Self Judgment

We live in a world of control. A world that requires push and pull, as in, it requires gravity to exist. It’s no wonder why we are always at war with ourselves. However, we must learn to be in control of ourselves, what concerns us, what matters to us in our everyday lifestyle, not just personally, but environmentally, universally.

We must learn to find balance in the chaos, no matter how overwhelmed you might be. The fact is, you have every reason to be here right now and if you are reading this right now , and it happens to be that you find yourself confused, doubting, or listening to that criticizing voice in your head, critiquing your life, telling you what you can and cannot say or do, you have the power to transform the energy to love. No matter what you may be experiencing, do not judge yourself. It’s happening for a reason plus that is not your duty, it’s not your responsibility. Your responsibility is, to “Do as you may in alignment with your conscience” and let the rest play out.

Stop criticizing yourself. Choose self love. If you love yourself, others will love you, if you judge and criticize yourself, others will judge and criticize you. It is what it is. You should know that whenever you judge yourself, you insert fear into your aura and that lowers your vibration, your battery life, your electro magnetic voltage. Look at it like a phone fully charged, and the more you interact with the phone the battery life reduces, for instance, fear would be like an app, Instagram or maybe a game you’re used to playing on the phone, your battery weakens way faster because of the amount of energy the app has and the time you spend on it. Your daily energy and lifespan increases or reduces based on what you do every day. So, be nice to yourself, be kind, practice self love instead of self judgement.

As it turns out, there are so many different things happening in our society today, distracting, upsetting and emotionally controlling people. As a result, anxiety, depression, fear, self doubt, criticism, self judgment and different types mental issues gradually begin to flood in.. It is your duty to be responsible for what you think, eat and do because you are a part of the universe, a part of the whole and if you do your duty, others will do theirs and on and on.. Then, in little or no time the world will become light again, even better than we have imagined. It will be the change we’ve been collectively working on.

The gift of the present moment

Are you present with yourself ?

Are you here right now? Is it possible you’re still having other thoughts cross your mind even as you’re reading this ?

Well, just checking in..

Most of us experience continuous chatter in our minds. We have so many countless thoughts about the future, the past, or judgments about what is, which just seems to flow through our minds as if in a neverending stream.

Remember, time is now and your mind is a very powerful machine that can be used to build and also to destroy. Your mind works both clockwise and anticlockwise. You’re able to dwell in the past just the same way you fantasize about the future and this creates continuous chatter in your mind.

This chatter, has it’s consequences and disadvantages. The main one is that we are continuously distracted from what’s actually going on in the present moment. In other words, we tend to experience life through our thoughts rather than through direct experience.

When you are present with yourself, you begin a new story. You create a new reality. You are creating in the now. The highest reality is THE GIFT OF THE PRESENT MOMENT.

Everyday is a gift, a present. Open it up and live it.

When you refuse to open up yourself and live in the now, overthinking, worry, anxiety, depression and many other low vibrations find a new home through a hole in your aura to gladly enter.

We live in a mental world. So it requires a bit of discipline to live in the now and a lot of love and gratitude. If I were you, I’ld choose right now because it is all you are certain of.

Every thing you might have or had or want is either in the past or in the future. They are imaginary (the mentality ie, it’s all in the head). It is not present, not now. The now is the present moment. The present reality.

Where are you mentally now?

Do you know where you are emotionally now?

What about as an evolving being right now?

These are the questions you should ask yourself as you evolve on this endless journey. Below is a video talking about the advantages and benefits of living in the present moment.



If you want to experience the benefits of living in the present, you want to start using ways that allow you to focus on the present moment little by little. 

It’s a matter of moving your attention away from your thoughts and towards what’s actually happening here now.

The present is a gift, open it up.

Self Expression

Are you free? Are you truly free to live or say whatever you want, whenever you want, however you decide? Can you express yourself without fear in totality? Are you REAL? Are you living according to your creators wish?

Most people are out here agreeing and accepting every thing that’s thrown at their faces like they don’t have a choice. This has got to stop. We need to express ourselves exactly how we want to. I hear, there is freedom of speech ( but I don’t hear about the consequences of speaking up). People fear to express themselves exactly how they should or exactly how they want to. Why, you may ask ? Well, BECAUSE THEY HAVE BEEN PSYCHOLOGICALLY BRAINWASHED into accepting that someone else should think for them plus there is the “hush hush” part about the consequences of self expression.

You know there’s more to life. You know you’re being called to do something greater.We’re a community of like-minded and evolved beings just like you on a mission to help you realize your maximum potential and free people from physical,mental and spiritual prisons. This is why Barisity.com is called a Sity of Royalties for true FREEDOM.

In recent times, people are waking up from this deep slumber and spells that’s being constantly cast on individuals right in front of their faces, through music, media, twisted history, traditions and cultures. Most of these things are being tweaked and passed along generations over and over again. Why do we accept this, some smart ones may be thinking ? Well, my brother and sister, THE POWER OF SELF EXPRESSION COMES WITH A PRICE!!

