Your lifestyle is in your nature

Today the pursuit of money is almost directly linked to the pursuit of happiness, many will argue that money = happiness, just like I wrote about in my post The journey to happiness.

A lot of people sit on the sidelines of life, hoping that their dreams will come true one day, but nothing happens in life unless you take action. Your dream lifestyle isn’t going to magically show up at your doorstep. It requires that you design the life of your choosing, and then start moving in that direction. This is your life.

Time is our most valuable asset and it is something, that while on this earth, we should spend most wisely. You shouldn’t feel like you’re mindlessly wasting your life away. This generation is particularly in trouble because jobs are scarce and many people will be stuck doing jobs they hate just because they need money. Although this may be the right move for their careers now, this shouldn’t be something that one should do for the rest of our lives. it is best we search for something we are passionate about which you should then make into a lifestyle.

Lifestyle is all about the choices we make for ourselves and how we decide what really is important. What is your lifestyle?

Your lifestyle is what you make of it, your daily routine typically is your lifestyle. Spirituality is my lifestyle and I get to practice being present with myself, connecting with source energy everyday. EVERYDAY IS A NEW OPPORTUNITY TO MAKE YOUR DREAMS YOUR REALITY. Your choice what you do with it.

Occasionally, life can be undeniably, impossibly difficult. We are faced with challenges and events that can seem overwhelming, life-destroying to the point where it may be hard to decide whether to keep going. But you always have a choice. The power is always in your decision. You are light – shine bright

When you begin to upgrade your state of mind, your perception becomes your reality. Lifestyle design is the process of designing your life aligned with your nature, strengths, values, dreams, passion, and purpose. It’s the freedom to design your life the way YOU want. It’s a way to end the rat race and to help you attain true freedom. When you begin to become MINDFULL of what you SEE, listen to , watch or even read. Your attention automatically shifts into something that is present in your current reality. Hence self – development, self- awareness, lifestyle upgrade etc.

The same thinking responsible for creating amazing technology, products, and spaces can be used to create and build your career and your life, a life of fulfillment and joy, constantly creative and productive, one that always holds the possibility of surprise.

I’m a huge proponent of taking matters into your own hands, observing, communicating and listening to how your body feels, then customizing your lifestyle to honor your unique needs and desires. This approach has served me beautifully in my own healing and wellness journey. Hence why I write and teach about wellness and our self healing abilities.

In a nutshell, your lifestyle simply embodies the attempt on your part to design a life of your choosing,whatever that looks like, it’s your life, your creation. You have choices and with the growth of the web of your design, your choices have compounded exponentially. You control your life and what happens in it, once you understand that fully you give yourself room to grow, experiment and begin designing the life of your own, the life of your dreams.

Create your life according to your nature. Your life is YOUR ART. Design it to your taste.

Self Expression

Are you free? Are you truly free to live or say whatever you want, whenever you want, however you decide? Can you express yourself without fear in totality? Are you REAL? Are you living according to your creators wish?

Most people are out here agreeing and accepting every thing that’s thrown at their faces like they don’t have a choice. This has got to stop. We need to express ourselves exactly how we want to. I hear, there is freedom of speech ( but I don’t hear about the consequences of speaking up). People fear to express themselves exactly how they should or exactly how they want to. Why, you may ask ? Well, BECAUSE THEY HAVE BEEN PSYCHOLOGICALLY BRAINWASHED into accepting that someone else should think for them plus there is the “hush hush” part about the consequences of self expression.

You know there’s more to life. You know you’re being called to do something greater.We’re a community of like-minded and evolved beings just like you on a mission to help you realize your maximum potential and free people from physical,mental and spiritual prisons. This is why Barisity.com is called a Sity of Royalties for true FREEDOM.

In recent times, people are waking up from this deep slumber and spells that’s being constantly cast on individuals right in front of their faces, through music, media, twisted history, traditions and cultures. Most of these things are being tweaked and passed along generations over and over again. Why do we accept this, some smart ones may be thinking ? Well, my brother and sister, THE POWER OF SELF EXPRESSION COMES WITH A PRICE!!

Consider that with every action and every choice you make, you are expressing some part of yourself. When you donate to a beggar, you’re expressing kindness. When you raise your voice at another, you’re expressing anger. It’s always about the intention behind the action, the energy behind the deed. Those who cook may have realized this. When we cook with love and care, our dish has a special feel to it. When we do not put effort into our cooking, the dish turns out mediocre and bland. Self-expression is the act of bringing something deep within us into observable form – the art of creation. The question is not whether we express ourselves, but what are we expressing? The more connected we are to ourselves, the more authentic our expression. The more authentic our expression, the more confident and attractive we become. Who are you, and what is your message to the world? As you uncover more and more of yourself, the core of who you are comes to the fore. Who you are begins to shine through in what you do.

