Fear of abandonment


Let’s talk about this very common fear in our society and it’s different attachment styles. The fear of abandonment is a form of anxiety about losing your loved ones. It is quite common with people who have lost a loved one. So this results into making you feel like the people in your life will disappear if you don’t put all of your efforts into relationships or you might run away from every relationship because you’re afraid of getting your heart broken. Either way, you might have a fear of abandonment.

This fear doesn’t just make a home in your chest overnight. It’s linked to the different experiences you have had with people over the years. You may feel this enormous fear because of a childhood experience or because of an abusive ex-lover.


Abandonment issues also happen when a parent does not provide the child with consistent warm or attentive interactions, leaving them feeling chronic stress and fear. Naturally children are expressive and they need love. Our body holds memory and life is like a repetitive circle. The experiences that happen during a child’s development will often continue into adulthood. This is why abandonment issues become more prevalent as you get older and can affect your relationships.

Abandonment fear could also stem from childhood loss. This loss could be related to a traumatic event, such as the loss of a parent through death, separation or divorce. It can also come from not getting enough physical or emotional care. These early childhood experiences can lead to a fear of being abandoned by others later in life.

How can the fear of abandonment be avoided?

Only the constant presence of parents or guardians in childhood, with affection and attention, can bring the security that the child needs. This way they feel that their survival will be guaranteed and they do not need to be afraid.

In the case of the child who has had conflicts in school and the unsafe partner in the adult relationship, they are both acting unconsciously as a way of drawing the attention of the mother or partner. Calling attention to yourself is an unconscious way of feeling secure.

The child begins to create mechanisms to raise the attention of parents from a very young age. When their brain realizes that their behavior is successful, that it works to gain attention, it becomes automatic so they feel safe and protected. In adult life, the same thing happens: if the fear of abandonment makes your partner try to give you more security, the insecure uses this fear as a way to gain more attention.

Types of Abandonment Issues

Abandonment issues can present themselves in three insecure attachment styles. These are: 

Avoidant Attachment Style

People who follow this style don’t allow anyone to get close to them. You may feel like you can’t open up or trust others, making you appear distant, private, or withdrawn. 

Anxious Attachment Style

People with this type of attachment style cope by developing intensely close and dependent relationships with others. You may feel anxious about separating yourself from your partner and tend to be emotionally reactive. It may be easy to see conflicts as a concern that your partner may leave, which makes you act out of fear. 

Disorganized Attachment Style

People with this attachment style have difficulty remaining intimate and close but can also be inconsistent. You may feel anxious about being in a relationship or want to avoid the closeness. This attachment style may come with other potential disorders. 

Signs you are suffering from fear of abandonment

1. You give too much in relationships

Due to your fear of abandonment, if you choose to start a relationship with someone, you go all in.

You do whatever it takes to please this person and to make them happy.

This goes to the extent of forgetting about your own wants and needs, because theirs are more important to you.

However, forgetting about your own boundaries in the name of a relationship is a clear sign you have a fear of abandonment.

You give too much and receive too little.

Relationships require work from both sides.

If he doesn’t deem all your efforts to be loving and caring acts, then it’s his fault, not yours. You don’t deserve to be in a one-sided relationship.

2. You push people away to avoid rejection

Another sign of your fear of abandonment is if you choose to avoid relationships altogether.

You push people away and don’t let them see your vulnerable side all because you’re scared you’ll get attached to them.

What happens when you get attached? You give them the possibility of hurting you.

You fear rejection because it is a direct blow to your self-esteem. It literally activates your anxiety and fear of abandonment.

That’s why it’s easier to stay away from people than to give them the possibility of hurting you.

3. You are very codependent

A very obvious sign of a fear of abandonment is when you have mostly been involved in codependent relationships.

You thrive on the fact that a person makes you feel needed, even if it’s anything but healthy.

You want to be helpful in every single way possible and they exploit that.

Your previous partners might have seen that they could take advantage of your fear of abandonment and they treated you whatever way they pleased, because they knew you wouldn’t leave.

4. You feel insecure in yourself and with your partner

As said previously, a fear of abandonment is a form of anxiety and it brings a lot of insecurities into your life.

Your fear is the main reason behind the fact that you feel extremely insecure in yourself.

You’re always looking in the mirror and nitpicking all the reasons why you deserve to be heartbroken.

This also transfers into a romantic relationship because if you don’t love yourself right then you can’t love your partner right.

You’re always questioning when he’ll leave you and you see every small fight as the end.

When he’s mad at you for whatever reason, you see that as a sign that he’ll leave you immediately, even if it’s not true.

5. You persist with unhealthy relationships

If you have a fear of abandonment then you should be able to spot it in the number of unhealthy relationships in your life.

