How to heal the wounded inner child

Children are born without any means to defend themselves or face the world. Children are totally dependent upon their parents for love, acceptance, and shelter. Sometimes parents fail to provide the emotional, psychological, and physical shelter required for healthy children. This results in adults who are stuck in trauma-time who remain forever ruled by an inside force, the wounded inner child. In Africa where I come from, most parents beat, punish and maltreat their children in order to discipline them. Even worse they barely listen to them which traumatizes them from an early age and they grow up with a different mentality of what love and acceptance truly is.

The inner child is the part in your psyche that still retains its innocence, creativity, awe, and wonder toward life. Quite literally, your inner child is the child that lives within you – within your psyche that is. It is important that we stay connected with this sensitive part of ourselves. When we are connected to our inner child, we feel excited, invigorated, and inspired by life. When we are disconnected, we feel lethargic, bored, empty and unhappy.

Growing up, it is the emotional and biological responsibility of our parents and family members to create a safe environment for us. But not all parents accept that responsibility, are aware of that responsibility, or have the capacity to fulfill that responsibility.

Safety doesn’t just mean physically protecting us from harm, feeding us, or the other essentials. Safety also means supporting us on the emotional, psychological, and spiritual levels inherent to us as human beings.

The process of healing your wounded inner child is one of grief, of pain. Do you have a wounded inner child inside yourself? Every child faces emotional challenges that are key-points for their personality. Parents and family are fundamental to give emotional support to overcome those challenges and create an environment of safety and protection. Although each of us has some issues that come from unprocessed emotions as a child, and for that, we all have wounds, some of us need to pay close attention to this wounded inner child.

The traumas that come from childhood have a substantial impact on your daily life and future decisions, and most of the times, we have trouble recognizing them, making them even more critical. For example, someone can avoid meaningful relationships if the environment at home was of fight and incomprehension. In extreme situations, these wounds can compromise someone’s life.

Let’s find out more about the wounded inner child and how to heal your relationship with it! Find out how to get into a reflective space.

Connect with your inner child


Start by thinking about your childhood, reflect about it. How was the environment at home? Did you feel safe? Did you feel a sense of belonging with your parents? Were you allowed to be your true self? How do you feel when you remember yourself as a child? Asked this to yourself and write down the answers and reflect about it.

Remember to take care of you, to be there for you, to take time for yourself.

Signs that you have a wounded inner child

There are some signs you need to pay close attention. If you identify many of these in your current life, remember that you need to do an effective work-related to your wounded inner child. These inside parts of ourselves have a significant impact on how we see ourselves and how we behave as adults. Some signs you have a wounded child might include that :

  • You feel there’s something wrong with you
  • You experience anxiety when you face something new
  • You want to please everyone around you
  • You experience the need to be in conflict
  • You feel inadequate
  • No achievement feels enough for you
  • You always criticize yourself
  • You are rigid and perfectionist
  • You struggle to say “no” and stand up for yourself
  • You have trusting issues
  • You never feel close to others.
  • Have a deep feeling that there is something wrong with you
  • Are a people-pleaser
  • Are a rebel and feel alive when in conflict with someone else
  • You are a hoarder
  • Are not able to let go of possessions and people
  • Experience anxiety with something new
  • Feel guilty for setting boundaries
  • Are driven to be a super-achiever
  • Are ridged and a perfectionist
  • Have problems starting and finishing tasks
  • Exhibit constant self-criticism
  • Feel ashamed at expressing emotions
  • Feel ashamed of your body
  • Have a deep distrust of anyone else
  • Avoid conflict, no matter what the cost
  • Have a deep-seated fear of abandonment.

If you feel you connect to many of these issues, let’s find out more about how you can heal your inner child.

Repeat supporting affirmations

  1. I love you: some of us used to think we needed to achieve more to be enjoyed. Tell your inner child it’s loved no matter what.
  2. I hear you: some adults don’t pay attention to what children say, what can deeply hurt someone’s feelings and never really feel they have something meaningful to share with the others. Don’t suppress your inner voice!
  3. You didn’t deserve this: it’s easy to convince ourselves we needed to suffer, or we did something wrong, and that’s why bad things are happening. Change your mindset with these simple words.
  4. I’m sorry: allow yourself to feel ok with the things you did and didn’t do, say sorry to yourself for all the times you pushed too much.
  5. I forgive you: let go of the same and regrets.
  6. Thank you: be thankful to your inner child for all the things you did, show gratitude.
  7. You did your best: accept your failures and acknowledge you’ve always done the best of you.

