity (Yellow).

We should remind you that colors are made up of reflected lights that hit our retinas as wavelengths vibrate. Our brain then interprets these wavelengths, which makes our perception of color a physical and sensory experience.

The therapy itself is based on the idea that colors create electrical impulses in our brains that stimulate hormonal and biochemical processes in our body and these processes either calm or stimulate us.

In a Chromotherapy session, the therapist will give you a color analysis and explain you the effects of the colors. Then, you will be asked about the aspects of your life on which these colors can improve.

Keep in mind that your color therapy session and the shades of colors used will vary depending on the type of ailment that you are trying to correct.

Color therapy for the body

Color therapy works on various energy points to help balance your body via the full spectrum of visible light, each color addressing a distinct need.

When used for healing the body, Chromotherapy utilizes colors based on their electrical and heating properties. Some colors actually cool and soothe the nerves while some can excite or heat the blood. So, in this sense reddish colors, in color therapy, are used to stimulate and increase the action of arterial blood.

Yellow sunlight, for example, can be enhanced through yellow glass to help treat patients suffering from chronic bronchial irritation and colds. Drinking water stored in yellow wine bottles is known to help treat severe constipation.

Blue and violet colors have cooling and electrical properties. Blue light color therapy helps with sciatica and even complex case of lung haemorrhage. Blue and white used together in chromotherapy helps to treat rheumatism or nervousness.

Chromotherapy for the skin

In recent years light therapy has become popular in spas around the world as people look for non-invasive ways to reduce the appearance of fine lines and wrinkles. As it turns out, the same positive impact that light therapy has on cellular regeneration in other parts of the body also applies to the skin.

From healing serious burn wounds, psoriasis, and providing mesmerizing effects on skin vitality, chromotherapy coupled with exposure to the infrared spectrum of light is producing groundbreaking results as a skin treatment. In addition to the results that light therapy has on the skin, it has also been found to enhance and stabilize mood for individuals suffering from depression and seasonal affective disorder.

Chromotherapy capitalizes on the benefits derived from exposure to the color spectrum of light to ignite biochemical changes in the body and brain. Skin is rejuvenated, sleep is improved, and mood is stabilized. When this therapeutic practice is done, you see the benefits instantly as magic begins to occur at the physiological level.

An overview of colors used in Chromotherapy

We all know that light is composed of colors. This is, light can actually be broken down into a seven color spectrum: red, orange, yellow, green, blue, indigo and violet.

As one of the most ancient healing therapies that have been used in several parts of the world – since color therapy possibly has roots in Indian medicine, ancient Egyptian culture and traditional Chinese healing – alternative medicine practitioners that work with Chromotherapy often relate the seven colors of the color spectrum to specific body areas, namely:

Red

Red is believed to increase the pulse, raise blood pressure and increase the rate of breathing. Red would be applied to support circulatory and nervous functions.

Strong pink

This color acts as a cleanser, strengthening veins and arteries.

Pink

Pink activates and eliminates impurities in the blood stream.

Orange

As a mixture of red and yellow, orange activates and eliminates localized fat. Assists with asthma and bronchitis.

Strong yellow

Strong yellow strengthens the body and activates internal tissues.

Yellow

Yellow has been used to purify the skin, to help with indigestion, to strengthen the nervous system, to treat glandular diseases, hepatitis and lymphatic disorders and to assist metabolism.

Green

As a mixture of blue and yellow, green, a color associated with harmony, provides a neutral, positive calming effect.

Strong green

Strong green provides anti-infectious, anti-septic and regenerative stimulation.

Strong blue

Strong blue lubricates joints, helps address stress, nervous tension and infections.

Blue

Blue promotes relaxation and calm. Blue exhibits tranquilizing qualities often used to relieve headaches and migraines, colds, stress, nervous tension, rheumatism, stomach pains, muscle cramps and liver disorders. Blue is thought to have a positive effect on all kinds of pain.

Indigo

Indigo is used to address conditions involving the eyes, ears and nose. It has a calming, sedative effect.

Violet

This color is used to calm the nervous system, soothe organs and relax muscles. Violet has very calm & meditative characteristics which is often used to treat conditions of the lymphatic system and spleen, as well as urinary disorders and psychosis.