So what exactly is self expression?

Let me start by telling you a dream of mine, about a decade ago, I had this recurring dream of someone holding my throat but an invisible someone, I open my mouth to scream with all the energy charged up in me yet not a single sound comes out when I think I’m making a very loud noise, then I get madder and try harder,same thing. It was very annoying at first because as a hueman being we all have “vocal cords” which are in charge of our sounds. So when I speak you should hear me because I’m communicating with you through a chord you and I both have. This dream kept going on and on for weeks until one day I got so pissed and I was just like you know what “IM DONE WITH THIS SHIT”!! Then I decided that when the time came I won’t scream with my outer voice but my inner voice. So I had the dream again, it was on a Saturday morning, I remember vividly how I tried using my right hand to find what’s holding back my voice and I made the loudest sound ever without using my voice. It was my inner voice. I screamed so loud inside my heart that not only did the feeling of my throat being held disappear but the feeling of fear, fear of trying something new completely vanished! All it did was make me uncomfortable for a sec. ( THE PRICE OF SELF EXPRESSION ).

Now, the moral of that story is this —— I had a voice I couldn’t use, out of fear of the unknown, I felt hooked, choked and scared to do what I ought to do but until I DECIDED NOTHING COULD STOP ME, I was helpless. I decided ! Then, I found another way and I didn’t care what happened, I just did it. (Let me tell you a secret, I had not the slightest clue what was going to happen, whether it was going to make an external sound or not). I just “KNEW” I had to do something instantly. The moral of this ??—— FOLLOW YOUR INSTINCTS. You might be wrong or right it doesn’t matter. Just do it!!

This dream made me a stronger and fearless leader because I realized so many things 10 years after. If you don’t use what the creator has given to you , it will be taken away from you. If you choose to be scared, it will be taken away from you, If you allow yourself to be bullied, it will be taken away from you . IF YOU HAVE SKILLS, TALENTS AND PASSIONS YOU DO NOT PURSUE, guess what ? It will be taken away from you. And it goes on and on ….. We all have the ability and the power to express ourselves exactly how we want to. Don’t allow the program that has been installed in your life continue being the driver of your decisions. TAKE CHARGE or be preyed upon. Your choice.

Self expression by definition is the Expression of one’s own personality, feelings, or ideas, as through speech or art. It is a vital piece of the puzzle that is fulfillment in life; Self expression allows us to be our best selves, reach our full potential, and make valuable contributions to the world we live in. It simply is when people show that they are different from everyone else. They may choose to express themselves by how they look, what they say, or by using different types of artistic ways to show you who they are.

This place is a community of people just like you, all seeking to achieve their dreams and support one another in that mission.

Here are some ways you can start expressing yourself. Courage is key! Dare to put yourself into what you do. You can choose one or do them all.

  1. Say what you really want to say
  2. Take a risk and do something you’ve been fantasizing about
  3. Take a picture
  4. Doodle something
  5. Freestyle journal
  6. Sing, rap, write, dance.

Allow yourself to suck at first. Give yourself permission to learn and grow. Take the pressure off and let yourself stretch your wings along the runway to mastery. Once you begin, you never know where your expressions will take you. I’ve always enjoyed mentoring, teaching, making music and writing, but never took my love for writing seriously until last year. Since then, the universe has been urging me to continue. Each time I think of giving up my writing, I would get a message from a reader telling me how my writing impacted them and how much they appreciated my writing. That’s the magic of self-expression: just by being who you are, you can inspire and heal others.

You owe it to yourself to achieve your dreams. Express yourself. NO ONE CAN DO IT EXACTLY HOW YOU CAN DO IT! Don’t let it get taken away from you. You have only one life to live.

You can choose to hire me to coach you on your own journey as well or help you HEAL YOURSELF from your traumas. I’m always available. Feel free to comment down below or send me an email. I’ve got you.

The power and benefits of grounding

Grounding is a spiritual term, referring to centering your soul in your body, and in turn, connecting it with Mother Earth. When these connections are strong, it can help you feel safer and more in touch with the earth and Mother Nature. If you experience a lot of fear and anxiety in your day-to-day, it is possible that you have become ungrounded. Practice centering yourself via grounding or earthing as it is widely called.

