Surrender

All man’s troubles come from not knowing how to sit still in one room.

It took for me to loose my past identity and everything i thought i had wanted, to awaken to the FACT that what will be, will be. The most recurring commentary i kept thinking was some version of “this isn’t how it was supposed to happen.” I had achieved so much so early in life, lost too much and worked so hard. I should have been wealthy, successful, happy. Instead, I was a mess.

When I stopped fighting with my situation, my scope and options for positive action became crystal clear, and at that point I had a revelation and this was, there is only one thing I’m in full control of – The little space in life that I actually could control—me. I realized i am all i ‘CAN‘ control.

Letting go is a practice, requiring discipline, focus, and embracing open vulnerability as a path to strength rather than shame. It takes time to get good at it, and there is no room for perfectionism.

A key element of letting go is recognizing the presence of what might be called a pathological need. Many times pathological needs stem from traumatic experiences, efforts to negate or undo childhood maltreatment or deprivation.

In many cases, pathological needs stem from unhealthy narcissistic adaptations to unresolved developmental experiences with caregivers who did not meet basic needs required to develop a secure sense of self.

Sometimes it takes real effort to do nothing and simply be in the experience. Especially because most of us want control, and we feel the need to be in charge of every aspect of our lives, especially at junctures when we perceive that our present circumstances are under the threat of change.

When there is nothing to do, do nothing.

The Daoists have a name for this: wu-wei. Wu-wei is non-doing. Action through inaction. The Dao De Ching suggests, “Through nonaction nothing is left undone.”

When we do this, we’re truly living in the present. And we open up the scope for lasting and transformational change, secure in the knowledge that our journey is as individual as we are and that whatever comes next is meant to be.

We start to appreciate the moment in front of us, fully. There is something immensely awesome about the moment in front of us, if we stop trying to change it, trying to control it, trying to have it conform to our idea of how things should be. Just as it is, it’s worthy of our appreciation, gratitude, love.

There is power in letting go. It’s a form of release and self trust. It creates a bond that’s basically unexplainable.

Surrendering is giving up control and this is something I am now becoming good at doing. Have you ever had to try so hard to make something work and it just wouldn’t ? It feels like something is tying up your mind and you can’t break loose. It is absolutely devastating. It’s a control problem.

When you surrender and let things be, you feel more relaxed and you become the observer. You are only able to do this when you realize you are not always in control and this is a form of enlightenment itself.

“Surrender to what is. Say ‘yes’ to life and see how life suddenly starts working for you rather than against you.” ~Eckhart Tolle

The ability to surrender is a gift not everyone has access to, especially Narcissists. For instance, a Narcissist wouldn’t be able to not be in power, they become sick and irritating. It becomes hell for them. Their power is in the ability to be obsessed and possessive over their preys which most of the time are empaths. This is a dynamic that exists not only individually, but societally, in relationships, religion itself is narcissistic not to talk of globally.

That aura of negativity or hopelessness that comes with a failure to surrender is, to be blunt, a real turn off for most people. If you want to be the change you want to see in this world and inspire others to a cause, the angry warrior type is probably not going to work.

Maya Angelou once said, “What you’re supposed to do when you don’t like a thing is change it. If you can’t change it, change the way you think about it. Don’t complain.” If you’re still complaining or not accepting the reality, how can you change that reality? You’re probably still stuck in the complaining phase.

We are now in the season of Aquarius ♒️ which is all about freedom. It is a season of surrendering. Power has exchanged hands, there is change in the air. Esoterically, the rivers are beginning to unclog and flow. Everything and everyone will begin seeing things for what they are. This will be a period of huge revelations when things become revealed, the shadow disappears and everything comes to light. It’s best to Surrender and let go. What is meant to be, will. You have no control over it.

The real secret key to surrendering or letting go is an art of allowing. A non-attached relationship is healthy, strong and filled with effortless love, compassion and kindness. Once we let go and enter a compassionate personal space, everything else is re-contextualized. When you surrender, you interrupt the emotional feedback loop, it’s just like turning down the volume or clicking mute stops feedback on a video call. This changes everything!

Surrender sounds lame to many people, or perhaps scary. It’s the opposite of what we are constantly trying to do — we are always seeking control, because we don’t like uncertainty.

Personally, nowadays, I can’t say that I immediately accept all that comes my way, but my willingness to surrender to life is a priority, it certainly makes the journey more joyful. And, when you have joy, you are more likely to achieve the end you seek, or better yet, find peace in the journey regardless of the destination.

True inner peace and power actually starts when you let go and surrender. Remember, tomorrow never comes. the time is now .


Everyday is a test

If you thought that life’s tests were over when you finished school, guess again. There are so many tests in life, and they can be much more difficult than biology or physics. And there isn’t that much homework we can do to prepare for these kinds of tests, either. When we pass life’s tests, we discover that we do have that inner strength after all.


