How to heal from depression through psychotherapy

Depression brutally assaults us and promotes hopelessness. This is because depression is not a pure feeling but an effort to ward off a complex mix of unwanted ones. Anger, frustration, irritation, and grief are feelings we tend to find intolerable, we don’t want to feel them, we avoid them. When we’re depressed, we’re engaging in a psychic battle to blot out these unwanted feelings. It’s a battle with your self. Usually, the part of yourself you’re scared to face or the part you’re traumatized by. Common psychic defenses against painful feelings include ignoring feelings, projection.

We got to do better at becoming our best selves everyday. In today’s world, depression carries with it a very high cost in terms of relationship problems, family suffering and lost work productivity and mental illnesses. Yet, depression is highly treatable.

Every feeling is a state of mind . Hence, depression is a state of mind of being deeply pressed over a situation.

States are locations, a state of mind– is a location in your mind and we can change locations cant we? The intention of this post is to remind you that every kind of sickness is a mental state of being as it is physical. Therefore, if we can heal the mind we can heal the body and vice versa. All you need do is change your state (location) of well-being and you can heal the illness. In my last post, Let’s Talk Therapy, i wrote about what psychotherapy is and how it plays a major role in helping to alleviate the most common types of disorders or illnesses.

When depression appears in your life, think of it as a cry for help from your subconscious. Listen to it, find out what it’s trying to tell you. Only when you confront and understand the true cause of your depression, then take action to address it, will you finally be liberated from it no matter what the temperature outside.

What Causes Depression?

Depression does not have one single cause. It can be developed for a number of different reasons, some include:

Stressful life events. An upsetting incident such as a death in the family or the breakdown of a romantic relationship can lead people to depression. Job stress or financial woes are also common causes. Early life experiences can also play a role. People who try to deal with these issues on their own and shut themselves off from family and friends are especially vulnerable to developing depression.

Personality and heredity. People who have certain personality traits are also susceptible to depression. Those who are excessively self-critical or have very low self-esteem are at particular risk. Moreover, if you have a family history of depression – such as a depressed parent or sibling – it is possible you could become depressed yourself. However, this is not a given, many people with such histories do not become depressed.

Illness and aging. Any illness can trigger depression in certain individuals, especially if it has repercussions on your activity level or sex life. In particular, people with life-threatening or recurrent illnesses are prone to depression. Thyroid problems and head injuries can also lead to mood swings. In addition, aging can make some people feel depressed.

Drug and Alcohol Use. People who turn to drugs or alcohol to deal with problems are more likely to end up even more depressed because these substances can bring on or worsen depression. Moreover, those who become addicted often experience family or work problems, which can also contribute to depression.

Giving birth. Postnatal depression can be triggered by the emotional, physical and hormonal changes that accompany giving birth as well as the responsibility and challenges of caring for a baby and changes in the family structure.

Core Symptoms of Depression

  1. A persistent low mood and/or feelings of sadness, with or without weepiness.
  2. Lack of energy and motivation: this is marked by lack of interest or pleasure in activities you may have previously enjoyed.
  3. Sleep problems
  4. Appetite changes
  5. Tiredness
  6. Sluggish movements or agitation
  7. Difficulty in concentrating and day to day problem solving
  8. Feelings of guilt and/or worthless
  9. Suicidal thoughts

How to hunt down your own depression

Rather than viewing depression as a monster to flee from, look it in the eye, investigate the feelings that you are “depressing” and avoiding. For example, you may say, “I feel depressed today.” The questions that follow should be: Why today? What am I ignoring? What issue am I not addressing?

When does depression need treatment or psychotherapy?

Any bout of depression that lasts more than two weeks can benefit from treatment, and the earlier it is begun, the better. Early treatment has the highest likelihood of bringing about full remission of symptoms and preventing relapse or recurrence. The so-called burden of depression is great, as the disorder is a major cause of missed work and poor productivity, and it has a devastating effect on relationships, family life, physical health, and general quality of life.

How Does Psychotherapy Help Depression?

Psychotherapy helps people with depression:

  • Understand the behaviors, emotions, and ideas that contribute to his or her depression.
  • Understand and identify the life problems or events — like a major illness, a death in the family, a loss of a job or a divorce — that contribute to their depression and help them understand, which aspects of those problems they may be able to solve or improve.
  • Help to restructure ways of thinking, negative attributes and attitudes someone has about himself, and ways in which faulty thinking may perpetuate depression.
  • Regain a sense of control and pleasure in life.
  • Learn coping techniques and problem-solving skills.

Types of Therapy for Depression

Therapy can be given in a variety of formats, including:

  • Individual: This therapy involves only the patient and the therapist.
  • Group: 2 or more patients may participate in therapy at the same time. Patients are able to share experiences and learn that others feel the same way, and have had the same experiences.
  • Marital/couples: This type of therapy helps spouses and partners understand why their loved one has depression, what changes in communication and behaviors can help, and what they can do to cope.
  • Family: Because family is a key part of the team that helps people with depression get better, it is sometimes helpful for family members to understand what their loved one is going through, how they themselves can cope, and what they can do to help.

Approaches to Therapy

While therapy can be done in different formats — like family, group, and individual — there are also several different approaches that mental health professionals can take to provide therapy. After talking with the patient about their depression, the therapist will decide which approach to use based on the suspected underlying factors contributing to the depression.

Therapy Tips

Therapy works best when you attend all of your scheduled appointments and participate actively in the work of treatment. The effectiveness of therapy is not a passive process depends on your active participation. It requires time, effort, and consistency. As you begin therapy, establish some goals with your therapist. Then spend time periodically reviewing your progress with your therapist.