Whether it is romantic relationships, friendships, or very unhealthy family links, you always end up as the victim.

This is because you sabotage connections by either being extremely emotionally unavailable or being very clingy.

If the other party is the one who is toxic toward you, you might not even realize it out of the fear that you might get your feelings hurt.

So you end up staying in that relationship as you can’t help it.

6. You’re very clingy

Because of your insecurities and your fear of abandonment, you can also be extremely clingy. What does this involve?

Besides always wanting to be physically around your partner, you’re also always texting and calling him.

If you do get a moment away from your partner, you get extremely anxious and you don’t even realize you’re being clingy.

Your fears and anxieties are valid, but you need to realize that no one is going to leave you permanently just because they have gone out with their friends for the night.

7. You’re jealous

Another very clear sign of a fear of abandonment is when you yourself are an extremely jealous person.

You fear that your partner will find someone better than you and leave you for them.

You see every other woman as a threat.

This leads to very uncomfortable conversations with your partner, where you’re always asking him about the women in his life, even if it’s just co-workers.

A little bit of jealousy can be adorable at times, but when it becomes a symptom of your fear of abandonment, it’s not that cute anymore.

8. You’re in a state of constant anxiety

When you think of your partner, your first instinct isn’t to feel happiness, but rather anxiety.

Your smile fades whenever you think of him and you feel your stomach make a flip.

All of this because you think about all the bad things that could happen in your relationship that may lead to a breakup.

Your first thought might even be the last time you did something wrong in your relationship and he got mad.

This anxiety doesn’t leave you. It gets less obvious when you’re right next to him, but it never truly disappears.

9. You feel unworthy of love

Your insecurities, your clinginess, everything comes from a deeply-rooted fear of abandonment. Just like the fact that you feel unworthy of love.

You feel like no one will ever be able to love you. Even if they say they do, you take that with a grain of salt.

Long-Term Effects of Abandonment Issues

A person who has experienced abandonment may be more likely to have long-term mental health issues. These are often based on the fear that abandonment will recur. A child who was abandoned by a parent or guardian may have mood swings or anger issues. These behaviors become an automated lifestyle that can alienate potential intimate partners and friends. A child’s self-esteem can also be affected by lack of parental support, love or care.

Abandonment fears can impair a person’s ability to trust others. They may make it harder for a person to feel worthy or be intimate. These fears could make a person prone to anxiety, depression, codependence, or other issues. Someone who lacks self-esteem due to childhood abandonment may seek relationships that reinforce their beliefs because that’s the language they understand.

Maintain a positive mind is a way to treat this fear


To overcome this fear, you need to do the following:

  • Maintain a positive attitude and mindset
  • Learn about yourself
  • Understand the people around you
  • Practice the habit of forgiveness
  • Say what you feel (Be clear in your communication with anyone including your partner)

When it comes to relationships, usually the detachment in relationships happens because of some concern that a person is feeling and that their thinking cannot be in focus. The greater the degree of understanding and companionship to overcome this problem, the greater the chances of living healthy relationships, which are based on affection and not on lack or fear of losing. When you are aware of the feelings you both experience, you are most likely to live in peace and harmony.

How to heal the wounded inner child

Children are born without any means to defend themselves or face the world. Children are totally dependent upon their parents for love, acceptance, and shelter. Sometimes parents fail to provide the emotional, psychological, and physical shelter required for healthy children. This results in adults who are stuck in trauma-time who remain forever ruled by an inside force, the wounded inner child. In Africa where I come from, most parents beat, punish and maltreat their children in order to discipline them. Even worse they barely listen to them which traumatizes them from an early age and they grow up with a different mentality of what love and acceptance truly is.

The inner child is the part in your psyche that still retains its innocence, creativity, awe, and wonder toward life. Quite literally, your inner child is the child that lives within you – within your psyche that is. It is important that we stay connected with this sensitive part of ourselves. When we are connected to our inner child, we feel excited, invigorated, and inspired by life. When we are disconnected, we feel lethargic, bored, empty and unhappy.

Growing up, it is the emotional and biological responsibility of our parents and family members to create a safe environment for us. But not all parents accept that responsibility, are aware of that responsibility, or have the capacity to fulfill that responsibility.

Safety doesn’t just mean physically protecting us from harm, feeding us, or the other essentials. Safety also means supporting us on the emotional, psychological, and spiritual levels inherent to us as human beings.

The process of healing your wounded inner child is one of grief, of pain. Do you have a wounded inner child inside yourself? Every child faces emotional challenges that are key-points for their personality. Parents and family are fundamental to give emotional support to overcome those challenges and create an environment of safety and protection. Although each of us has some issues that come from unprocessed emotions as a child, and for that, we all have wounds, some of us need to pay close attention to this wounded inner child.