Consider that with every action and every choice you make, you are expressing some part of yourself. When you donate to a beggar, you’re expressing kindness. When you raise your voice at another, you’re expressing anger. It’s always about the intention behind the action, the energy behind the deed. Those who cook may have realized this. When we cook with love and care, our dish has a special feel to it. When we do not put effort into our cooking, the dish turns out mediocre and bland. Self-expression is the act of bringing something deep within us into observable form – the art of creation. The question is not whether we express ourselves, but what are we expressing? The more connected we are to ourselves, the more authentic our expression. The more authentic our expression, the more confident and attractive we become. Who are you, and what is your message to the world? As you uncover more and more of yourself, the core of who you are comes to the fore. Who you are begins to shine through in what you do.

So what exactly is self expression?

Let me start by telling you a dream of mine, about a decade ago, I had this recurring dream of someone holding my throat but an invisible someone, I open my mouth to scream with all the energy charged up in me yet not a single sound comes out when I think I’m making a very loud noise, then I get madder and try harder,same thing. It was very annoying at first because as a hueman being we all have “vocal cords” which are in charge of our sounds. So when I speak you should hear me because I’m communicating with you through a chord you and I both have. This dream kept going on and on for weeks until one day I got so pissed and I was just like you know what “IM DONE WITH THIS SHIT”!! Then I decided that when the time came I won’t scream with my outer voice but my inner voice. So I had the dream again, it was on a Saturday morning, I remember vividly how I tried using my right hand to find what’s holding back my voice and I made the loudest sound ever without using my voice. It was my inner voice. I screamed so loud inside my heart that not only did the feeling of my throat being held disappear but the feeling of fear, fear of trying something new completely vanished! All it did was make me uncomfortable for a sec. ( THE PRICE OF SELF EXPRESSION ).

Now, the moral of that story is this —— I had a voice I couldn’t use, out of fear of the unknown, I felt hooked, choked and scared to do what I ought to do but until I DECIDED NOTHING COULD STOP ME, I was helpless. I decided ! Then, I found another way and I didn’t care what happened, I just did it. (Let me tell you a secret, I had not the slightest clue what was going to happen, whether it was going to make an external sound or not). I just “KNEW” I had to do something instantly. The moral of this ??—— FOLLOW YOUR INSTINCTS. You might be wrong or right it doesn’t matter. Just do it!!

This dream made me a stronger and fearless leader because I realized so many things 10 years after. If you don’t use what the creator has given to you , it will be taken away from you. If you choose to be scared, it will be taken away from you, If you allow yourself to be bullied, it will be taken away from you . IF YOU HAVE SKILLS, TALENTS AND PASSIONS YOU DO NOT PURSUE, guess what ? It will be taken away from you. And it goes on and on ….. We all have the ability and the power to express ourselves exactly how we want to. Don’t allow the program that has been installed in your life continue being the driver of your decisions. TAKE CHARGE or be preyed upon. Your choice.

Self expression by definition is the Expression of one’s own personality, feelings, or ideas, as through speech or art. It is a vital piece of the puzzle that is fulfillment in life; Self expression allows us to be our best selves, reach our full potential, and make valuable contributions to the world we live in. It simply is when people show that they are different from everyone else. They may choose to express themselves by how they look, what they say, or by using different types of artistic ways to show you who they are.

This place is a community of people just like you, all seeking to achieve their dreams and support one another in that mission.

Here are some ways you can start expressing yourself. Courage is key! Dare to put yourself into what you do. You can choose one or do them all.

  1. Say what you really want to say
  2. Take a risk and do something you’ve been fantasizing about
  3. Take a picture
  4. Doodle something
  5. Freestyle journal
  6. Sing, rap, write, dance.

Allow yourself to suck at first. Give yourself permission to learn and grow. Take the pressure off and let yourself stretch your wings along the runway to mastery. Once you begin, you never know where your expressions will take you. I’ve always enjoyed mentoring, teaching, making music and writing, but never took my love for writing seriously until last year. Since then, the universe has been urging me to continue. Each time I think of giving up my writing, I would get a message from a reader telling me how my writing impacted them and how much they appreciated my writing. That’s the magic of self-expression: just by being who you are, you can inspire and heal others.

You owe it to yourself to achieve your dreams. Express yourself. NO ONE CAN DO IT EXACTLY HOW YOU CAN DO IT! Don’t let it get taken away from you. You have only one life to live.

You can choose to hire me to coach you on your own journey as well or help you HEAL YOURSELF from your traumas. I’m always available. Feel free to comment down below or send me an email. I’ve got you.

You are light – shine bright

It’s a full moon, a new month also. What better time to shine? Don’t let the darkness from your past block the light and joy in your present. You are light and what’s the duty of light ? To shine!

We all have an inner light, which when translating I’ll say, we tend to call it “a dream”, within us. This is something important for each of us to know, nurture, and empower.