Usually, the term grounding is often applied to stabilizing electricity. The world is made up of electrical and magnetic fields or currents (electromagnetic), including our bodies. We are endlessly emitting vibrational signals out from our organs, while also receiving them from the objects around us. Simply put, when our skin comes into contact with the ground, the molecules in our bodies receive an extra boost of vital energy.

Grounding is like when a baby connects with the mother’s womb by drinking her milk. Grounding yourself is simply connecting yourself to the ground, the soil, the place you came from and the place you’ll be buried in when you die.

What is the ground ? “The Ground” is simply the surface of planet earth. According to science, the ground is the reference point in an electrical circuit from which voltages are “measured”. According to psychology, Grounding is simply a term used in conjunction with the energy fields around us. This is why sometimes the words centering and grounding are used interchangeably. Being grounded means that we’re content with who we are. It means that we are sure of ourselves and have confidence in the decisions we are making.

When we ground ourselves, we’re intentionally calming or slowing down our emotions and getting more in touch with our internal and external worlds. This is a very powerful way to balance your yin and yang. It is a great way to center yourself.

Earthing or grounding is the practice of physically connecting oneself as closely as possible to the earth by going barefoot, lying on the ground, sitting or standing. The energy of the earth (the bare floor) has energy that can heal both physical and emotional illnesses. You might be wondering how is that ? Well, the earth is negatively charged, so, when a human body makes direct contact with the earth, the earth’s electrons neutralize the free radicals in the person’s body.

How do you ground? That’s quite simple, easy and perhaps the most intriguing, and most criticized, aspect of grounding is its simplicity. It proposes the idea that all you need, in order to be your most healthy, revitalized self, is to spend time connecting with nature.

Here’s what to do —- Find a comfortable seat on the earth, or you can choose to stand, Close your eyes and breath deeply. Feel the supporting soil underneath. Imagine roots stemming out from the base of your spine and into the core of the earth. Reach as far down as you can imagine, fractal roots surrounded by and connected to Mother Earth. Spend a few breaths embodying this strong, feminine, empowering and supportive energy. This connection is always available to you. Return to your heart center and send your blessings of gratitude to mother earth out into the world.

Mantras and words can be very powerful tools to use whilst grounding, they hold their own vibration, so the thoughts and words you speak impact the energetic fields around you.

There are no consequences to grounding, only the opportunity to benefit your overall health and well-being. Remember you are wearing a bathing suit and planet called “Earth”.

The journey to happiness

Everybody wants to be happy. It’s the most common goal hue man beings have and it’s simply because we live in a society where happiness comes last. People have been psychologically brainwashed into thinking that you have to work hard to be happy, be married or have a lot of money etc.

The journey to happiness is simply the journey to self, which is simply a self conscious lifestyle. Happiness is a lifestyle. You have to decide it and choose it over anything every single day. That’s where discipline comes in. Self discipline is self mastery.

How do you know if you’re mastering yourself? You know by the things you spend most of the time doing daily. By being accountable, observing your habits, thought processes and being in tune with your true nature. It’s as delicate as taking care of a baby’s very unstable needs. It requires vulnerability and childlike imagination.

An author once said, “Happiness is like a butterfly: the more you chase it, the more it will elude you, but if you turn your attention to other things, it will come and sit softly on your shoulder”.

If you’ve been looking for happiness, the good news is that your choices, thoughts and actions can influence your level of happiness. It’s not as easy as flipping a switch, but you can turn up your happiness level.

Below are a few steps to follow on the journey to happiness.

The first step is to make a conscious choice to boost your happiness. Then, cultivate the habit of gratitude.Make a commitment to practice gratitude. Each day identify at least one thing that enriches your life. When you find yourself thinking an ungrateful thought, try substituting a grateful one. For example, replace “My wife forgot my birthday” with “My wife has always been there for me during tough times.”

Practice exercise or yoga ——Try to include it in your daily routine . Practice yoga or exercise daily for 30 minutes at least in the morning . It will make you healthy and increase the oxygen level in the body. Health is wealth as they always say. The healthier you are the happier you become. You will feel more in tune with your body and more confident if you practice yoga or exercise daily. It helps to keep your mental and physical health up to the mark.

Meditate——— This is a very qualified way of keeping yourself happy and energetically high always. Once you know the proper technique and start doing it daily for 10-15 minutes, you will be at a different level than you are right now.