The traumas that come from childhood have a substantial impact on your daily life and future decisions, and most of the times, we have trouble recognizing them, making them even more critical. For example, someone can avoid meaningful relationships if the environment at home was of fight and incomprehension. In extreme situations, these wounds can compromise someone’s life.

Let’s find out more about the wounded inner child and how to heal your relationship with it! Find out how to get into a reflective space.

Connect with your inner child


Start by thinking about your childhood, reflect about it. How was the environment at home? Did you feel safe? Did you feel a sense of belonging with your parents? Were you allowed to be your true self? How do you feel when you remember yourself as a child? Asked this to yourself and write down the answers and reflect about it.

Remember to take care of you, to be there for you, to take time for yourself.

Signs that you have a wounded inner child

There are some signs you need to pay close attention. If you identify many of these in your current life, remember that you need to do an effective work-related to your wounded inner child. These inside parts of ourselves have a significant impact on how we see ourselves and how we behave as adults. Some signs you have a wounded child might include that :

  • You feel there’s something wrong with you
  • You experience anxiety when you face something new
  • You want to please everyone around you
  • You experience the need to be in conflict
  • You feel inadequate
  • No achievement feels enough for you
  • You always criticize yourself
  • You are rigid and perfectionist
  • You struggle to say “no” and stand up for yourself
  • You have trusting issues
  • You never feel close to others.
  • Have a deep feeling that there is something wrong with you
  • Are a people-pleaser
  • Are a rebel and feel alive when in conflict with someone else
  • You are a hoarder
  • Are not able to let go of possessions and people
  • Experience anxiety with something new
  • Feel guilty for setting boundaries
  • Are driven to be a super-achiever
  • Are ridged and a perfectionist
  • Have problems starting and finishing tasks
  • Exhibit constant self-criticism
  • Feel ashamed at expressing emotions
  • Feel ashamed of your body
  • Have a deep distrust of anyone else
  • Avoid conflict, no matter what the cost
  • Have a deep-seated fear of abandonment.

If you feel you connect to many of these issues, let’s find out more about how you can heal your inner child.

Repeat supporting affirmations

  1. I love you: some of us used to think we needed to achieve more to be enjoyed. Tell your inner child it’s loved no matter what.
  2. I hear you: some adults don’t pay attention to what children say, what can deeply hurt someone’s feelings and never really feel they have something meaningful to share with the others. Don’t suppress your inner voice!
  3. You didn’t deserve this: it’s easy to convince ourselves we needed to suffer, or we did something wrong, and that’s why bad things are happening. Change your mindset with these simple words.
  4. I’m sorry: allow yourself to feel ok with the things you did and didn’t do, say sorry to yourself for all the times you pushed too much.
  5. I forgive you: let go of the same and regrets.
  6. Thank you: be thankful to your inner child for all the things you did, show gratitude.
  7. You did your best: accept your failures and acknowledge you’ve always done the best of you.

You can create other affirmations or mantras that are important to you, more specific to the feelings you have to heal with your inner child. Be creative, be free and always positive!

Write a letter to your inner child

Writing a letter to your inner child will help you to organize your thoughts, but it will also strengthen all the things you have left to say. There is no formula; you can write whatever you feel you haven’t yet said and that will help with this relationship.

You can also write a letter from your inner child. Get in deep connection with it and let go and write down all the things that once you wanted to say, but you were not able to. It can be one of the most potent and releasing experiences of your life.

If needed, you can repeat both practices as many times as necessary until you feel your voice was finally heard, the one from now and the one from the child in you.

Do an inner child visualization or meditation

Search for mantras, meditation or visualization that can lead you towards meeting your inner child. You can do it with the help of a coach or therapist. Another option is that you record the steps with your voice and then listen.

  1. Close your eyes
  2. Imagine yourself walking to a place where you feel safe and enter that place
  3. Give yourself some time to feel relaxed, safe and connected to this place
  4. Walk around and let your inner child appear to you
  5. Come close: What is your inner child’s face like? What are the emotions it expresses? What are the words said? – Give yourself time to communicate with it, make a question or listen to what is there to be said.
  6. Give a hug to your inner child and be thankful for it to show to you and be able to reconnect.
  7. Come back to where you were.
  8. Talk to your adult self to ask for aid in grown-up decisions
  9. Give rewards to yourself every day
  10. Get plenty of sleep
  11. Practice mindfulness to remain present
  12. Tell yourself that you love you even if it feels awkward
  13. Think about the good memories you had in childhood
  14. Make new “good” memories and traditions

After finishing, try journaling your experience. Repeat it as many times as you like, allowing different aspects of this wounded inner child and your relation to come to light. This is a very powerful tool that helped me personally on my healing journey anc could be the turning point you need.

