Wake up, the sun is up!

You rise up everyday like the sun and die every night like the sun. You start everyday the same way, waking up. To continue from where you stopped yesterday. If you had unfinished tasks, a daily schedule, or you decide to do every new day, anyhow it comes, you’re still very much obligated to own the day. You are in charge, no matter what you do. If you get productive, that’s your choice, if not, that’s also your choice. This is because you “arose” again from death (sleep) over and over and over.. You die and rise again, isn’t that what a reincarnate is ? That should speak to how motherfucking powerful you are!. You do not wake up and rise up by accident. You chose to. You willed it into happening. That’s how grande you are, if I must say.

A lot of times, between waking up and going to sleep is a billion and one activities to accomplish, and this gets overwhelming. We feel exhausted before we begin the day. It becomes a battle to go through the day. And this goes on and on for a while. We have to snap out of it and take it one step a time. Not all battles are physical, some are mental and others emotional (spiritual). It is your responsibility to recognize what kind of battle you’re facing daily in order to defeat it. We often forget we have three parts to us. And these parts of us, do not have days off. As far as you’re alive, the three parts of you operates concurrently. Your physical body, mental body and emotional body. I wrote more about this in What is the Spirit, soul and body? .

Everyday is an opportunity to start afresh. You are not obligated to carry the issues of yesterday into today. That’s a choice you made. You can decide to start something entirely different from all you did a day before. That is the essence of THE SUN rising up everyday. Bringing vision, clarity, light for you to see all the opportunities you could create in a fresh perspective. All you have to do is, see it for what it is. Newness.

There are so many benefits you get spiritually, mentally and physically from the sunlight every new day. The sun heals, brings new ideas which enlightens you in all ways. No the sun doesn’t speak vocally but it does energetically. Close your eyes and listen. Ever notice some crystalline shiny things on your body while sun gazing or sun bathing ?. That is information. Powerful information sent down from the ultraviolet rays of the sun. Multidimensional information passing through this massive gateway called the sun. The sun brings about excitement, agility, expression, freedom. It is your decision however you chose to benefit from it. But remember, it rises again from the dead every single day FOR YOU.

Practice exercising under the sun, meditating at sunrise or sunset, practice yoga, acupressure, qigong, dancing etc. These are a few ways to tap into this energetic source to unblock your chakras, energize and refresh your energy daily but these only work with pure intentions. You cannot benefit without having pure and good intentions. This is why there’s an old saying that goes. “ Nothing is hidden under the sun”. If you’re an artist , a spiritual teacher, medium, card reader, astrologer etc. These are practices you might want to add to your daily routine to maximize your potential.

Wake up, the sun is up and Shine bright like those little crystals you see on your skin when you sun bath or shine as the crystals or stars up in the sky at night. Do not waste your daily shine on people, places, things or thought processes that do not elevate you.

Tomorrow I launch my first book titled SEX CONSCIOUSNESS. Which speaks more about the magical or scientific benefits of the energies that are within us and surrounds us including the sun. It is life changing esoteric knowledge you don’t want to miss out on at this point in life. Especially with all the misleading information out there on the internet about who we truly are.

Check out BARISITY BOOKSTORE for our notebooks that can be used as journals, project planners, birthday notebook gift etc. Write your affirmations, dreams, plans and get productive with your life. Wake up! And take charge of your life. After all, your life is the only property you own.

You are your surroundings

What you allow around you defines YOU. If you are trying to define or understand yourself a little bit more, one of the first things to OBSERVE is your environment. Your surroundings are simply the people, places and things that you have around. Where you live, how your environment is arranged or dis-arranged, the objects around you, the vibe of the location, frequency of the music, the people that you communicate with either offline or online affect what you think . And what you think eventually makes your reality.