You can create other affirmations or mantras that are important to you, more specific to the feelings you have to heal with your inner child. Be creative, be free and always positive!

Write a letter to your inner child

Writing a letter to your inner child will help you to organize your thoughts, but it will also strengthen all the things you have left to say. There is no formula; you can write whatever you feel you haven’t yet said and that will help with this relationship.

You can also write a letter from your inner child. Get in deep connection with it and let go and write down all the things that once you wanted to say, but you were not able to. It can be one of the most potent and releasing experiences of your life.

If needed, you can repeat both practices as many times as necessary until you feel your voice was finally heard, the one from now and the one from the child in you.

Do an inner child visualization or meditation

Search for mantras, meditation or visualization that can lead you towards meeting your inner child. You can do it with the help of a coach or therapist. Another option is that you record the steps with your voice and then listen.

  1. Close your eyes
  2. Imagine yourself walking to a place where you feel safe and enter that place
  3. Give yourself some time to feel relaxed, safe and connected to this place
  4. Walk around and let your inner child appear to you
  5. Come close: What is your inner child’s face like? What are the emotions it expresses? What are the words said? – Give yourself time to communicate with it, make a question or listen to what is there to be said.
  6. Give a hug to your inner child and be thankful for it to show to you and be able to reconnect.
  7. Come back to where you were.
  8. Talk to your adult self to ask for aid in grown-up decisions
  9. Give rewards to yourself every day
  10. Get plenty of sleep
  11. Practice mindfulness to remain present
  12. Tell yourself that you love you even if it feels awkward
  13. Think about the good memories you had in childhood
  14. Make new “good” memories and traditions

After finishing, try journaling your experience. Repeat it as many times as you like, allowing different aspects of this wounded inner child and your relation to come to light. This is a very powerful tool that helped me personally on my healing journey anc could be the turning point you need.

Remember to take care of you, to be there for you, to take time for yourself. Being your protector every day is a vital part if this process, and will allow your wounded inner child to feel safe as never before, because it will be no longer dependent on the others, but it knows it can truly rely on yourself.

Practice mindfulness to remain present Tell yourself that you love you even if it feels awkward Think about the good memories you had in childhood Make new “good” memories and traditions

If you are interested in working with your inner child, I want you to reflect on your own childhood, the timeline of your early years, and how you felt as a child. Did you feel safe? Did you feel a sense of belonging in your family? Were you permitted to be you? What is your current relationship with your inner child like? All of these questions are extremely important to ask, and if you haven’t asked them yet, I hope you do. If you would also like a deep healing approach or if you prefer one on one help, feel free to drop a comment down below or send me an email. Would be glad to be of assistance.

Chromotherapy: How to balance physical, mental and emotional health with colors

Life on our planet, as we know it, depends on light. Light creates life and if it were not for the sun’s energy, life on our planet would cease to be. It makes sense then, as instruments are developed to harness the color light spectrum, that our body would respond in healing ways to this exposure(such as infrared, light therapy sauna treatments etc.)

When colors enter the body as light, they have an effect on the health of our brain, organs and body systems. Different colors are powerful and able to not only stimulate different parts of the body and the mind but heal them completely. These practices have existed since the ancient times in Egypt and Asia.

The rainbow has long since been a promise of hope and love for inhabitants of planet earth. These auspicious moments afford us the unique opportunity to observe the color spectrum of light that encircles us at all times. While the rainbow of color can only be observed with our eyes under particular conditions of moisture occurring simultaneously with the sun’s luminosity, in reality, this spectrum of color bathes and serenades us in its beauty at all times.

Chromotherapy or Color Therapy Healing is the practice that uses the 7 colors of the spectrum to improve our mental well-being and the health of our bodies. The 7 colors (of the rainbow as discussed in COLORS AND SPIRITUALITY) have the ability to affect the vibrations of the body in the frequencies that affect health, welfare and harmony.

So how does color therapy work?