Remember to take care of you, to be there for you, to take time for yourself. Being your protector every day is a vital part if this process, and will allow your wounded inner child to feel safe as never before, because it will be no longer dependent on the others, but it knows it can truly rely on yourself.

Practice mindfulness to remain present Tell yourself that you love you even if it feels awkward Think about the good memories you had in childhood Make new “good” memories and traditions

If you are interested in working with your inner child, I want you to reflect on your own childhood, the timeline of your early years, and how you felt as a child. Did you feel safe? Did you feel a sense of belonging in your family? Were you permitted to be you? What is your current relationship with your inner child like? All of these questions are extremely important to ask, and if you haven’t asked them yet, I hope you do. If you would also like a deep healing approach or if you prefer one on one help, feel free to drop a comment down below or send me an email. Would be glad to be of assistance.

Types Of Multidimensional Beings

Did you know that you are a multidimensional being? All humans are. Just as we also interdimensional beings. We exist in the first, second and third dimensions all the time, but we also extend into the fourth, fifth, sixth, seventh dimensions and beyond that as we develop our higher mind and expand our consciousness.

Many people think of multi dimensional beings as beings that can move between dimensions, and they exist in a dimension outside of our own. They never comprehend the idea that we are capable of being multidimensional beings ourselves. Even those who claim to have the greatest understanding of multi, inter and extra-dimensional beings forget all too easily that the human mind is an amazing tool and can elevate us to greatness if we work and train it.

Whether we like it or not, entities are everywhere in the 4th dimensional field around us. If you’ve been drawn to read this post, then I imagine you have already experienced the challenges that having beings around you might bring.

It’s a bit of a taboo subject in western culture, one of those subjects where people are a bit concerned about being labelled as ‘crazy’ so I felt inclined to break the ice and bring a bit of light to the subject. There are 4 main types of Multidimensional Beings which are animals, guides, angels and Extraterrestrials ( ET ).


Animals

Animals are far more than meets the eyes. Most come from other areas of the universe and in a certain respect they are Extra Terrestrials incarnated on earth. The bodies they inhabit on their home planet may be completely different to their bodies here or may be very similar. As humans are involved in a reincarnation cycle on earth, each group of beings throughout the universe has there own reincarnation cycle. The beings of each cycle have a similar consciousness and have similar personalities. They are expressing a part of the creator simply by being themselves. All life is evolving to a certain extent and so as each group continues its incarnations it gradually changes and becomes more of itself. Individuals can incarnate into different cycles for a life and return to their cycle or even leave their cycle and join another one if they desire to do so but generally groups tend to stay together. The reason for this is that the individuals in a group all have a connection to the same being of higher consciousness. For example all humans have higher selves which have higher selves which have higher selves which eventually meet up with each other. We are in fact the expression of a huge being that incarnates through all of us. The same goes for other civilizations and groups of beings.

It is important here to understand that the animal’s spirit or higher self comes through its light body which like ours does not shine through with perfect clarity. Like us, animals have an astral body which incarnates through the etheric and physical bodies.

Animals may seem to be less evolved than humans but if you were to see them on their home planets and in their multidimensional bodies you may realize that they are in fact very advanced. They have incarnated here into bodies that are very restricted and very much controlled by the instincts of the lower self as we reside in the 3rd dimension where matter is extremely dense. Remember that it is only a small part of them that resides within the body and as the instincts take control of their body in most situations many conclude that they are of lower consciousness than us intelligent humans. This is an illusion which was important for our purposes on earth.

All animals resonate with vast beings of higher consciousness and are but a part of these beings incarnating into the third dimension. They have come here to help us with our purposes and are all beings of infinite love and light.

What further facilitates our capacity to more fully understand and, by so doing, more deeply experience inner-peace, is when we are able to acknowledge the possibility that the human race is made up of multi-dimensional beings at varying degrees of conscious evolution and spiritual awakening. Add to this the spiritual ‘bigger picture’ that we are all a part of The Divine Plan, where all is known, pre-determined, in support of the evolutionary journey of each Soul. (Note that free will is part of The Divine Plan, for all rivers (choices/lessons) lead to the same ocean (ultimate understanding). By resonating with these phenomena, we begin to consciously acknowledge the multi-levelled experience that is life on Earth, the multi layered experiences that accompany spiritual evolution and can thus begin to consciously acknowledge, recognize, integrate and embody the fact that we ourselves are indeed multi-dimensional beings.