In school you are taught a lesson and given a test, in life you are given a test and taught a lesson.

Have you ever wondered what the purpose of your life is? Common answers are “happiness,” financial success”, true ❤ or “satisfaction.” While these are all worthwhile goals, I say the purpose of your life is to face head on, every challenge, every test, as a chance for you to become the person you are meant to be. Life is a test for you to be and become your best and highest self.

When you face the tests of life, learn from them and grow with them, you become that person. The tests of life require you to call on the inner resources residing deep inside you.

In life you are given a test that teaches you a lesson and it turns out to be that everyday is a TEST. Every moment there is a new challenge, ( which is always an opportunity).

In my local language we say “ problem no dey finish”, which means there is always something else after this. We have to find our way in the world, and all along we face tests of physical illness, mental troubles, financial reversals, unfulfilled expectations, and loss.

Life is indeed a test of many things, our faith & faithlessness, our convictions & priorities, our endurance & patience, and in the very end, our ultimate desires.

The way of a true spiritual life actually begins where we are now in the mess of our lives.

We’ve lost touch with our souls. We’ve been nourishing our minds, our relational skills, our theological knowledge, our psychological well-being, our physiological health… but we’ve abandoned our souls. ‘Mike Yaconelli.’

The most powerful weapon on earth is a human soul that’s on fire! Ignite that spark by recognizing the lessons of all you had to go through to be where you are right now.

On the video below, i talked about how to recognize the tests so you don’t have to repeat the lessons in order to graduate to the best and highest version of YOU!


Get your Butt out of the way

Ever wondered why they say the “Truth is bitter”? Well, it is bitter because it is straightforward, direct, and doesn’t always feel or taste good. Just as certain kinds of food or drinks, maybe teas taste quite awful but are very good for your health. In fact, most medicines are usually bitter. See where I’m going with this ?

We have grown and outgrown so many things internally and externally as we evolve on this planet as a specie over the centuries but one thing that has been the same since the beginning of time is the bitter taste of the truth and why people dislike or find it difficult to identify it.

Tell yourself the truth. If you need to yell at yourself to get the message do it, if you need to scream or shout or cry. Do it. Just freaking do it. Get your butt( your buts) out of the way. Stop making excuses. Sitting on your butt, feeling sorry for yourself will not save or change your life and situation. You have to get up, face your shit and get out of your own way with your words and daily attitude.

You know why it’s important to get out of your way?

No one will save you. Unfortunately. It’s not anyone’s duty but yours, you have to master yourself and learn to not look outside of yourself otherwise you’ll keep being disappointed or worse distracted. Remember, tomorrow never comes plus everyone and everything is a distraction. You come first. Your priority is YOU. Yes YOU!. Your physical, mental and emotional health comes first. So in order to be a better person, irregardless of what you might have going on for you, You have to separate the beans from the shaft. Although, it may seem shaky at first, you have to keep moving. You are never alone. Keep trying. Your story may be the motivation someone out there needs. Don’t stop. You are more than capable and this is what you signed up for.

You must get out of your head and get your butt out of the way. This is how you become the highest and best version you can be.

Let’s get it fam!

The time is now!

Whether you’re aware or asleep, the time is now. Our planet has been split. A reset has occurred in the sky. Do you remember “As above so below”, well, it’s time to get ready for the “below” aka the reset, changes that will begin to happen on earth from all around the world.

A reset, is simply a do- over, more so start afresh. It is a Death and a rebirth at the same time. Think about it like rebooting your computer after a virus.

Everything that happens energetically/spiritually must happen physically as they are one and the same. The great reset, the rebirth, the beginning of a new dawn is here. Can you feel it in the air ? Jupiter and Saturn conjuncting at 0 degrees signifies a major restart button has been hit. People will begin to wake up, feeling different, stronger, fearless, joyful, carefree, collaborative,creative ,imaginative etc . On the dark side, a lot of people will be entering a new phase of a very long shadow work, self development and healing journey, government would do the extreme to hold their ground ( aka the old world ) which could lead to extremities, companies and industries coming together or crashing out of the blue, vaccines being made mandatory etc due to the vastness of the reset.

Everything is filtered through multi-layers. Like levels of coding for a game , the layers go deep. As you begin to become aware, you might get either really pissed or very very sad depending on your empathic battery life. No matter what level you are on spiritually, there are times where you feel like you’re the only one experiencing all that wisdom and downloads and knowledge, I assure you, you’re not the only one. There are many others out there who do not feel comfortable enough to share their truth, one way or the other we all go phases of awakening during our journey in this passage called life.

Would you rather wait till the next great conjunction or your next life to align with the truth of who and what you are ?