Your entire body is a hologram. Your face, hands, feet etc are different parts that make the entire system and what all these senses and organs do is to collect and dispose information. These information come from the surroundings. For instance, the African wavy natural hair is an organ that receives and sends out information (uploads or downloads data )from the source code i.e. your truest or highest self. It also saves and stores information, emotions etc. This is why when some people going through a transformational phase tend to shave their hair, lock their hair, dye their hair etc. Breaking this down further, everything that surrounds you is basically information . Whether it comes in form of food, air, friend, family, media, objects etc., it doesn’t matter. We as they say are a product of our environment.

The more aware you become, the more open your energetic gateways (chakras or portals or pathways) becomes and this allows you filter in, the appropriate and required information needed for your whole body ( i.e your 3 bodies : physical, mental and spiritual bodies). You choose to allow whoever and whatever around you at all times and this determines what you become.

I hear people say it is unwise to say that ‘everything we do in our lives is a choice’. But if we genuinely think about it, no strings attached, you will realize that it is indeed true. Our choices define what we are capable of. What we surround ourselves with determines who we are.

Your environment is not only the physical location you see with your external Sense of Sight ( i.e the eyes”). By definition, your environment is the surroundings or conditions in which a person, animal, or plant lives or operates. Another key word here is : “CONDITIONS”. The conditions or temperatures ( Esoterically temperatures here would be frequency and vibrations, high or low, happy or unhappy, positive or negative) This can be broken down in several layers in terms of depth when trying to inner-stand how the science of our environment ( which is simply the body ) affects the internal machine.

Your environment starts with the exernal part of you. Your body!. Then, it spreads out to people, places and things. This also relates to the fact that everything outside of your physical body is simply an extension of you and that it means it is your individual responsibility to be the caretaker of your environment. Both your body and the Environment and/or conditions around you.

Most of us had parents or guardians while we were younger who warned us about our friends. They wanted us to be very careful with whom we associate with, because they knew it had significant influence in our behaviors. Our choices then as kids or teenagers were simply based on how we felt because our brains were still developing, which means we could not logically ingest why but as we grew older we saw things for what they were and not only what they felt like. So making a choice now stems from logic and intuition.

In this day and age of Information, we come across so much data daily. Filtering these information is very necessary. Filter your system. Filter your organs, Filter your friends, Filter your music, Filter your habits and this is how you become a better person. When you filter your environment, You become even more powerful as a being because you see you had the power to make choices and you subconsciously gave it away because you didn’t pay attention to your environment or your body. See How to live your best life

7 signs you are entering the 5th dimension

We are all going through a very deep and powerful spiritual metamorphosis individually, and collectively as the human species. I believe there is a reason behind everything that occurs. As your consciousness rapidly ascends towards the fifth dimension, it can feel like you are catching the best waves as you surf the Cosmic Gateway. New information is pouring into your awareness, that will guide you into new states of joy, peace, and fulfillment.

One could say this shift is like a massive update to your entire operating system. It’s like upgrading from Human Consciousness 3.0 to Galactic Consciousness 12.0. At this point, you can tell something has changed but you can’t quite put your finger on it. Dimensions are not places or locations, but levels of consciousness that vibrate at a certain rate. The higher we vibrate, the more dimensions we consciously experience.

When we are ready to move beyond the 3rd dimension, we must go through the 4th dimension before we can enter the 5th.  The 4th acts much like a purifying filter, for it is the realm of the heart that is filled with love, oneness, and lightness. 

The 5th dimension is even lighter in frequency, having a more pure love, cosmic consciousness and a true multi-dimensional reality. The fifth dimension is beyond that which is known to man. It is a dimension as vast as space and as timeless as infinity. It is the middle ground between light and shadow, between science and superstition.

We will be inside this photon belt of energy for the next 2000 years, causing a massive shift in consciousness for the entire humanity. Everyone on our planet will be shifting from 3D consciousness into a 5th Dimensional enlightened reality.

The shift will be bringing humanity into the Aquarian age of being one unified harmonious world working together in peace. It will occur as a very slow digestible rate that is easy to assimilate and integrate true mastery over our minds, and our lives.