Guides

Guides are usually other beings who have incarnated as humans before. They are just like us except they are not incarnated while they are your guide. They may or may not incarnate again on earth but generally they have incarnated at least once before. They are fit to help guide you because they know what it is like to be here and they are not currently incarnated. They are essentially residing in their light body in higher dimensions and so they have a much broader view of reality. They are not distorted by the astral body so they can communicate with many levels, beings and dimensions clearly and with ease.

They have agreed to help guide you from the other side for this life. They are in contact with your own higher self and they know your purpose for incarnating on earth. They know a lot about you and your future and will help in whatever way they can for your highest good. However they cannot help you if you do not want them to or if what you ask is against your higher self’s purpose. All beings in higher dimensions respect your free will and it is a rule that they may not impinge upon it. If you ask them to help you they will certainly do all that they can (as long as what you ask for is within your highest good).


Angels

Angels are from higher dimensions and do not incarnate into matter. They are like creator’s messengers and healers. They will always come when asked and help to heal you and send you love. As they come from higher dimensions of love and light they are unable to really feel and understand what it is to be human. They can send us love and healing and help to guide us through certain periods of life. They are essential when it comes to spiritual work as they send vital light and love to help heal our energy bodies, activate the Light body and repair its structures. Without their help spiritual transformation would be extremely slow if possible at all.

There are different types of angels with specific tasks. For example a certain group of angels play a huge role in pregnancy and birth. If you tune into a pregnant woman with your third eye you will see and feel a huge amount of gold light around her which is the light of these angels. Incarnation into matter is a very hard process for the incoming spirit and these angels are vital for the process.

In the last 20 years (during the age of Pisces) a huge number of angels and other beings have begun to help with our spiritual awakening and transformation. Prior to this it was far more difficult to make real progress as the energies needed to transform and activate our energy bodies were not here for us.

Through your daily meditation practices you will quickly become aware of the presence of angels around you and you will be able to connect with them and communicate at any time. They are truly amazing beings. There are also guardian angels assigned to every single one of us since birth and you can connect and communicatee with them when you get ready. Just say the word. They cannot interfere without your permission, because of our free will.

Extra Terrestrials

Extra Terrestrials are any beings incarnated in the 1st to the 9th dimension that come from a planet other than Earth. There is an amazing variety of life in this universe and the number of life forms is nothing short of miraculous. There are civilizations and cultures living on and within many planets all over the universe. They come in all shapes and sizes such as insect like giants, dolphins or other humanoid beings. In all of the 9 material dimensions there is a birth and death experience as a being incarnates into the life form and eventually leaves.

In higher dimensions it is not uncommon for beings to live for thousands of years or even hundreds of thousands. On these planets and in the dimensions inhabited by such long lived beings you would find places of amazing harmony and spiritual knowledge. To us these worlds would seem like heaven and in a sense they are. In fact compared to our lives on earth almost the entire universe is heaven from a dualistic point of view.

It is quite possible for humans to incarnate on other planets in between lives on earth. It is also possible for ETs to incarnate here for a life and this has occurred many times throughout history. However there is a group of beings who make up the human race and these are the ones who make up the vast majority of people here.

Some people who have recently incarnated on other planets may have strange memories of such a place and know very well that it was another planet. They may be able to telepathically connect with beings from the other planet or may be visited in dreams by these beings. It is not just the angels and guides that are helping us but also many ETs from many different planets and dimensions. The connections formed through a few of us having lives on other planets were to help ground some of the forces from various planets and dimensions onto earth.

There are many ETs around the earth at the moment in various spaceships and the like. Many are in higher dimensions and so cannot be seen but there are also ships that can become third dimensional. These ETs are mostly here to help us to shift into the 4th dimension and to see what has been happening here. We have been involved in something never tried before and the results will affect the entire universe. So we have aliens all around us and many of you will have connections with certain groups. These groups are here to help us and use what they know about healing to help heal our subtle bodies. During meditation and sleep you may be visited by various ETs, they will help heal you and speed up your spiritual transformation.

Multidimensional Beings

All beings are multidimensional including humans. Our problem is that we have forgotten our multidimensional nature and have been disconnected from much of ourselves.

Whether you know it or not, you are a multidimensional being of staggering proportions. You are more than meets the eye, much more — more than your body, more than your soul, in fact, you are an integral part of the Universe. If you read my post on What is the Spirit, soul and body? You would understand that you are part of the composite consciousness that is the Universe and beyond! You are actually present on many levels of reality simultaneously and more powerful than you have ever imagined. Are you ready to expand your concept of selfhood to include higher selves, other/parallel selves, and probable selves? If so then, let’s dive in!

We are all multidimensional beings, crossing the dimensions at will and unknowingly. The higher your vibrations and natural positivity, the higher dimension you are dwelling upon.