Well, in exactly the same way that different frequencies of sound energy are musical pitches, so are colors different frequencies of visible light energy.

As you already know, each cell, organ, and body system has its own distinct frequency. When disease strikes, that frequency is altered. But it can be easily corrected by applying the original healthy frequency in the form of colored light.

Chromotherapy, or color light therapy, is a holistic and non-invasive treatment that can bring health and balance to your body and mind. Specialists and healers know that the vibrations of colors in these therapy sessions improve the overall health, since colors adjust body vibrations to frequencies that result in balance and harmony.

Each color possesses frequencies of a specific vibration, and each vibration is related to different physical symptoms. So, how does it work and which are the colors of the color spectrum that treat specific body areas?

How Chromotherapy can heal your body and mind

With the physical and mental body, it happens the same way. Chromotherapy can help harness the energy of the sunlight to boost natural healing ability of the body, not only to cure diseases but also to prevent them. Within the mental plane, they stimulate emotions and feelings such as:

  • Vitality and passion (Red);
  • Optimism and expansion (Orange);
  • Healing and growth (Green);
  • Joy and Creativity (Yellow).

We should remind you that colors are made up of reflected lights that hit our retinas as wavelengths vibrate. Our brain then interprets these wavelengths, which makes our perception of color a physical and sensory experience.

The therapy itself is based on the idea that colors create electrical impulses in our brains that stimulate hormonal and biochemical processes in our body and these processes either calm or stimulate us.

In a Chromotherapy session, the therapist will give you a color analysis and explain you the effects of the colors. Then, you will be asked about the aspects of your life on which these colors can improve.

Keep in mind that your color therapy session and the shades of colors used will vary depending on the type of ailment that you are trying to correct.

Color therapy for the body

Color therapy works on various energy points to help balance your body via the full spectrum of visible light, each color addressing a distinct need.

When used for healing the body, Chromotherapy utilizes colors based on their electrical and heating properties. Some colors actually cool and soothe the nerves while some can excite or heat the blood. So, in this sense reddish colors, in color therapy, are used to stimulate and increase the action of arterial blood.

Yellow sunlight, for example, can be enhanced through yellow glass to help treat patients suffering from chronic bronchial irritation and colds. Drinking water stored in yellow wine bottles is known to help treat severe constipation.

Blue and violet colors have cooling and electrical properties. Blue light color therapy helps with sciatica and even complex case of lung haemorrhage. Blue and white used together in chromotherapy helps to treat rheumatism or nervousness.

Chromotherapy for the skin

In recent years light therapy has become popular in spas around the world as people look for non-invasive ways to reduce the appearance of fine lines and wrinkles. As it turns out, the same positive impact that light therapy has on cellular regeneration in other parts of the body also applies to the skin.

From healing serious burn wounds, psoriasis, and providing mesmerizing effects on skin vitality, chromotherapy coupled with exposure to the infrared spectrum of light is producing groundbreaking results as a skin treatment. In addition to the results that light therapy has on the skin, it has also been found to enhance and stabilize mood for individuals suffering from depression and seasonal affective disorder.

Chromotherapy capitalizes on the benefits derived from exposure to the color spectrum of light to ignite biochemical changes in the body and brain. Skin is rejuvenated, sleep is improved, and mood is stabilized. When this therapeutic practice is done, you see the benefits instantly as magic begins to occur at the physiological level.

An overview of colors used in Chromotherapy

We all know that light is composed of colors. This is, light can actually be broken down into a seven color spectrum: red, orange, yellow, green, blue, indigo and violet.

As one of the most ancient healing therapies that have been used in several parts of the world – since color therapy possibly has roots in Indian medicine, ancient Egyptian culture and traditional Chinese healing – alternative medicine practitioners that work with Chromotherapy often relate the seven colors of the color spectrum to specific body areas, namely:

Red

Red is believed to increase the pulse, raise blood pressure and increase the rate of breathing. Red would be applied to support circulatory and nervous functions.

Strong pink

This color acts as a cleanser, strengthening veins and arteries.

Pink

Pink activates and eliminates impurities in the blood stream.

Orange

As a mixture of red and yellow, orange activates and eliminates localized fat. Assists with asthma and bronchitis.