If you are willing to remain in TRUST, LOVE, and SURRENDER to your HIGHEST SELF you will naturally ascend and open yourself up to experiencing the 5th Dimensional consciousness with joy and effortless ease.

Awakening to 5D begins with understanding that the Universal body is an extension of your physical body because there is only one consciousness that permeates everything and you are that! We are that, and that is all there is.

This is a VERY special time to be alive on the planet!

I believe this alignment is responsible for creating this shift into 5D consciousness and will initiate a very special mass global spiritual enlightening process in which we all incarnated to experience at this time.

We all need to break through our deeply misguided programming which we received growing up that was deeply misinformed about these higher truths. We need to drop our old preconceptions about reality and the limitations of who we believe we are in order to make the leap into 5D. We need to learn how to Quiet our Mind, keep our heart open (all the time) and remain relaxed and grounded in the Source of our innermost presence.

To shift our stubborn old egos into 5D consciousness, I find it is essential every day to allow yourself to access feelings of humility, vulnerability, and the state of absolute nothingness.  It helps to open your mind and imagine just how massive space is out there in the Universe and how the energy of our own galaxy functions.

We are all in the COVID lockdown cooker for much higher dimensional reasons than what they’re telling you on TV. The 8 billion souls on earth are having to face, purge and process out all their lower energetic frequencies such as fear, anxiety, worry, and mistrust. Just like the caterpillar must eat his own feces to obtain the proper nutrients to grow his wings, we are all in this mass cocoon together growing our 5D wings!

On any spiritual path, I find it is deeply important to learn how to use everything you can for your awakening. Shifting into 5D consciousness is not a comfortable experience. It’s like we are taking off an old worn-out pair of shoes that are 3 sizes too small! Yet once we get them off, we are going to feel soooooo much better!!

The trick to an easier shift into 5D is remembering as often as possible that the Universe you see outside you, is merely reflecting the Universe that is within you. You can change your thinking, open up your perspective, expand your paradigm on reality. Shift your inner world and the outer world will follow.

Below are the 7 signs you are entering the 5d reality

#1 Daily life will be bubbling frequently with sensations of gratitude, joy, lightness, love, and wonder.

The 4th and 5th dimensions are like receiving a major upgrade in your operating software and DNA hardware.  It’s as if your mind-body will be offered to work inside the newest fastest computer that operates smoothly at the speed of light!  It will help if you reboot it (meditate, exercise and go raw/vegetarian diet) which will make your body and mind much more stable, expansive, have a sharp creative mind, clear memory, and make your overall life much easier to operate.

During this upgrade from 3D to 4D you will experience random feelings of deep inner peace, and thoughts about letting go of everything in your life.   When you wake up in the morning it will be easier to stop dwelling on any harsh “3D issues” such as money, lacking love, debt, schedules, ill health, not having enough time, or stress from having too many things to do.

In 5D Consciousness it is not possible to live in fear.  When your karma (energetic subconscious patterns) comes up to be processed and released, you will feel this and naturally something deep inside you will just relax and let it go.  There is a deeper trust, sensitivity, and ability to feel the old pattern your body is holding onto. Do not over-identify with it.  Just know who you are cannot be limited or labeled any quantified experience.

You will know that you’re entering the 4D or 5th Dimensional realm because you’ll feel very spacious and light.  You’ll sense this open trusting effortless flow of life in each moment.  A real feeling of wonder and excitement will be inside you about your life, as this natural lightness will help you to greet new opportunities with real love and gratitude each moment.

As you explore this transition from 3D to the 5th Dimension, it’s best to deeply love and accept yourself as you are.  Practice welcoming whatever experience arises with an open mind and then let it go!  Get to know yourself as a spiritual being, who is limitless, all-powerful, and deeply connected to the Source of All that is.

#2 Heavy negative issues you’re carrying will release easier and move through you more quickly.