So the topic of multidimensionality or the word “multidimensionality” is a little bit of a fuzzy one to the person who is not fully familiar with the term. It is almost like the term the universe -what does the universe even mean? So we will attempt to explain it with a little bit more precision.

A human being in your focused frequency, in your now, is doing many things at one moment.

To be multidimensional is to have your reality focused in multiple dimensions at one time.

That might seem a little wild to you, a little “Back to the Future” for you to realize that you might be in several different dimensions at one time, but we would say to you, you are now in many familiar dimensions. Literally!

In other words, as you sit reading this material, you are a cellular being. Your heart is beating. Your breath is moving through your body. Your food is digesting, or your stomach is crying out for more food. Your brain is sending synapses through your body. Your hair is growing. Your nails are growing. Your bug bites are itching, or you are hearing sounds that the brain is processing as background noise. Your eyes are reading the lines of this. You are recalling memories or associative images from reading this material. You are swallowing perhaps, or you are thinking about what will come after reading this material and we would say to you that all of this is happening in your now and in multiple layers which we are calling dimensions.  

Makes sense?

It may be a little bit of a foreign concept to consider being hungry as a different dimension from processing and reading material, but it is. Because dimension is simply a place of energy; a focusing of energy that results in a reality or a world of recognizable focus.  

In the same way that your body is creating all these levels of processing – as well as the brain and the personality – understanding what abilities and what focus it exists as, we would say to you that non-physically you are souls – you are in a soul organization and you are also your version of your focused frequency.

You understand yourself as that person with a particular birthday, with a particular focus on today’s date, but there is also all the other versions of you that exist from your birthday to the present now.

So we can go broader and broader and broader in our examples of multidimensionality in the sense that we are simply just speaking initially of you from your birthday and every energetic deviation of that.

Our states fluctuate constantly from one dimension to the other, being in several dimensions at the same time. Very often we live in several dimensions at the same time. However, most of us at the present time are mostly in the vibrations of fear and anxiety, which results in being mostly in the lower 3d vibrations for most of the waking state. Hence why you should always work on raising your vibration.

In order to break the cycle of fear and lower density, regular moments of coming back to oneself is needed throughout the day, especially morning and night time. The best time to cross across the magic of dimensions is at sunset and sun dawn, when the Earth’s own transitions and cycles help us travel through the dimensional veils.

Try this small physical exercise. Sit or stand in a safe place, and just experience your feet on Mother Earth, your weight, your breath. ( The power and benefits of grounding) Listen to your body guiding you in the places it needs attention, listen to your feelings and emotions, even the one that you have no desire to admit to. Just experience your self-be. Let go of negative imagination, let go of the 3D dimension and allow yourself to dip into the higher dimensions.

Humans are multidimensional beings composed of many parts and with connections to many dimensions. The human as well as the Universe are far more complex than scientists would have you believe. As physics is the science of the physical realm and its laws and functions, Metaphysics is the science of all realms, their laws and functions. From a Metaphysical viewpoint the physical world that we see before us is the third dimension.

There are other physical dimensions ranging from the 1st to the 9th dimensions and then many more above the 9th which are not so much physical dimensions but dimensions of consciousness and many dimensions below the first which are dimensions of material. The material in these lowest dimensions is in a state of fertile chaos and is yet to be formed into physicality.

The lowest dimension and the highest are actually one and the same. At the deepest level of reality called the Ultimate Reality or the Absolute where all is one, before any differentiation, the two forces meet and truly are One. This state is often referred to as the void, as it has no form and no movement, just perfect balance. All of creation is contained within this void in a dormant state. From the Ultimate reality the first differentiation between active and passive forces occurs, creating consciousness (the active or Yang/Male side of creation) and material (the passive or yin/female side of creation). From these two differentiations of the absolute everything is created.

Matter has been formed by Consciousness into certain frequencies of vibration. For instance the 9th dimensional material vibrates at a much faster rate than the 2nd. The slower the vibration of the matter, the more dense the physicality of the dimension will be. As consciousness vibrates very fast it is much harder for it to incarnate into the lower dimensions and it has less control of the physical substance there. In the Third Dimension we need to eat food and drink water to gain energy for our physical bodies’ survival and hence the need for the food chain. In some higher dimensions, energy and sustenance for the physical body can be obtained directly from the atmosphere. The 9 dimensions are separated from one another by certain structures of energy but physically they can be in the same place. For example the earth has an expression of itself in each dimension. These different dimensional expressions of earth are all in the same place and are all a part of the same earth.

A multi-dimensional being could go to and explore Earth in all of the dimensions but humans can only see and explore her third dimensional aspect because we have a third dimensional body.