Strong yellow

Strong yellow strengthens the body and activates internal tissues.

Yellow

Yellow has been used to purify the skin, to help with indigestion, to strengthen the nervous system, to treat glandular diseases, hepatitis and lymphatic disorders and to assist metabolism.

Green

As a mixture of blue and yellow, green, a color associated with harmony, provides a neutral, positive calming effect.

Strong green

Strong green provides anti-infectious, anti-septic and regenerative stimulation.

Strong blue

Strong blue lubricates joints, helps address stress, nervous tension and infections.

Blue

Blue promotes relaxation and calm. Blue exhibits tranquilizing qualities often used to relieve headaches and migraines, colds, stress, nervous tension, rheumatism, stomach pains, muscle cramps and liver disorders. Blue is thought to have a positive effect on all kinds of pain.

Indigo

Indigo is used to address conditions involving the eyes, ears and nose. It has a calming, sedative effect.

Violet

This color is used to calm the nervous system, soothe organs and relax muscles. Violet has very calm & meditative characteristics which is often used to treat conditions of the lymphatic system and spleen, as well as urinary disorders and psychosis.

The colors according to the rainbow, the chakras, the aura are all the same and are used in that manner, corresponding to the disease and the connecting chakra as seen below.

Everyday is a test

If you thought that life’s tests were over when you finished school, guess again. There are so many tests in life, and they can be much more difficult than biology or physics. And there isn’t that much homework we can do to prepare for these kinds of tests, either. When we pass life’s tests, we discover that we do have that inner strength after all.


In school you are taught a lesson and given a test, in life you are given a test and taught a lesson.

Have you ever wondered what the purpose of your life is? Common answers are “happiness,” financial success”, true ❤ or “satisfaction.” While these are all worthwhile goals, I say the purpose of your life is to face head on, every challenge, every test, as a chance for you to become the person you are meant to be. Life is a test for you to be and become your best and highest self.

When you face the tests of life, learn from them and grow with them, you become that person. The tests of life require you to call on the inner resources residing deep inside you.

In life you are given a test that teaches you a lesson and it turns out to be that everyday is a TEST. Every moment there is a new challenge, ( which is always an opportunity).

In my local language we say “ problem no dey finish”, which means there is always something else after this. We have to find our way in the world, and all along we face tests of physical illness, mental troubles, financial reversals, unfulfilled expectations, and loss.

Life is indeed a test of many things, our faith & faithlessness, our convictions & priorities, our endurance & patience, and in the very end, our ultimate desires.

The way of a true spiritual life actually begins where we are now in the mess of our lives.

We’ve lost touch with our souls. We’ve been nourishing our minds, our relational skills, our theological knowledge, our psychological well-being, our physiological health… but we’ve abandoned our souls. ‘Mike Yaconelli.’

The most powerful weapon on earth is a human soul that’s on fire! Ignite that spark by recognizing the lessons of all you had to go through to be where you are right now.

On the video below, i talked about how to recognize the tests so you don’t have to repeat the lessons in order to graduate to the best and highest version of YOU!


Self Judgment

We live in a world of control. A world that requires push and pull, as in, it requires gravity to exist. It’s no wonder why we are always at war with ourselves. However, we must learn to be in control of ourselves, what concerns us, what matters to us in our everyday lifestyle, not just personally, but environmentally, universally.

We must learn to find balance in the chaos, no matter how overwhelmed you might be. The fact is, you have every reason to be here right now and if you are reading this right now , and it happens to be that you find yourself confused, doubting, or listening to that criticizing voice in your head, critiquing your life, telling you what you can and cannot say or do, you have the power to transform the energy to love. No matter what you may be experiencing, do not judge yourself. It’s happening for a reason plus that is not your duty, it’s not your responsibility. Your responsibility is, to “Do as you may in alignment with your conscience” and let the rest play out.

Stop criticizing yourself. Choose self love. If you love yourself, others will love you, if you judge and criticize yourself, others will judge and criticize you. It is what it is. You should know that whenever you judge yourself, you insert fear into your aura and that lowers your vibration, your battery life, your electro magnetic voltage. Look at it like a phone fully charged, and the more you interact with the phone the battery life reduces, for instance, fear would be like an app, Instagram or maybe a game you’re used to playing on the phone, your battery weakens way faster because of the amount of energy the app has and the time you spend on it. Your daily energy and lifespan increases or reduces based on what you do every day. So, be nice to yourself, be kind, practice self love instead of self judgement.