Everyone is here to do their work of learning the lessons their soul came here to learn.  You too will be learning how to let go, drop your negativity, smallness, powerlessness, incompetency, and poverty consciousness.  You will be releasing all the old heavy baggage you’ve been carrying for lifetimes!  This is the only way you can enter into this higher vibrational 4D and 5D levels that are full of trust, lightness, laughter, and love.

Any old memory that your body is holding onto that is not full of the highest frequency will come up for you to feel, review, and re-experience. Your job is to use that information as a springboard to take you deeper inside, into the core of your being where you can merge with it, melt into it, and transform it.  Entering 5D is all about true alchemy. 

Instead of it taking months or years in psychotherapy for your karma to dissolve it will take minutes or even seconds! It’s like the Universe will be turning up the velocity on your inner juicer and turning your dense heavy substances (thought feelings) removing the pulp, keeping the essential nutrients, and giving you a more enlightened experience of life that feels like liquid light!

#3  You will physically experience the world as being more beautiful with your senses.

The colors of the world will look brighter, stronger, and have more pizzazz to them. You will see a wider spectrum of light and frequency that may even appear like sparkly rainbow ‘hippie’ colors. When you’re more emotional the colors will become even more beautiful and have a ‘happy’ vibration to them. The most simple raw fruits and vegetables will have an exquisite healing taste, and your sense of smell can become extremely heightened! You may smell what your neighbor is cooking all the way down the street!

You will be able to hear the divine song of creation, the music of the spheres, the eternal OM, and the sound of silence.  You can attune your listening to an orchestra of light that is constantly playing in the background, bringing tears of joy to your heart. You’ll feel and know you are communicating with the 5th-dimensional beings who are tuned into you by a deep interconnected feeling in the chest, heart, and belly. 

As every being on the entire planet receives their upgrade, it’ll become easier and easier to hear the messages from 5th-dimensional beings, yet the real work will be in integrating what they are saying and how to apply it to your life. It’s like a 3rd grader entering the classroom of a physics mastery program and trying to remember and relate the pertinent information to his world.

Many people will be able to hear these higher dimensional messages long before they will see them. In 5D, your mind is mainly quiet and at ease, so you won’t doubt that you are receiving a “download” from them. The higher the frequency of the subject that you want to talk about with them, the easier it is for them to hear, understand and notice that you’re speaking to them.

Seeing 5D intergalactic beings will become an accepted occurrence in society. For you to see all the 5D beings around you depends on your belief system and your ability to transcend the layers of limiting thoughts that restrict your consciousness from experiencing the seemingly impossible.

#4 Time will feel fluid, eternal, and illusory.

You will move like water from one life experience to the next. There will be no judgment or negative feelings about how or why things are done the way they are done. You will realize that you are not the doer and that a higher power doing life through you.

The same number of events may happen on a normal day, yet there will a much deeper richer and more juicy experience of each one. Life will be full of lightness and a love for being alive that it creates a timeless sensation of your life.

What seems like 2 weeks in the 3rd Dimension, can seem like a month in the 5th Dimension. The normal string of events in a day may not seem to happen in order or a “straight line”.  You may experience them randomly or move instantly from point A to point H or Z in seconds. 

The 3D view of time will seem pointless and like kindergarten consciousness as you’ll understand that there is no end to this life.  You’ll know you are an eternal being who cannot die and is all-powerful.  You’ll intimately know that when this body dies, you will continue to live on and on forever.  You will know this without any doubt.  If you meditate deeply on your essence, you can even come to know the time and place of your physical death.

#5 You’ll constantly have unexplainable synchronistic experiences and “miraculous” manifestations will happen regularly. 

Amazing synchronicities will be an everyday occurrence. The Universe will be speaking to you constantly, giving you “signs” on where to go and what to do.  It will feel like you are on a miraculous journey through a magical world and anything is possible!

What you took for granted as scientific rational laws of this Universe that absolutely cannot be broken will be constantly shattered and removed.  Whatever you once thought was impossible to happen, will and can manifest right before your very eyes.