You could experience these other levels while in your physical body by cultivating your subtle perception. If you could raise our body’s vibration to a high enough level we could then enter the fourth dimension and explore there. Although the Dimension’s are somewhat separate, they do interact and are all vital for each other. It’s like a tower, without the foundations you cannot have a first level and without the first level you cannot have the second. So the dimensions are places where being’s can incarnate into matter and live a life in the particular dimension that the chosen body is made for.

Many Extra-Terrestrial’s have bodies that can move through dimensions such as between the 4th to the sixth. The fifth would be this ET’s natural resting place but they have the ability to densify or lighten their body to move up or down to the 6th or 4th dimensions at will. Because a being is able to move between dimensions does not mean they are more evolved than a human. Their body is certainly more versatile and can do many amazing things that a human cannot but this is due to their incarnation into a multi-dimensional body.

The human is a being of consciousness which transcends all dimensions and who has incarnated into a human body for a short period of time. It’s next incarnation may be here again or in a much higher dimension or a lower one or maybe it will not incarnate again. The point here is that higher dimension does not mean better, it is just a different place to incarnate and leads to different experiences.

The variety of beings out there which you will become aware of through awakening your third eye (a.k.a your first eye or your mind’s eye) and spiritual transformation is truly amazing. From nature spirits to angels to Extraterrestrials to huge beings maintaining the dimensions to the tiny beings in particles, there are beings everywhere. An explanation of the infinite variety of beings in existence is beyond the scope of any book as it is truly infinite. By awakening your spiritual senses, you will inevitably become aware of many different beings and you will be able to communicate directly with them.

The communication used is telepathic although sometimes you may actually hear words. Generally, telepathy involves the transmission of feelings which the receiver can then put into words much like a translation. There will always be information lost in translation just like when trying to explain to someone an experience you have had. Can they ever really know how you felt by your description alone? Can you know the taste of a piece of fruit by a description? You may get some idea but you can never know until you taste it. Indeed even with friends, loved ones and others here on earth telepathic communication could rid the world of so many misunderstandings.

When communicating with beings in other dimensions it is sometimes a good idea to save the translation for later. While communicating simply use the means available and wait until the end to try to put things into words. Telepathy and inter-dimensional communication is based on feelings. The reason most cannot communicate in this way is that they are not in touch with their feelings.

There are some beings that are working with humans here on earth who are helping with our spiritual transformation. These include Guides, Angels and Extra-Terrestrials. There are other multidimensional beings that can and do interact with us such as Animals, but these are the main ones that you will be in contact with and who will be helping with your spiritual awakening and self development. For this reason I will give a brief description of these beings in my next post.

Chromotherapy: How to balance physical, mental and emotional health with colors

Life on our planet, as we know it, depends on light. Light creates life and if it were not for the sun’s energy, life on our planet would cease to be. It makes sense then, as instruments are developed to harness the color light spectrum, that our body would respond in healing ways to this exposure(such as infrared, light therapy sauna treatments etc.)

When colors enter the body as light, they have an effect on the health of our brain, organs and body systems. Different colors are powerful and able to not only stimulate different parts of the body and the mind but heal them completely. These practices have existed since the ancient times in Egypt and Asia.

The rainbow has long since been a promise of hope and love for inhabitants of planet earth. These auspicious moments afford us the unique opportunity to observe the color spectrum of light that encircles us at all times. While the rainbow of color can only be observed with our eyes under particular conditions of moisture occurring simultaneously with the sun’s luminosity, in reality, this spectrum of color bathes and serenades us in its beauty at all times.

Chromotherapy or Color Therapy Healing is the practice that uses the 7 colors of the spectrum to improve our mental well-being and the health of our bodies. The 7 colors (of the rainbow as discussed in COLORS AND SPIRITUALITY) have the ability to affect the vibrations of the body in the frequencies that affect health, welfare and harmony.

So how does color therapy work?

Well, in exactly the same way that different frequencies of sound energy are musical pitches, so are colors different frequencies of visible light energy.

As you already know, each cell, organ, and body system has its own distinct frequency. When disease strikes, that frequency is altered. But it can be easily corrected by applying the original healthy frequency in the form of colored light.

Chromotherapy, or color light therapy, is a holistic and non-invasive treatment that can bring health and balance to your body and mind. Specialists and healers know that the vibrations of colors in these therapy sessions improve the overall health, since colors adjust body vibrations to frequencies that result in balance and harmony.

Each color possesses frequencies of a specific vibration, and each vibration is related to different physical symptoms. So, how does it work and which are the colors of the color spectrum that treat specific body areas?