Cultivate the habit of forgiveness—— Holding a grudge and nursing grievances can affect physical as well as mental health. Learn to forgive, (practice makes better). Learn the art of letting go.

Practice unconditional love ——- Pretend you have an emotional bank account. Fill it with kind words and actions. Be careful and gracious with critique. Also, let people know that you appreciate what they do for you or even just that you’re glad they’re part of your life.

Practice being optimistic—- If you’re not an optimistic person by nature, it may take time for you to change your pessimistic thinking. Start by recognizing negative thoughts as you have them. Take note of them, then ask your self why you you feel or think that way ? Ask yourself does that serve your highest good.? Ask yourself if that makes you happy right now, does it benefit your creator ? . Then proceed to the opposite of those thoughts and repeat every time you catch yourself being negative.

Live in the present moment —- Don’t postpone joy waiting for a day when your life is less busy or less stressful. That day may never come. Instead, look for opportunities to savor the small pleasures of everyday life. Focus on the positives in the present moment, instead of dwelling on the past or worrying about the future.

Also, spending time with supportive friends, associates or family, cultivating a grateful attitude and an optimistic outlook, focusing on your purpose, and living in the present can help you take steps toward being happier.

The journey to happiness is the journey to your most authentic self. Rule no 1. Fuck what they think. Live your life and be happy. You absolutely deserve it!

Face your demons now

Your fears can be your very own trap or prison, holding your happiness and dreams out of your reach. By inviting your demons to tea, you establish ownership of your shadow. You bravely go where many fear to tread. You have the guts to face your anger, fear, jealousy, lack of self-acceptance.

In order to be truly happy and content, it is important that you are honest about the kind of life that you are leading. Unless you face your demons, it will be impossible for you to achieve your full potential. You will always be held back by underlying issues that are yet to be resolved. If you are going to prevent this from happening, you will need to make a change.

It’s a battle that goes on inside all of us, whether it be our fears, sadness, anxiety, frustrations and disappointments tormenting us and preventing us from experiencing happiness, peace, love and hope. Just like with every battle there are two options: you can choose to hide from these demons and negative energies or you can choose to fight. Fear is has a huge role to play in facing your demons. You know the saying -Flight or fight? Do you know that without fear there will be no courage?

Ever experienced that period in your life that you would simply describe as dark? When all hope and light seems to fade and you find yourself surrounded by negativity with no help in sight? Times where you may feel abandoned, lonely, sad, a sense of dread, even fear. At the time you couldn’t even imagine what the world once looked like to you and all you see now is the inevitable doom that humanity faces. At the time it can be an overwhelming experience that can often shake us to the very core…but handled correctly, it can actually be a very beneficial and life altering experience. It usually is a divine message to you, if you pay attention.

You may be wondering how that could possibly be the case. How could somebody showing dark night of the soul symptoms possibly come out the other side in a positive manner? Surely the entire experience is soul destroying? Well, while it is true that the experience is challenging and many people do come out the other side feeling defeated, it can be used as a form of spiritual healing or therapy.

You must have heard about the power of communication. “Communication is key”, Whether you believe it or not self communication is the golden key. When you go through an experience, it usually is because you need to grow, wake-up, learn or teach lessons from that experience. You achieve this by communicating genuinely with your self. By facing your demons, by looking at yourself exactly as you are, Ask yourself how you feel and why you feel how you feel ? Allow the emotions to flow, they are answers. It is very healing and therapeutic. Every being has to go through this to evolve and come out on the other side. However,there are beings who will not evolve and that’s okay. There are beings who prefer the cycle they are experiencing because it’s familiar to them. Spiritual growth is an unfamiliar territory which is uncomfortable. It’s not for everyone.

Demons are described as crazy, scary monsters, just like the scary crazy habits, thoughts, feelings that you have. If you were to describe those dark feelings and thoughts you had, as an item or a person what would it be?Everyone has the yin and yang. To face your demons is to look in the mirror. it’s time to see your truest nature and be it. It requires vulnerability. Just as I wrote on my last post, The dark night of the soul . If the universe could speak right now, with all that you see happening on the “surface” ( YANG), in our society today? The universe is saying loud and clear , now is the time when you literally face your demons (the habits, patterns, contracts, energies) that has been destroying and delaying your authenticity. The ones you refuse to accept about yourself. These demons have a role to play in your evolution so you should not run away from facing them. There comes a time where you will be forced to face them, accept them, forgive yourself and evolve. When would you rather do that?

Fear is a tool. Use it to your advantage. “Without fear, there will be no courage”.