For example, you may be chatting on the phone with a friend and ask them some random question that they cannot answer. When you hang up the next song you hear on the radio will contain the words that instantly answer your question for you.  Sometimes the answer will come first before the question comes, or they can even show up at the exact same time!

 When your third eye is fully open, you will start to see through this 3D dimension and into the 4th and 5th layers. This means you may start seeing lights, portals or layers of energy in the sky or perhaps right across your kitchen table.  As the veil between dimensions gets thinner you will see more and more of what is really around you.

You may start seeing extraterrestrial beings, UFO ships, or bizarre things that are here already here, yet just hidden from normal people’s eyes on the other dimension (as if they were once cloaked).  It is nothing to be concerned about as the energy at this point on the planet is already so high, that the darker beings cannot handle the vibration. 

When humanity opens up to 5D Consciousness, we will all be informed that we are all intimately part of an Intergalactic Community, and are taken care of (the genetic offspring) of the most highly evolved spiritually enlightened loving beings you can imagine. When you meet people who are living in the 5th as well, can bring up such a deep happiness inside they could bring tears of joy to your eyes.

Science and spirituality will truly become one and you will have full and total understanding of how it all works as you will be merged with the oneness of all things.  By practicing listening to your guides on the higher realms, you’ll be able to know anything about anyone at any time. 

Any question someone asks you, you can access the Akashic Record and immediately have the answer to.  You may be able to foresee how certain events will unfold in the future, yet not always be able to predict the exact future events as this would not be in alignment with the highest mystery and joy of life, making life truly a wondrous adventure to explore!  So you bow down and respect the mystery of life, knowing it will all be totally perfect exactly as it unfolds for you.

#6 You will know and feel divinely guided by something higher than your own mind/imagination

As your mind begins to quiet, you will be able to hear your guidance from the other dimensions.  This may be from angelic guides, spirit guides, past ancestors, or beings on a higher plane showing you the way home.  As you tune into this, you will soon realize that you have many beings in higher dimensions that are around you helping you all the time.  Whoever you connect with you will feel extremely supported, safe, secure as the frequency on the planet will be so high that no lower dark energies will be able to survive here.  You will be able to trust 100% in the connect and experiences you have.

These beings will be seen with your 3rd eye, in your mind’s eye in the beginning for most people.  There are always exceptions to every rule, yet if you wish to, you can start opening up your 3rd eye to see what is really here.  Simply spend the majority of your time focusing your attention (visualizing) a bright golden light that is lit up in the back of your head. 

If you wish to hear more clearly what these beings are saying, you can ask them to assist you in another mini-upgrade and learn how to tune into them like you were a radio station finding where your favorite tunes.

#7 You can access the miraculous powers of your true multi-dimensional body

Because time and space are illusions, and all matter is energy and consciousness, and you are made of the same stuff as everything around you, you’ll be able to manifest the most amazing things with your mind.

With much surrender, patience and practice, you will realize you are God and be able to explore the hidden psychic inside you. This means anything you can imagine you can manifest in the physical 3D world, including things with your new upgraded body. 

Advanced beings will assist you and even help you to time travel with your body to other worlds and dimensions.  You will enter into the sphere of your existence which means that you’ll be able to jump into any event in your life, past or future instantly and experience whatever it is you wish to experience. 

You will realize that you’re an intimate part of an intergalactic community and there are beings who are a million years more advanced than our civilization who have been here for the past 400,000 years watching our every move.  You will feel embraced by this new family and know where your true roots are.

We all want to enjoy our time here to the maximum.  During this time of increasing energy and vibration on the planet, we must keep a high frequency level if we are to fully explore this world in the most enlightening and enjoyable way.  To be able to do this, we must travel deeply inside ourselves, and rest in the silent source that is at the core of who we truly are. We must be willing to relax, let go of all your old comfortable habits, and drop into the “unknown zone”. 

The most healing feelings in the Universe are found within you.  The inner spiritual journey is the greatest journey any being can take in their lifetime.  You are privileged to be here and you have the time and energy to explore this. Transform and move your energy into any dimension you want. That’s what you designed for.