Psychotherapy vs Counseling

Psychotherapy and counseling both use psychological methods to help patients with a mental or emotional problem or disorder.

Some people make a small distinction between the two terms: “Counseling” is a brief treatment that targets a specific symptom or situation, while “psychotherapy” is a longer-term treatment that attempts to gain more insight into someone’s problems. However, many people use the terms interchangeably and over here at Barisity we offer both services.

Let’s Talk Therapy


Talk therapy or psychotherapy as it is widely known is a process where emotional and psychological issues are worked on via communication between a client and a therapist to aid effective healing and change of behavior and overcome problems in a desired way.

Are you feeling overwhelmed with your tasks, your responsibilities, your feelings or your life in general? You tried to stay positive, but your mind goes around in negative thoughts? Psychotherapy could be the best answer for you!

In the modern world, millions of people die every year due to depression, fear, suicide, and many more common emotional and mental health issues. In many countries, there is a huge stigma about mental diseases and people end up not looking for help.

Either you are looking for help for yourself or someone else, or you just want to learn more about it, this is a serious matter and having information about the possible treatments is essential. Therefore, let’s keep reading and find out more about psychotherapy.

The process and benefits of Talk Therapy


Psychotherapy is one of the treatments used to deal with a variety of mental diseases and emotional challenges. It can be used by itself, in combination with medication or in combination with other therapies and alternative medicines. 

Through this process, the professional will help you first identify your problems and in many cases recognize them. Then by means of several different approaches, the psychologist will help the patient face their issues and work through them, in order to control and treat them. This way, the patient will be able to live a happier, lighter and healthier life.

Psychotherapy is about opening up to a therapist about your struggles, in a way that allows your therapist to hear and empathize with what you are going through. Therapists often practice active listening, taking an objective stance and giving their clients useful tools and information to try to make real and meaningful changes in their lives.

By the time you finish the treatment with your therapist, you will find out that not only you were able to face your problems and solve them, but also that you were given the tools to face future issues in your life. You will feel stronger and more capable.

It is also a very practical way of solving many issues and it is nothing to be ashamed of. Most people tend to perceive therapy as a weak medium of healing because, their belief system perceives talking to a professional as a waste of time. But really, there are many underlying issues that stems from deeper psychological wounds that a ‘regular’ person might not be able to see. It is advisable to solve a problem from the root cause other than the surface solution which will not last very long.

Psychotherapy enables you heal mental and emotional issues in a way that is very unique because it challenges your perception and heals you instantly in most cases. Some take a couple of sessions and others like any other medicine goes through a process, a series of medications ( in this case with your therapist).

By talking to a mental health professional, those with anxiety, suffering from grief, and any other emotional struggles have found that their quality of life has improved. Change can happen anywhere from a small increase to feeling completely cured – the spectrum of help provided through psychotherapy is vast and can be long-term.

Those with mental and emotional health problems often feel like there is no way out of their problems. If they cannot be helped by a mental health professional, their first resource outside of medicine is usually self-medicating through drugs or alcohol. Others simply spiral out of control, which can lead to even worse mental disorders down the road or even suicide. By seeking the help of a psychotherapist, your problems and struggles can be minimized by receiving support and the tools you need to better respond to life’s difficulties.

Psychotherapy is advised for cases of:

  • Challenges coping with daily life
  • Physical Illness
  • Treat the impact of trauma
  • Medical illness
  • Overthinking
  • Mental health issues
  • Deal with loss
  • Specific mental disorders like anxiety and depression
  • Spiritual worries
  • Eating disorders
  • Substance abuse

How do you get the most out of psychotherapy?

First, be willing and open to therapy. Many suffering from mental health issues, life’s many obstacles or addictions have a crippling fear of failure or aren’t fully committed to the recovery and healing process. It’s imperative that you cooperate with your psychotherapist and follow any at-home instructions they offer you.

Remember that therapy is a two-way street. Your therapist has responsibilities to treat you competently with approved therapy methods and understanding. You also have a responsibility to be open to what your therapist has to say.

How do I know the therapy is working?

First and foremost, your therapist will establish goals of therapy with you in regards to your current problem. These goals can be both long and short-term, but they should be set out within a few sessions. Short-term goals can be easily tracked, but your long-term goals may be more important to keep in mind. By focusing on the progress you’ve made towards your goals, should be a great way to track your success.

Also, remember to take baby steps, no one wants to be uncomfortable or have to go through a long process to recover, however, that might be what it takes. You probably won’t see instant results, so don’t be discouraged if change doesn’t happen right away. Any type of progress is a process.

The results of psychotherapy?

In order for it to work, the patient must be available, to be honest, and open, and also needs to trust the therapist. The therapist must be respectful and follow the ethical rules of the profession.

The treatment can be held only for a few sessions, or by months or even years. It depends especially on the problem that is being treated, and on the patient.

A healthy life is a wealthy life

There are so many things required to live a standard, enjoyable and fulfilled life. Things like good nutrition, physical exercise, and healthy sleep are extremely important. Therefore, your lifestyle plays a very major role in determining the wholeness of your health. Practices like meditation, yoga and breathwork are very vital to maximize your potential. See yoga and its health benefits.

Despite that it’s also important to ask for advice if you if you are out of balance. No man is an island they say.

If you feel you need some help, to overcome any kind of pressure, be it social, emotional, mental or relationship pressure, It is ok to seek professional or spiritual guidance. It can give you back the joy of life!