Dreams are what move us forward when all else seems to be against us. It’s the spark that lights our way in the darkest moments of our lives. It’s what keeps us hopeful when everyone else says to give up. It’s what warms us from the inside, when the world is cold and hostile. In recent times during the pandemic, if you were observant you could see how many creatives explored and showed different abilities, talents and skills. The isolation definitely helped with that.

Having a dream is how one justifies our existence. Acting on the dream justifies having a life. Having a dream and not letting it go dim, is having a gift and not shining bright, having a vision of how you want your world to be and not taking action. Shining bright requires us to act on it, otherwise it become dim, or worse yet, go out.

How bright are your dreams? What lights your way when all seems dark? Do they shine so brightly that others can see the light radiating from you, or do you look like the light has left your eyes? Have you lost sight of your dreams? Have you failed to act on them for a long time?

Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that. – Martin Luther King Jr.

I don’t know about you, but I’ve been there quite a number of times. From the breakup of my first relationship to my career as an artist, from hating myself to losing my job, I’ve ended up in some very dark places with my light completely out.

However, in each and every time, there has been someone or something to help me find my way, and to relight my light, but I didn’t notice them as I was lost, blind and so unready to receive them and their gift and when I became ready my gift found me and I did it myself.

What I hope you can see is how precious this gift is to others. Perhaps you have even been the recipient of this gift in your lifetime. Remember what it felt like to you, and imagine what it would have been like without others to help you. You can be that helper to others, the question is will you do it?

Sometimes, on rare occasions, you can actually do this for yourself. Like I did for myself. However, most of the time it takes outside intervention. While it is usually a friend, associate or family member, sometimes the person who relights your light is a complete stranger and I’ve seen this happen to people a lot.

No matter how you eventually do it, even if all you do is get their attention, and get them thinking about trying to find their light again, you have done a great thing for them. Sometimes, with proper motivation, they can fight their way back. Other times, it leaves them receptive to the next person who tries to help them.

How does one help someone who has lost their light? That would depend on the person, your existing relationship, and your interpersonal skills. If you notice a friend seems particularly withdrawn, you can talk to them. Starting with general topics and then try to get to what is troubling them.

With a stranger, establishing communication may be much more difficult, but at least stop for a moment and say “Hi!” to them. How you proceed from there is up to you, but I would hope you could manage to help them, if only just a tiny little bit. That may totally be what your role on earth was for the day.

We tend to overlook the small things, and we forget the Devil is in the details. The small gestures, kindness and even conversations we have could be the light you need to shine brightly to illuminate and even better heal a brother or a sister just like yourself.

Shine your light in all the ways you think you can. This is unlimited. There is no specific way, all ways lead home.

Spicy food is healing food

Being a healer and a teacher has really opened me into a whole new world I must say. I awaken more into my true divine self every moment because I see how ignorance has destroyed many many lives, both living and dead.. I enjoy being a healer because I get to speak the truth and mostly help those who are confused and going through so many deeply rooted emotional, mental and physical ailments without certainty of what is being treated and how it works via drugs or going to the hospital etc..

One of the most effective ways to heal anyone is through food, because as human beings we live via food and water ( we get physically sick through food and water so it definitely makes sense that we heal via food and water). A lot of people do not believe in what they do not see, hence this post. Healing via food is just as powerful as healing via thoughts, energetic healing, reiki healing etc.. These are all the same kinds of healing but using different routes to achieve the same aim. It all starts with the intention to heal! Most people know they are sick but they are NOT READY TO HEAL. To heal you have to BE READY TO LET GO OF WHAT MADE YOU SICK !! Doctors do not tell you that, they treat you, give you drugs, bags of drips and injections and that’s it .. You have to treat from the root of the problem, which stems from a decision to stop ✋ the root cause by knowing the root cause!

Just as spicy thoughts are healing thoughts, spicy foods are healing food. Any food or plant that is spicy, hot, like tumeric, ginger , onions, garlic , cardamom, cloves, pepper, bell peppers ( all colors), cayenne pepper, anise, Angelica, fennel, nutmeg , cinnamon, celery seeds, mustard seeds, cumin ,etc.. these are all very powerful and super healing !! They specifically heal different things in the body . ( in subsequent posts I’ll dive in details as to what each of these plants heal).

Ever had a thought come to you and it is like damn, that’s scary, terrifying, daring, surprising, unusual, ? Most of the time, it is a thought that leads to healing.. ( thought itself is a teacher!) which begs me to believe that women are naturally spicy by tongue, by nature .. and most of these spicy foods are “feminine” because they are healing.

It is more powerful to eat these foods as they are without cooking them because everything in nature is already made to its perfection. So when we cook them, no matter how little, we have decreased it’s components it’s nutrients as well as it’s healing powers and its vitality just like our thoughts, words and actions when we sugarcoat them.

Life is not a school to learn, life is a master to know and master its being ( the being itself is already a master).. We are gods in our OWN right. Every plant is a god in its own right, same as animals. Everything here is made to its perfection to serve you! Open your mind

With love ..

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