Fear of abandonment


Let’s talk about this very common fear in our society and it’s different attachment styles. The fear of abandonment is a form of anxiety about losing your loved ones. It is quite common with people who have lost a loved one. So this results into making you feel like the people in your life will disappear if you don’t put all of your efforts into relationships or you might run away from every relationship because you’re afraid of getting your heart broken. Either way, you might have a fear of abandonment.

This fear doesn’t just make a home in your chest overnight. It’s linked to the different experiences you have had with people over the years. You may feel this enormous fear because of a childhood experience or because of an abusive ex-lover.


Abandonment issues also happen when a parent does not provide the child with consistent warm or attentive interactions, leaving them feeling chronic stress and fear. Naturally children are expressive and they need love. Our body holds memory and life is like a repetitive circle. The experiences that happen during a child’s development will often continue into adulthood. This is why abandonment issues become more prevalent as you get older and can affect your relationships.

Abandonment fear could also stem from childhood loss. This loss could be related to a traumatic event, such as the loss of a parent through death, separation or divorce. It can also come from not getting enough physical or emotional care. These early childhood experiences can lead to a fear of being abandoned by others later in life.

How can the fear of abandonment be avoided?

Only the constant presence of parents or guardians in childhood, with affection and attention, can bring the security that the child needs. This way they feel that their survival will be guaranteed and they do not need to be afraid.

In the case of the child who has had conflicts in school and the unsafe partner in the adult relationship, they are both acting unconsciously as a way of drawing the attention of the mother or partner. Calling attention to yourself is an unconscious way of feeling secure.

The child begins to create mechanisms to raise the attention of parents from a very young age. When their brain realizes that their behavior is successful, that it works to gain attention, it becomes automatic so they feel safe and protected. In adult life, the same thing happens: if the fear of abandonment makes your partner try to give you more security, the insecure uses this fear as a way to gain more attention.

Types of Abandonment Issues

Abandonment issues can present themselves in three insecure attachment styles. These are: 

Avoidant Attachment Style

People who follow this style don’t allow anyone to get close to them. You may feel like you can’t open up or trust others, making you appear distant, private, or withdrawn. 

Anxious Attachment Style

People with this type of attachment style cope by developing intensely close and dependent relationships with others. You may feel anxious about separating yourself from your partner and tend to be emotionally reactive. It may be easy to see conflicts as a concern that your partner may leave, which makes you act out of fear. 

Disorganized Attachment Style

People with this attachment style have difficulty remaining intimate and close but can also be inconsistent. You may feel anxious about being in a relationship or want to avoid the closeness. This attachment style may come with other potential disorders. 

Signs you are suffering from fear of abandonment

1. You give too much in relationships

Due to your fear of abandonment, if you choose to start a relationship with someone, you go all in.

You do whatever it takes to please this person and to make them happy.

This goes to the extent of forgetting about your own wants and needs, because theirs are more important to you.

However, forgetting about your own boundaries in the name of a relationship is a clear sign you have a fear of abandonment.

You give too much and receive too little.

Relationships require work from both sides.

If he doesn’t deem all your efforts to be loving and caring acts, then it’s his fault, not yours. You don’t deserve to be in a one-sided relationship.

2. You push people away to avoid rejection

Another sign of your fear of abandonment is if you choose to avoid relationships altogether.

You push people away and don’t let them see your vulnerable side all because you’re scared you’ll get attached to them.

What happens when you get attached? You give them the possibility of hurting you.

You fear rejection because it is a direct blow to your self-esteem. It literally activates your anxiety and fear of abandonment.

That’s why it’s easier to stay away from people than to give them the possibility of hurting you.

3. You are very codependent

A very obvious sign of a fear of abandonment is when you have mostly been involved in codependent relationships.

You thrive on the fact that a person makes you feel needed, even if it’s anything but healthy.

You want to be helpful in every single way possible and they exploit that.