The world has begun its new regime. New air, new species, renewed vibration which I’m feeling to be distinctly different from what we’ve experienced the last decade. A woman is only pregnant for a period of time, eventually she delivers herself an offspring. Likewise, Mother Earth has been pregnant for quite some time now, going through hard labor, pains, and even malnutrition just as women have been ridiculed, Stepped on, trashed, maltreated and so on. They’ve been non- existent for a very long time in our 3D reality. Forgetting they are the reason we all exist. They are one in the same . Harmony is the answer.

We tend to forget the space we are currently holding is a feminine space. We are in the womb, the belly of the beast and the beast is ready to be out of the womb. As a divine feminine, I can feel it in the air already. The smell, the energy, the moods, the vibe..This is a very beautiful being we’re all consciously co-creating right now on the planet. It might take a minute to be very clear to the masses , however, the land must be cleansed for the baby to pop out. I.e We might be seeing many deaths, experiencing the extreme lows, maybe natural disasters, National drama and collective disagreements but that’s only to usher in the fruit of the womb, the new world, new type of leaders, creative and very innovative people teaming up,etc .. (Think of it as in “No pain no gain”.)

As I had written on my last post, The sky is falling, there are very serious wars going on in the sky, ships are clashing, fighting, collapsing, all on your behalf, the ancestors are doing what they do best, just as down below, authorities are being exposed, revealing the truths, on the bright side, this is enlightening the people, You are beginning to pay attention to your surroundings, your upbringings and your mindsets. Thing is, You have to decide where you belong. There or here ?, Nothing is predestined.Everything changes. This is the time to prepare and trust in nothing but yourself. The illusion is becoming very clear and the spell magicians are being exposed. When else will there be a better time for you to be your own magic?

The time is now. Embrace your demons as you embrace your angels. You’ll be needing them as one. Align with yourself as the stars and planets align for the greatest conjunction we’ve had in a very very longtime. Ignorance is the most expensive gift of mankind.

WAKE UP. THE TIME IS NOW

Your lifestyle is in your nature

Today the pursuit of money is almost directly linked to the pursuit of happiness, many will argue that money = happiness, just like I wrote about in my post The journey to happiness.

A lot of people sit on the sidelines of life, hoping that their dreams will come true one day, but nothing happens in life unless you take action. Your dream lifestyle isn’t going to magically show up at your doorstep. It requires that you design the life of your choosing, and then start moving in that direction. This is your life.

Time is our most valuable asset and it is something, that while on this earth, we should spend most wisely. You shouldn’t feel like you’re mindlessly wasting your life away. This generation is particularly in trouble because jobs are scarce and many people will be stuck doing jobs they hate just because they need money. Although this may be the right move for their careers now, this shouldn’t be something that one should do for the rest of our lives. it is best we search for something we are passionate about which you should then make into a lifestyle.

Lifestyle is all about the choices we make for ourselves and how we decide what really is important. What is your lifestyle?

Your lifestyle is what you make of it, your daily routine typically is your lifestyle. Spirituality is my lifestyle and I get to practice being present with myself, connecting with source energy everyday. EVERYDAY IS A NEW OPPORTUNITY TO MAKE YOUR DREAMS YOUR REALITY. Your choice what you do with it.

Occasionally, life can be undeniably, impossibly difficult. We are faced with challenges and events that can seem overwhelming, life-destroying to the point where it may be hard to decide whether to keep going. But you always have a choice. The power is always in your decision. You are light – shine bright

When you begin to upgrade your state of mind, your perception becomes your reality. Lifestyle design is the process of designing your life aligned with your nature, strengths, values, dreams, passion, and purpose. It’s the freedom to design your life the way YOU want. It’s a way to end the rat race and to help you attain true freedom. When you begin to become MINDFULL of what you SEE, listen to , watch or even read. Your attention automatically shifts into something that is present in your current reality. Hence self – development, self- awareness, lifestyle upgrade etc.

The same thinking responsible for creating amazing technology, products, and spaces can be used to create and build your career and your life, a life of fulfillment and joy, constantly creative and productive, one that always holds the possibility of surprise.

I’m a huge proponent of taking matters into your own hands, observing, communicating and listening to how your body feels, then customizing your lifestyle to honor your unique needs and desires. This approach has served me beautifully in my own healing and wellness journey. Hence why I write and teach about wellness and our self healing abilities.

In a nutshell, your lifestyle simply embodies the attempt on your part to design a life of your choosing,whatever that looks like, it’s your life, your creation. You have choices and with the growth of the web of your design, your choices have compounded exponentially. You control your life and what happens in it, once you understand that fully you give yourself room to grow, experiment and begin designing the life of your own, the life of your dreams.

Create your life according to your nature. Your life is YOUR ART. Design it to your taste.