How Chromotherapy can heal your body and mind

With the physical and mental body, it happens the same way. Chromotherapy can help harness the energy of the sunlight to boost natural healing ability of the body, not only to cure diseases but also to prevent them. Within the mental plane, they stimulate emotions and feelings such as:

  • Vitality and passion (Red);
  • Optimism and expansion (Orange);
  • Healing and growth (Green);
  • Joy and Creativity (Yellow).

We should remind you that colors are made up of reflected lights that hit our retinas as wavelengths vibrate. Our brain then interprets these wavelengths, which makes our perception of color a physical and sensory experience.

The therapy itself is based on the idea that colors create electrical impulses in our brains that stimulate hormonal and biochemical processes in our body and these processes either calm or stimulate us.

In a Chromotherapy session, the therapist will give you a color analysis and explain you the effects of the colors. Then, you will be asked about the aspects of your life on which these colors can improve.

Keep in mind that your color therapy session and the shades of colors used will vary depending on the type of ailment that you are trying to correct.

Color therapy for the body

Color therapy works on various energy points to help balance your body via the full spectrum of visible light, each color addressing a distinct need.

When used for healing the body, Chromotherapy utilizes colors based on their electrical and heating properties. Some colors actually cool and soothe the nerves while some can excite or heat the blood. So, in this sense reddish colors, in color therapy, are used to stimulate and increase the action of arterial blood.

Yellow sunlight, for example, can be enhanced through yellow glass to help treat patients suffering from chronic bronchial irritation and colds. Drinking water stored in yellow wine bottles is known to help treat severe constipation.

Blue and violet colors have cooling and electrical properties. Blue light color therapy helps with sciatica and even complex case of lung haemorrhage. Blue and white used together in chromotherapy helps to treat rheumatism or nervousness.

Chromotherapy for the skin

In recent years light therapy has become popular in spas around the world as people look for non-invasive ways to reduce the appearance of fine lines and wrinkles. As it turns out, the same positive impact that light therapy has on cellular regeneration in other parts of the body also applies to the skin.

From healing serious burn wounds, psoriasis, and providing mesmerizing effects on skin vitality, chromotherapy coupled with exposure to the infrared spectrum of light is producing groundbreaking results as a skin treatment. In addition to the results that light therapy has on the skin, it has also been found to enhance and stabilize mood for individuals suffering from depression and seasonal affective disorder.

Chromotherapy capitalizes on the benefits derived from exposure to the color spectrum of light to ignite biochemical changes in the body and brain. Skin is rejuvenated, sleep is improved, and mood is stabilized. When this therapeutic practice is done, you see the benefits instantly as magic begins to occur at the physiological level.

An overview of colors used in Chromotherapy

We all know that light is composed of colors. This is, light can actually be broken down into a seven color spectrum: red, orange, yellow, green, blue, indigo and violet.

As one of the most ancient healing therapies that have been used in several parts of the world – since color therapy possibly has roots in Indian medicine, ancient Egyptian culture and traditional Chinese healing – alternative medicine practitioners that work with Chromotherapy often relate the seven colors of the color spectrum to specific body areas, namely:

Red

Red is believed to increase the pulse, raise blood pressure and increase the rate of breathing. Red would be applied to support circulatory and nervous functions.

Strong pink

This color acts as a cleanser, strengthening veins and arteries.

Pink

Pink activates and eliminates impurities in the blood stream.

Orange

As a mixture of red and yellow, orange activates and eliminates localized fat. Assists with asthma and bronchitis.

Strong yellow

Strong yellow strengthens the body and activates internal tissues.

Yellow

Yellow has been used to purify the skin, to help with indigestion, to strengthen the nervous system, to treat glandular diseases, hepatitis and lymphatic disorders and to assist metabolism.

Green

As a mixture of blue and yellow, green, a color associated with harmony, provides a neutral, positive calming effect.

Strong green

Strong green provides anti-infectious, anti-septic and regenerative stimulation.

Strong blue

Strong blue lubricates joints, helps address stress, nervous tension and infections.

Blue

Blue promotes relaxation and calm. Blue exhibits tranquilizing qualities often used to relieve headaches and migraines, colds, stress, nervous tension, rheumatism, stomach pains, muscle cramps and liver disorders. Blue is thought to have a positive effect on all kinds of pain.

Indigo

Indigo is used to address conditions involving the eyes, ears and nose. It has a calming, sedative effect.

Violet

This color is used to calm the nervous system, soothe organs and relax muscles. Violet has very calm & meditative characteristics which is often used to treat conditions of the lymphatic system and spleen, as well as urinary disorders and psychosis.

The colors according to the rainbow, the chakras, the aura are all the same and are used in that manner, corresponding to the disease and the connecting chakra as seen below.