Your previous partners might have seen that they could take advantage of your fear of abandonment and they treated you whatever way they pleased, because they knew you wouldn’t leave.

4. You feel insecure in yourself and with your partner

As said previously, a fear of abandonment is a form of anxiety and it brings a lot of insecurities into your life.

Your fear is the main reason behind the fact that you feel extremely insecure in yourself.

You’re always looking in the mirror and nitpicking all the reasons why you deserve to be heartbroken.

This also transfers into a romantic relationship because if you don’t love yourself right then you can’t love your partner right.

You’re always questioning when he’ll leave you and you see every small fight as the end.

When he’s mad at you for whatever reason, you see that as a sign that he’ll leave you immediately, even if it’s not true.

5. You persist with unhealthy relationships

If you have a fear of abandonment then you should be able to spot it in the number of unhealthy relationships in your life.

Whether it is romantic relationships, friendships, or very unhealthy family links, you always end up as the victim.

This is because you sabotage connections by either being extremely emotionally unavailable or being very clingy.

If the other party is the one who is toxic toward you, you might not even realize it out of the fear that you might get your feelings hurt.

So you end up staying in that relationship as you can’t help it.

6. You’re very clingy

Because of your insecurities and your fear of abandonment, you can also be extremely clingy. What does this involve?

Besides always wanting to be physically around your partner, you’re also always texting and calling him.

If you do get a moment away from your partner, you get extremely anxious and you don’t even realize you’re being clingy.

Your fears and anxieties are valid, but you need to realize that no one is going to leave you permanently just because they have gone out with their friends for the night.

7. You’re jealous

Another very clear sign of a fear of abandonment is when you yourself are an extremely jealous person.

You fear that your partner will find someone better than you and leave you for them.

You see every other woman as a threat.

This leads to very uncomfortable conversations with your partner, where you’re always asking him about the women in his life, even if it’s just co-workers.

A little bit of jealousy can be adorable at times, but when it becomes a symptom of your fear of abandonment, it’s not that cute anymore.

8. You’re in a state of constant anxiety

When you think of your partner, your first instinct isn’t to feel happiness, but rather anxiety.

Your smile fades whenever you think of him and you feel your stomach make a flip.

All of this because you think about all the bad things that could happen in your relationship that may lead to a breakup.

Your first thought might even be the last time you did something wrong in your relationship and he got mad.

This anxiety doesn’t leave you. It gets less obvious when you’re right next to him, but it never truly disappears.

9. You feel unworthy of love

Your insecurities, your clinginess, everything comes from a deeply-rooted fear of abandonment. Just like the fact that you feel unworthy of love.

You feel like no one will ever be able to love you. Even if they say they do, you take that with a grain of salt.

Long-Term Effects of Abandonment Issues

A person who has experienced abandonment may be more likely to have long-term mental health issues. These are often based on the fear that abandonment will recur. A child who was abandoned by a parent or guardian may have mood swings or anger issues. These behaviors become an automated lifestyle that can alienate potential intimate partners and friends. A child’s self-esteem can also be affected by lack of parental support, love or care.

Abandonment fears can impair a person’s ability to trust others. They may make it harder for a person to feel worthy or be intimate. These fears could make a person prone to anxiety, depression, codependence, or other issues. Someone who lacks self-esteem due to childhood abandonment may seek relationships that reinforce their beliefs because that’s the language they understand.

Maintain a positive mind is a way to treat this fear


To overcome this fear, you need to do the following:

  • Maintain a positive attitude and mindset
  • Learn about yourself
  • Understand the people around you
  • Practice the habit of forgiveness
  • Say what you feel (Be clear in your communication with anyone including your partner)

When it comes to relationships, usually the detachment in relationships happens because of some concern that a person is feeling and that their thinking cannot be in focus. The greater the degree of understanding and companionship to overcome this problem, the greater the chances of living healthy relationships, which are based on affection and not on lack or fear of losing. When you are aware of the feelings you both experience, you are most likely to live in peace and harmony.