As it turns out, there are so many different things happening in our society today, distracting, upsetting and emotionally controlling people. As a result, anxiety, depression, fear, self doubt, criticism, self judgment and different types mental issues gradually begin to flood in.. It is your duty to be responsible for what you think, eat and do because you are a part of the universe, a part of the whole and if you do your duty, others will do theirs and on and on.. Then, in little or no time the world will become light again, even better than we have imagined. It will be the change we’ve been collectively working on.

The time is now!

Whether you’re aware or asleep, the time is now. Our planet has been split. A reset has occurred in the sky. Do you remember “As above so below”, well, it’s time to get ready for the “below” aka the reset, changes that will begin to happen on earth from all around the world.

A reset, is simply a do- over, more so start afresh. It is a Death and a rebirth at the same time. Think about it like rebooting your computer after a virus.

Everything that happens energetically/spiritually must happen physically as they are one and the same. The great reset, the rebirth, the beginning of a new dawn is here. Can you feel it in the air ? Jupiter and Saturn conjuncting at 0 degrees signifies a major restart button has been hit. People will begin to wake up, feeling different, stronger, fearless, joyful, carefree, collaborative,creative ,imaginative etc . On the dark side, a lot of people will be entering a new phase of a very long shadow work, self development and healing journey, government would do the extreme to hold their ground ( aka the old world ) which could lead to extremities, companies and industries coming together or crashing out of the blue, vaccines being made mandatory etc due to the vastness of the reset.

Everything is filtered through multi-layers. Like levels of coding for a game , the layers go deep. As you begin to become aware, you might get either really pissed or very very sad depending on your empathic battery life. No matter what level you are on spiritually, there are times where you feel like you’re the only one experiencing all that wisdom and downloads and knowledge, I assure you, you’re not the only one. There are many others out there who do not feel comfortable enough to share their truth, one way or the other we all go phases of awakening during our journey in this passage called life.

Would you rather wait till the next great conjunction or your next life to align with the truth of who and what you are ?

The world has begun its new regime. New air, new species, renewed vibration which I’m feeling to be distinctly different from what we’ve experienced the last decade. A woman is only pregnant for a period of time, eventually she delivers herself an offspring. Likewise, Mother Earth has been pregnant for quite some time now, going through hard labor, pains, and even malnutrition just as women have been ridiculed, Stepped on, trashed, maltreated and so on. They’ve been non- existent for a very long time in our 3D reality. Forgetting they are the reason we all exist. They are one in the same . Harmony is the answer.

We tend to forget the space we are currently holding is a feminine space. We are in the womb, the belly of the beast and the beast is ready to be out of the womb. As a divine feminine, I can feel it in the air already. The smell, the energy, the moods, the vibe..This is a very beautiful being we’re all consciously co-creating right now on the planet. It might take a minute to be very clear to the masses , however, the land must be cleansed for the baby to pop out. I.e We might be seeing many deaths, experiencing the extreme lows, maybe natural disasters, National drama and collective disagreements but that’s only to usher in the fruit of the womb, the new world, new type of leaders, creative and very innovative people teaming up,etc .. (Think of it as in “No pain no gain”.)

As I had written on my last post, The sky is falling, there are very serious wars going on in the sky, ships are clashing, fighting, collapsing, all on your behalf, the ancestors are doing what they do best, just as down below, authorities are being exposed, revealing the truths, on the bright side, this is enlightening the people, You are beginning to pay attention to your surroundings, your upbringings and your mindsets. Thing is, You have to decide where you belong. There or here ?, Nothing is predestined.Everything changes. This is the time to prepare and trust in nothing but yourself. The illusion is becoming very clear and the spell magicians are being exposed. When else will there be a better time for you to be your own magic?

The time is now. Embrace your demons as you embrace your angels. You’ll be needing them as one. Align with yourself as the stars and planets align for the greatest conjunction we’ve had in a very very longtime. Ignorance is the most expensive gift of mankind.

WAKE UP. THE TIME IS NOW