The colors according to the rainbow, the chakras, the aura are all the same and are used in that manner, corresponding to the disease and the connecting chakra as seen below.

Everyday is a test

If you thought that life’s tests were over when you finished school, guess again. There are so many tests in life, and they can be much more difficult than biology or physics. And there isn’t that much homework we can do to prepare for these kinds of tests, either. When we pass life’s tests, we discover that we do have that inner strength after all.


In school you are taught a lesson and given a test, in life you are given a test and taught a lesson.

Have you ever wondered what the purpose of your life is? Common answers are “happiness,” financial success”, true ❤ or “satisfaction.” While these are all worthwhile goals, I say the purpose of your life is to face head on, every challenge, every test, as a chance for you to become the person you are meant to be. Life is a test for you to be and become your best and highest self.

When you face the tests of life, learn from them and grow with them, you become that person. The tests of life require you to call on the inner resources residing deep inside you.

In life you are given a test that teaches you a lesson and it turns out to be that everyday is a TEST. Every moment there is a new challenge, ( which is always an opportunity).

In my local language we say “ problem no dey finish”, which means there is always something else after this. We have to find our way in the world, and all along we face tests of physical illness, mental troubles, financial reversals, unfulfilled expectations, and loss.

Life is indeed a test of many things, our faith & faithlessness, our convictions & priorities, our endurance & patience, and in the very end, our ultimate desires.

The way of a true spiritual life actually begins where we are now in the mess of our lives.

We’ve lost touch with our souls. We’ve been nourishing our minds, our relational skills, our theological knowledge, our psychological well-being, our physiological health… but we’ve abandoned our souls. ‘Mike Yaconelli.’

The most powerful weapon on earth is a human soul that’s on fire! Ignite that spark by recognizing the lessons of all you had to go through to be where you are right now.

On the video below, i talked about how to recognize the tests so you don’t have to repeat the lessons in order to graduate to the best and highest version of YOU!


Intention and Attention

You have the power to create a reality that excites you on every level. Through your intentions you can land your dream relationship, travel to places you thought you’d never go, and live a life that at one point may have felt out of reach. The possibilities are endless. But it’s not the intention alone that brews this seemingly magical power.

Intention is internal ( yin ) while attention is external (yang). Just another choice of words for Yin and yang. Intentions and goals are different. Intention is like a theme and goals are the ways to achieve that intention. For example, the intention can be to stay fit and healthy, the goal can be to run a 5 kilometre distance within half an hour daily.

An intention is the budding flower given life by all of the underlying thoughts, words, and actions in the rich soil below the surface. The attention is the energy and focus extended externally.

So, how do you start your regular day? Do you wake up with or without a goal or set specific intentions? For me, everyday is a new page, a new script. I set new intentions every single day. Sometimes the same intention for some days and I “pay attention” to the same thing by taking action.

If you have not been successful in manifesting what you want, then try and re-examine your intention. Sometimes double checking to ensure your intentions are correctly created can bring the results you desire.

Everything that happens in the universe begins with intention. When I decide to buy a birthday present, shake my legs , or call a friend, it all starts with intention.

WHAT IS INTENTION?


Intention is probably one of the most essential parts of healing, abundance, manifestation, personal and spiritual development. Your intention is a large determinator of any success or failure you experience. Intention is the blueprint of your experiences and the reality you create. The right intention and, more importantly, being aware of the intentions you are setting, is very essential.

WHAT IS ATTENTION?

Attention is defined as the act of concentrating and keeping one’s mind focused on something. However, alertness is the initial step in the attention process. If we are going to do something, or listen to someone, the first thing that we need is to feel alert. In other words, we need to feel like our battery is charged, like our brains have energy. Just the way our bodies need physical energy if we are going to run, our brains need mental energy if we are going to think.

Your intention and attention is the yin and yang. The internal and external. The very essence of life. While, Attention is awareness of the here and now in a focal and perceptive way. Paying attention is the first step in the learning and growth process.

In order to manifest anything at all,you must set an intention and focus your energy (pay attention) to that in order to bring it to life.

On the video below, I dived a bit deep into what intention and attention is and how we use it to manifest.

Please watch, learn and share to as many people as you would love to.

Till the next read.